I'm 21, I'm not marry but I do think about it that is for sure. Seriously, what is one thing you can tell me about marriage? It could be anything good/bad. Thank you.
2007-09-20 18:25:11 · 11 answers · asked by Water 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage really is hard and only those who really make an effort stay together. Make sure you love the person, and will love them for the rest of your life before you marry them. And always be honest and open. Communication is key. Never go to bed fighting, always kiss your spouse goodnight, even if it's on the cheek.
Real love can last forever, you just have to realize that it's worth working for. Nothing worth anything in this world ever comes easily.
2007-09-20 18:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by shellj_foxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you marry, you and your spouse become a team. Each of you has a role on that team....you two define the roles and decide who does what. Oh, and the roles change periodically. No big deal.
The bottom line is you two must work together - you cover each other's "Sixes" and keep each other strong, healthy, safe and growing. When times get hard (and they will !!!!) you have to both work to make things better. "For better or for worse" means that unless it is an abusive situation, you work to get past the hard times and you work to make the good times last. Marriage takes a boat-load of work, but the reward is spectacular!
Nowhere does it say you two have to agree about everything, as long as you can agree to disagree and accommodate each other. Find common ground and work to make it a larger plot of real estate everyday and eventually the common ground is larger than the differences.
Remember, the two of you are both complete people in your own right (don't use terms like "my other half"), but you probably compliment each other. In marriage counseling the illustration is two overlapping circles - with the overlap being your common ground.
Finally this: unless you are in an abusive situation, there is much to be said for "staying together for the kids." They may be your only common ground at times, but if you stick it out and work to make the person you swore to spend the rest of your life with your best friend, then eventually you, your spouse and your children will be better off.
Anyone who reads my answers knows I am not a religious person, but I believe in families and believe our society is strengthened when families stay together and is harmed when people divorce at the first sign of trouble in a marriage. Divorce is a form of suicide; a permanent solution to temporary problems.
Semper Gumby
2007-09-21 01:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by Greenman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
True love is first a feeling, and then a decision.
It starts with that lovely feeling of really being with "THE ONE". If you get married at this stage you may fail, because the golden glow may fade.
But when you are BOTH truly ready, you BOTH make the DECISION to be with this other person, as the marriage vows say "For better for worse, in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health, until death do us part".
Its not always easy, and anyone who tells you it will be is lying. There will be times when your irritated, disappointed, angry, and there may even be times when you feel its all too much. But if you honor your decision, your choice to be married to this person, then you will work your way through it.
2007-09-21 01:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is the easiest thing in the world when you are with the right person. It takes no effort to be kind, generous, faithful, loving, caring and respectful to the person who means more to you than any one else in the world. And to receive those things, and so much more, in return is indescribably beautiful and makes each morning worth waking up to.
2007-09-21 04:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by DSL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard work and wonderful. You have to give 110%, every day. Choose a spouse wisely. Any problems before marriage are not going to magically disappear after you get married. They only get worse. Respect, take care of and love your spouse every day.
2007-09-21 01:52:17 · answer #5 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wedding day is not just about the bride, it is the grooms day too, marriage is about more than the wedding day as well, it takes hard work and effort from both the husband and wife to make it work.
2007-09-21 07:33:15 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More planning should go into your marriage than the wedding.
2007-09-21 01:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by good girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Always keep communication going (not yelling). You should each be able to tell each other anything.
2007-09-21 02:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it s a wonderful experience when taken seriously.your love grows for each other over time.it has its ups and downs but you're always there for each other
2007-09-21 01:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jeng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get to wash his smelly socks,snotty hankies,skid marked jocks.Apart from that its fine.
2007-09-21 01:36:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋