How can I stop being so angry and start changing my life and attitude?

Question

I am in a rut. I am depressed and feel that I lack choices in my life.

There are a number of things from my past that make me angry (basically, a lot of stuff from my childhood and losing someone I really loved). I spend a lot of my time feeling angry and down on myself.

I want to take control of my life and start viewing things more positively and letting go of the things that are negative and that I can't change. But I simply don't know how. While I'm not pessimistic about other people, I'm very pessimistic about myself and my life. I fear that it's "too late" for me to institute change and to be successful and happy.

What can I do to turn this around? Any books or tips to recommend?

Answer 1

How is your spiritual life? It sounds pretty lacking by your state of self-hatred. It sounds like you need "Hope". This can only be attained by seeking the Face of God.

Spiritual principles serve to heal and transform your brokenness into wholeness and restore you back "arightly" to the Creator. Only in this way can you enter into your True Purpose and embrace the state of True Womanhood.

I am a Christian, and I would recommend enveloping yourself in the Holy Scriptures, Christ and Christian Fellowship, first as a point of reference. If you are still dissatisfied, then explore other spiritual paths, but ultimately in the end I will guarantee that you will return to Christ the Creator.

The Holy Scriptures teach us to be slow to anger. Anger is equated to "murder" because it is the murder of spirit. It has "negative" ramifications. When we hate, we "curse". Self hatred is "self-cursing". It works against you, and consequently manifests the presence of the Demonic Nature bent on feeding your self-destruction, for their agenda is to ultimately kill you. The spiritual principles in the Holy Scriptures serve to aid us and protect us.

The opposite of "hate" is "Love". When we act in Love, we "bless" and receive its multiplied effects and benefits. The good thing is that you have recognized your self-hatred and the need for a dramatic and positive change in your life to circumvent your self-destruction. This is a major accomplishment. Some people live their whole lives never reaching this vital awareness.

I recommend Leanne Payne’s books, “The Healing Presence: Curing the Soul through Union with Christ”, “Listening Prayer”, and "Real Presence: The Christian Worldview of C.S. Lewis as Incarnational Reality"

WEBSITE: http://www.leannepayne.org/books/books.php

Blessing to you.

Answer 2

It is never too late to change your life. I'm a person who has a tendency towards anger myself, or depression, which is really just anger that is suppressed. I had issues from my childhood also, and those feelings don't go away completely. However, you don't have to let them rule your life.

You might want to start working with energy. It might sound odd, but it has been my saving grace in every way. I strongly suggest reading "Wicca - A Guide for the Solitary Practitioner" by Scott Cunningham. That book is incredible, and it puts things in a way that anyone can be successful with. It doesn't matter if you are Pagan, Wiccan, or if you don't even know what that refers to. You can be a devout Christian, and you could still take something away from that book. It teaches you how to work with your own natural energy. Everyone has it, the ability is there and it's so much easier than most people think it is. Trust me, you can relieve your anger and infuse yourself with happiness and confidence at the same time. Before you know it great things will start to happen to you. I am so blessed it's just insane, and all I have to do is put honest effort into living up to the opportunities I get, and being ethical towards those around me (and myself). Please give it a try, even as a secondary plan. See the link below to have a peek.

Answer 3

You start- by looking into your mirror & being TOTALLY honest with yourself. Give yourself the "3rd Degree". It sounds like you ALREADY know pretty much what's wrong with you. NOW is the BEST time you'll ever have- to make the changes you need to in your Life, Attitude, and way of Thinking. Nobody is going to GIVE YOU "control" over your Life; YOU have to TAKE IT & USE IT- to get whatever it is you want out of life. Good luck! :)

Answer 4

start in believing in yourself that this is your life and you have a control over yourself and your emotions. review all the things that you want to change with yourself and think of a better way to handle each negative traits. let go of any hatred. forgive and accept that there are things in life that you don't have control. never say never... it's never too late for anyone. the Bible is the source of all good things. good luck!

Answer 5

Good for you.
You are way ahead to be able to help yourself.
You know what makes you angry,
You know that you get angry, and this is a big step.
If you can see good in other people, then you can see good in yourself.
I will tell you what I feel about you from what you have written.

You are able to love, you are able to feel emotion, you want to change, you want to be better, you want to be positive, you know your limitations, you want to be happy and successful.
You are willing to talk about yourself, seek help, show up and be real, you are mature and willing to ask for help.
From where I am, that is many many good points about you.
The only way from here is up.
Believe that better times are coming, that is your birthright,
as the world operates in cycles, down then up, so you are on the upward trend.
You can't really control your life, you can be in control of yourself, your emotions and the way you behave though.

There are many books available, for you to find, as that is the best way. Ask to be led to the books that are right for you, and trust and you will be.
Trust in a higher power, that is the only sane answer in this world, as we can not "work it out" ourselves.
Allow yourself to "find" what is right for you.
What happens in your life is to help you be more balanced.
How can we know peace in the heart, if we haven't overcome anger.
Anger is a big one, and as you know why you are angry, you are more than half way there.
Try writing down how you feel about what happened to you, this will help release the feelings from you.
It may take a couple of times to do this, and you may find it difficult or sad, but keep going and keep writing to release it from your body.
Talk to a good friend and ask them to just listen while you talk. And try and talk about how you feel, angry is okay, it is just a feeling. So allow yourself to express how you feel, until you are able to talk about it without feeling angry. I trust that you will work through this, as you have many answers to help you on your way.

Blessings to you and may wisdom comes from your wounds.

Answer 6

As a special creation of God, we are the only thing He creates that possessed emotions and can think. Well, it is natural for you to be angry or depressed. but be sure you know the limitations of it.
You can be angry as long as you are in the right track.
You can get rid of these by thinking what to do. Just think the happy events that happened or will happen in your life. start it in your own self. be confident of what you are.
No my dear, it is not to late. you can be happy if you see to it you are doing the right thing. go with your trusted friends. Hang out with them...
Remember you can be happy as you wish...

Answer 7

see i dnt know who r u but u r very sincer and specially honest person.You know every thing about you that is good.If you dnt know than start noticing yourself because answer of ur question is hidden inside you only.
see first thing i want to say that person should not love any thing as much that k it gives pain to him\her after its departure same thing is with you.
Following r the points,follow them if u trust on me:-
- Never remind about your past.(it will always gives u tears and never plan for future it will gives u fear)
- Always remain busy with any work any.Never make free your self.Do any thing of ur interest.
- Always read news papers if nt interested than develop ur interest in that.
- Never wathch imotional movies,love stories.
- Always watch comedy things and make your friends who r Jolly minded persions always remain in their company.
- Always try to be HAPPY.

Answer 8

It's normal to be angry about some things. Try focusing your anger against the things you want to change in your life instead of against yourself.

Answer 9

It's NEVER EVER too late.

See a therapist! It will really really help.