She stays at her parents place but has kept telephonic contacts with me. Her anniversary is fast approaching
2007-09-20 18:18:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A call would be a nice thing to do I would not say happy anniversary they aren't together anymore phone calls should be when ever not just at certain times of the year,.... sorry about your loss.
2007-09-21 03:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-20 15:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister, I have read your incident and I could imagine how hurting your feelings are right now. My advise is this: As long as you finish your iddah (period which a woman should stay after the death of her husband), do not go back to that family again. You can keep communicating if you wish but never go there except on an exceptional situation. I bought your idea of concealing the matter but, I want you to pray to God for mercy over whatever that happened without your consent. Secondly, try to get another husband as soon as possible as this will reduce the psychological trauma in you. Next time i will advise you never to sleep alone in places where you are much in doubt. Try to be praying and I would not mind if you contact me on any problem whatsoever, Do not take to be scholar because I am a researcher, I will ask on your behalf what I don't have idea about. May God save us from such situation.
2016-05-19 22:49:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am widowed and I wouldn't say happy anniversary because the reality is they are not married anymore. Thats one of the hardest parts, we have to quit counting anniversarys and we didn't want to it wasn't a choice but it is reality. Then noone knows what to say. Maybe something like, I remember you would have been married X years this year right? How are you?
2007-09-20 18:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tracey W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not say "happy anniversary", because it won't be happy without him, but perhaps take her out to lunch, or call her on the phone if that isn't possible. I always try to go see my mom on my parents' anniversary. Anything to let her know you're thinking about her. It's your loss, too, so you can talk about things that made you both happy with him.
2007-09-20 18:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'd call her and tell her that you're thinking on her and you know she must be terribly sad that day.
It's ridiculous for people to say "Oh don't say anything, you'll be reminding her." It's her anniversary! It's not like she'll forget it.
I'm sure she'll appreciate knowing that you thought of her on this sad day, just like you'd appreciate getting a call on your brother's birthday.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.
2007-09-20 18:24:12 · answer #6 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about wishing her a happy anniversary, but I would definately call her and let her know you are thinking of her, maybe you guys could get together or something, so you could be there for her.
2007-09-20 18:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should. send her a "thinking of you "card, writing a little note saying that she is in your thoughts. if you don't have time to mail a card, call her and say the same. i would want an acknowledgment of my anniversary given the same circumstance. it really is the right thing to do.
2007-09-20 18:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't want to wish her a happy wedding anniversary since she is now widowed.......
But a "thinking of you" card would probably be most welcome.
If you live close enough you might even suggest a girls night out to eat or something, since she will probably be feeling left alone.
2007-09-20 18:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by mslider2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I"d contact her that day and tell her she is in yor thoughts, but don't acknowledge anniversary-she knows and will open up if need be. She'll appreciate the call
2007-09-20 18:22:41 · answer #10 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋