How do you make your family and friends understand that your priorities are different from theirs, ... :) ?

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and respect that?

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Answer 1

If you've already talked with them, & I assume you have--& they refuse to understand your priorities--do this with your BEHAVIOUR. Set your priorities & stick to them.
(With a smiling face, of course, not in rebellion.)
I think you know that if you've been following a pattern & you "change" they'll get quite a shock. Only those who respect you are worthy of you.
I don't know how else to put this--get RID of the "sticky" people, or you'll never, ever have a life of your own.
Remember also, that if you relinquish YOUR priorities to another, you aren't really doing them a favour. You aren't being true to yourself, & that will stick in your throat like an old horned toad.
Are you listening to me???

Answer 2

It's not always easy. It depends on whether they have beliefs about a single right way, and everything else wrong. If they are religious, this is likely. In that case, the best you can hope for is not really respect, but silence. Start with saying that you see we disagree, neither of us is likely to change, so let's agree not to discuss it anymore, OK? It may not work, but it might. The implied threat of not visiting anymore if "all we do is argue" may help, but it could backfire, too. They may accept that, and you'll get no more home-cooked Sunday dinners.

That's family. As to friends, I can't see how you can call someone a friend who cannot respect your right to be different from them.

Answer 3

I'm sorry sweetie, but sometimes you just can't. One of the toughest truths is you just can't change other people, not their ideas, their ways, or even their misguided concern for you. I am fast approaching 52 {now where did all the time go??} & I have struggled with this very thing most of my life. I finally learned a few things that have given me some measure of peace. It really is none of my biz what some one else thinks nor am I responsible for their reactions.. I have had to learn to be true to myself & just live my truth in the way that is most non threatening to them, but I do not need to change who I am for their approval. It all got much better the more comfortable I became in my own skin. It all sounds real simple, but takes practice because it is sometimes not quite that easy. I had to learn the value of mouth control, & to remember to always give to them what I wanted most, acceptance & respect, if if their priorities where light years from my understanding. The biggest thing I learned was I taught much more with my actions & responses than I ever could with my words. I also learned to smile a lot & just not take the bait, it takes 2 to tango. Good luck, I know it is difficult for you, we always want our family the be the ones who understand us best,it hurts when they don't.

Answer 4

No, they might desire to not be hitting you. Spanking would properly be justified in many situations, and with the approach which you're carrying you're inquiring for an adjustment. they are extra suitable to you in years and understanding. they are extra suitable via fact they are the mothers and fathers and you are the youngster. you have freedom of speech interior their limitations meaning no disrespect, no slang, no swearing and no backtalk. they are able to elect what are priorities on your existence collectively with kin and your decision of associates until you're eighteen years of age, once you become an grownup. you should be counting your self fortunate and blessed to have mothers and fathers that needless to say love you and care approximately you doing properly in existence so as that they are not going to allow you do each and every thing you want now. Have a good nighttime.

Answer 5

Live your life with your priorities, and I guarantee the priorities will change as you change, it is up to them to decide if they can respect you for being your true self and living to your standards...if you are hurting yourself or others and they love you then you will most likely never gain respect for that

Answer 6

Moon, I got married when I was 17 and my husband's mom thought I should do traditions and important things the way her family did them. I politely informed her that now my husband and I were the start of a new family and had our own traditions to make a follow according to how we felt and what we wanted. She actually took it better than I thought she would. : )

Answer 7

When you talk to them, be very clear, open and direct in stating your priorities and that even if they do not agree with you, tell them you expect them to respect what you want just as you do respect their choices.

Answer 8

You tell them and if they don't get it you limit your contact so you don't have to hear their yapping. Sometimes it takes family a long time to respect your decisions and give you space and support you, so you have to know that they just want what is best for you and just keep your distance until they get the hint.

Answer 9

Part of maturity is understanding and accepting that people aren't always going to agree with you or care what your priorities are. It really isn't important that they understand.

Answer 10

Family will always try to interferer because they think they want what is best for you. sometimes it is best for you to do what you want otherwise you'll be miserable for instance choosing a career that they want. A lot of parents try and live their life through you.