2007-09-20 17:48:49 · 18 answers · asked by viewerxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's true, there's no timetable. But it all depends on so many things. Do you have kids? You've got to take them into consideration. Don't ask them how they feel about you dating someone else (you already KNOW what they'd say), but consider if they're ready.
If you don't have kids, then you're the only one who can say it's time. I would think it would be hard to not listen to everyone's opinion (like your mom, friends, etc.), but try not to. Maybe a year's enough for you, but not enough for someone else.
Good luck to you and I hope you and your wife were happy enough for you to believe you can love again. God bless you!
2007-09-20 18:09:37 · answer #1 · answered by betternher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's too soon. But only you can really be the judge of that. If you feel emotionally ready to pursue a new relationship then you should. Don't let yourself be controlled by what other people may think/say, or the fact that you feel that you "should" be still grieving. Even though I'm sure you'll always have feelings for your deceased spouse, there is nothing wrong with continuing to grow and wanting to be in a loving relationship or even just having some companionship and fun!
2007-09-20 17:57:01 · answer #2 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are the only one who can answer that question. I myself was widowed for 15 years before i stared to go out but I also had 4 young children to raise. But sometime i feel I may a mistake waiting so long but life is good. Good luck and have fun and do the right thing
2007-09-20 18:02:07 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your loss. When you feel ready is the right time for you to start. Its not a crime to date just to meet people either if you aren't ready to get into a relationship. Also make sure you've worked through your loss so you don't turn a potential dater into your counselor. That can be very uncomfortable because its not a common thing to meet someone who has lost a spouse.
2007-09-20 18:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetness 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no time table. I am widowed too. It all depends on what is right for you. Noone knows how you feel or can tell you when you have grieved enough or when to move on. That is totally up to you. You can't mess this up. It was messed up to start with.
2007-09-20 17:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tracey W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No marriage is until death do us part. Just make sure you date a long time, when you first meet some one you are only meeting their Representative. It takes a long time to get to know some one new. Ask a lot of questions, ask them for their values, interests and plans for the future, tell them yours. Observe how they treat other people. Are they controlling, or grudge holders, close minded, what are their political values and spiritual beliefs.......etc.
2007-09-20 18:00:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if in your heart u feel its time to move on from grieving then its time to look for someone else,time depends on people,some needs more time than others to overcome a lost like that,if u are ready go ahead and date again.
2007-09-20 18:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on you, my friend. If you feel that you're ready to start fresh, then by all means, do so. I'm sure your wife would want you to be happy. Good luck and god bless.
2007-09-20 18:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heck no.
Your loved one that passed would probably want you to start anew then be alone the rest of your life.
2007-09-20 17:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by Buff Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you feel it is time to move on and share your life with another person then no it's not too soon.
2007-09-20 17:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋