2007-09-20 18:32:54 · 24 answers · asked by electrablue55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have heard it said that everything we walk through in our lives, we had at some point earlier, chosen to do so. After viewing you profile, 360, comments, blogs, testimonies etc... I would say that you are getting a divorce because that is what you chose. You got to your situation by a series of decisions. No different then anyone else. I too am divorcing even though it has made me the second (seeing you are sadder than anything) saddest thing. I am doing it because I was unhappy. I know sound like a contradiction. But what I had was not a marriage. If it had been I would have been elated, so I guess in my case the sadness is because there is/was no marriage, which is technically the same as getting divorced. In other words, getting the divorce hasn't really changed anything for me. My situation is just the same now as it was a year ago. And the same as the year before that. And the year before that. I am so sorry about your sadness. And you seemed so jubilant about moving on in so many postings for quite some time now. And you certainly don't appear to be lacking female attention. I once got a email about hope. Something to do with candles. Best of luck to you, I pray that what is truly precious to you, is God's will for you also. He always finds a way to gives us what he wants us to have.
2007-09-21 23:51:35 · answer #1 · answered by Alley Cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a form of suicide.
It is a permanent solution to temporary problems.
Unless you are in an abusive relationship, divorce should be the absolutely last thing to cross your mind.
Every marriage has hard times. Mine is no exception. But if you and your spouse remember your promise to stay together through good times and bad (for better or for worse), and work to make your marriage stronger and build common ground then you will get past the hard times and live and love the good times together!
There's a reason you married the person you did, don't forget it. Most people divorce over money...if your fighting over money, then get some financial advice and help, then get marriage counseling.
We all make mistakes, sometimes HUGE mistakes. Forgive, get help to fix the problem, and decide to conscious decision to trust your spouse and build common ground.
Bottom Line is divorce is a form of suicide, except for actual abuse, all other problems can be overcome and all marriages are not only salvageable, but all have the potential to be happy, healthy and rewarding relationships again.
Semper Gumby (Always Flexible)
2007-09-21 02:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Greenman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think sometimes it's much worse if a couple who absolutely hates each other to try and work things out. The only choice is divorce...
Think for a minute, if you were in a bad relationship and the only way out was divorce would you try to work things out and be sad or would you just move on and be sad? Then again not every person who gets a divorce is sad. Like i said sometimes divorce is a good (bad) thing.
2007-09-21 01:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to a friend who was divorced once it was too painful. Physically, mentally and emotionally draining, but sometimes people do it so as not to make matters worse. They say it's better to get divorce while you're still in love, at least there is still some part to start a friendship. Specially when there are some children involved with the arrangements and everything it's better to do it in a conducive manner.
2007-09-21 01:43:28 · answer #4 · answered by Myla O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over 1/2 of all marriages end in divorce. Think about it. We marry the wrong person and miserable. Life is too short. Many people "change" when they marry and take that special person for granted and don't work at like before!!
2007-09-21 01:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the pain of it only lasts for a little while, and I think part of the pain is just the reality of something truly ending in your life, like death, I guess. But you will get through it and be happier than you are probably imagining you could be after its all said and done.
2007-09-21 01:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think a divorce is mutual so I think it means that you mutually could not get along. The best thing to do would be divorce so that you both could be happy again.
2007-09-21 01:41:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course you are going to be sad, you married that person for a reason and now everything you plan for and worked on is gone. You have to realize that in time, it would hurt worse to be with that person then without. In time you heal and are ready to move on and can find yourself to be happier in a new relationship or way of life.
2007-09-21 01:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by Lexie J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When one has many hopes and dreams and they go up in smoke, one can't help but be a tad sad. I would hope that one really takes there time for a new relationship...Especially if children are involved.
2007-09-21 01:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why would you stay married if your going to be unhappy for as long as you both shall live when you can get divorced, be sad for a little while then move on to greener pastures?
2007-09-21 01:43:04 · answer #10 · answered by Ladybug355 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋