whenever he gets home,he just relaxed a bit then go to his laptop and watch sexy pics and it sames he does it all the time,im afraid to argue with him i dont like troubles,
2007-09-20 18:54:18 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You will never know for sure.
2007-09-20 19:03:34 · answer #1 · answered by boyplakwatsa.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Ruth I,
Why in the world would you stand for such behavior? Do you two have a good sexual relationship? How long has he been doing this? If your mate's behavior; or if he does or acts in a way you disapprove up, then you have every right to bring it to their attention. Other wise all that will happen is you will end up with a growing hate for this person.
It doesn't make sense to me. If you are being silent about what bothers you about what he is doing, then how can he possibly know? Husband's can't read our minds. Tacky? Yes it is. The least he could do is wait until you have bedded down for the night. He apparently finds more satisfaction from the laptop than he does you. Have you tried to give him a LAP DANCE? You would be surprised how much he would enjoy that.
You have got to keep your spouse interested. Why do you think so many of them stray outside the marriage? A lot of women tend to stop taking care of themselves. No make-up, bad hairdo, ETC.
Try dressing up a bit for him when he is do to come home!! Peak his interest. If he shows no response, at least you gave it a try. Silence doesn't solve anything. Start up a conversation before he heads for the laptop. He obviously needs a distraction. You need to speak up about this problem. Otherwise you will start holding resentment towards him which can lead to hate. Then what?
If none of this works, I highly suggest marriage counseling.
Hope this has been helpful for you.
Take Care,
Sincerely,
Marseille
2007-09-20 19:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by marseillelangres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no sure fire answer, but here are some clues:
1) He cannot account for where he has been (though if he is clever, he will come up with some kock and bull story).
2) He spends hours to do simple things (e.g. 3 hours to "buy groceries", 2 hrs to fill up the gas tank, etc.)-- in reality, he's not doing those things.
3) He shows a certain coolness towards you that he hasn't shown you before.
4) He buys flowers, eats out at restaurants and buys gifts that you never see (clothes, jewelry). Credit card receipts can be a dead give away.
5) Friends who know both of you look uneasy or look at you with pity. If a friend tells you he's cheating, protect your friend and don't tell him who told you. And do not assume the friend is a liar (remember denial isn't a river in Africa).
Don't ask him point blank if he is cheating. Nearly every cheater will look at you in the eye and deny it. Good luck.
2007-09-20 19:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My hubby does the same thing. Something all these sexy pics aroused him and make destress after a hard day at work but that doesn't mean he's cheating on you. Unless, maybe when he got back home, he's on the laptop chatting online, then maybe you could say that. Its best that you talked to him but do not mock at him. Husband and wife supposed to be bestfriend, talk to him like a friend but as a wife. I'm sure, once he felt comfortable talking to you then he'll open up so much things that I'm sure you'll be surprised. I've tried this to my hubby and it works. Good luck!!
2007-09-20 19:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bubbly_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people, not just men, need a little extra attention. We like knowing we are attractie and when we have a signifcant other, it doesn't work for us anymore to know that one person is interested. He may be on the computer flirting online to get reassertion that he "still has it." But he may just be looking at pictures and that is surely a normal male thing. Men are more physicall visual than women. So, even if he is satisfied with you at home, he may have a need to see other women. And that is nothing against you, nor does it mean youa re doing anything wrong. It simply means your man is a man that looks at women in the internet.
2007-09-20 19:02:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sully 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's checking out porn, chances are he's at least cheating on you with his hand. Outside of following him constantly, you can't know, but i don't know many men who come home from being out or cheating for that matter, and check out hotties on their computer, or watch porn, secondly, screw his brains out and give him a reason to come home, and if he's not worth all that, then why the hell are you married to him. I'm not telling you to turn into a sex slave, and if he's a butthead, i'm definitely not telling you to do that, but, if you're married, and love him, and all that, there's another way, ask him. Insofar as anyone on here that's going to say the whole battle of the sexes thing, or men are stupid, or anything like that, if you look, men are no different than women. Most women I know, and believe me, I know alot, I work in a very social industry, are just as quick to cheat as the men I know. So, hey, just ask him. Unless you stand up for yourself you're never going to get anywhere, you can't be afraid of troubles, you're always going to have them. ON top of that, any situation or problem you have in life you don't have to worry yourself over, they all will get solved and life will go on, you may not like the answer, but, hey, at least, in the end, you know you're always going to get one.
2007-09-20 19:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by limesalt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he's happy and satisfied in bed. Be his sex kitten. When Paul Newman was asked why he didn't cheat on his wife for 50 years, he replied, "why would I go out for a hamburger when I can have steak at home?" If you're great in bed, you're husband will have no reason to cheat. In fact, he will be afraid to because he will worry about losing you. A study showed that men marry because its too much trouble to find new sex partners. Don't disappoint in this regard!
2007-09-20 18:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by abdiver12 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, men... they tend to need constant stimulation. They'll say otherwise, but being with my guy, and having had tons of guy friends in the past... it's true. They just like looking at stuff like that.
It's annoying as a wife/girlfriend, and you have a right to say that you don't like it and ask for him to not do it... but think about this.
Whenever I search the browser history and see that my husbands been on questionable sites, for a moment I'm irritated, but then I think about the fact that he's usually always home, unless he's at work, hardly ever goes out and I think about our healthy sexual relationship.
Bottom line: as long as he isn't giving you a reason to think he's emotionally/physically cheating (like staying out all night or getting strange texts or calls, or emails... stuff like that) then just be glad he's only looking at pics. It could be so much worse.
2007-09-20 19:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he was cheating, he would be 'working late' or go on fishing trip with the 'boys'. Show interest in his past time activities, sexy movies are not in the same league as a warm pationate sexy wife!
2007-09-20 19:02:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, when he gets home, after he relaxes for a bit, do something to turn him on to you, ask him to follow you to the room or take a shower with you or something. If he turns you down, and still goes and looks at that crap, then I would be a little worried.
2007-09-20 18:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't ever know for sure. You just have to trust him. If him looking at sexy pics bothers you, tell him, but also keep in mind that pictures are better than actual other women.
2007-09-20 18:58:52 · answer #11 · answered by Jenna 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋