Mormon? Gay? Is it okay?

Question

is it okay to be mormon, and gay? and i hate all of all of you gay bashers, if you have that opinion, keep it to your self, but others, what do you think?are there any other gay/bi mormons?

ps, mormons aren't polygamists, ha ha but i like your answer tom tom

Answer 1

This is the wrong place to be asking this. The majority of people (Mormon & Not) do not understand sexual orientation.
Look around. See how the answers are so DRAMATICALLY different? Think about it: A lay person (one who has no expertice) and/or who isn't gay (lacks the experience) is in no way credible.

I'm sure it's a very tough issue for you (or for whomever you are asking this question). Unfortunately to date, there really isn't anything (logical) that can give you a definate answer. It's not like murder that people can objectively conclude to be immoral.

There is a definate CORRELATION between homosexuality and biology. (It has a tendency to run in families, certain people of certain backgrounds are more likely than others to be gay). Unfortunately a correlation doesn't give us cause, nor does it lend any ethical insight on the matter. For example: we have found correlations between sociopaths and certain genotypes. This correlation doesn't justify what sociopaths do however. Granted this is an extreme example (as homosexuality isn't inherently violent) but it gets the point across that correlation (and even cause for that matter) doesn't lend JUSTIFICATION.

As far as cause, we can't necessarily say that gay people are "born that way". We don't know if that is the case or not. For all we know it may be multicausal. Homosexual attraction may be a symptom of some larger issue in some cases. Maybe one person is genetically gay, while another is gay because of some emotional experience during childhood, while another is gay because of some pre-natal toxin during pregnancy. I can't stress this enough: WE JUST DON'T KNOW. There is in fact a contemporary theory that states in some cases sexuality starts as a dynamic phenomenon and grows to be static, incorporated into the person's identity with age. This would mean nobody is born STRAIGHT OR GAY, that sexuality is acquired (whether directly or indirectly) (Please notice that I'm not claiming that being gay is a conscious choice, like chosing which pants to wear today. That is one thing we CAN say we know, and that is that sexuality (in hetersexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals, asexuals, and any other -sexuals of the sexuality spectrum that I've negleged to mention) IS NOT A CHOICE.

The only bit of advice that I can give you is to take this up with God and possibly your bishop (if you feel comfortable). Only God really knows. Maybe it really isn't a sin and this is something that will be revealed to the church later on. Maybe it is a sin and detrimental to the plan of salvation and something that should be avoided at all cost. Maybe one day we will find the underlying cause in most cases of homosexuality which may lead to one being able to change it. But really, no point in speculating about the future.

Pray to God. Ask him what he wants. Ask him for understanding and strength to do what is right (whatever that may be). Most importantly: BE HAPPY.

If you'd like exhaustive answers to your question from medical experts WHO ARE ALSO LDS, visit the following website:

http://www.ldsresources.info/


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PS: to answer one of your sub-questions: Yes, there are plenty of Gay LDS. Roughly 3-5% of ANY population of people experience homoerotic feelings (another piece of evidence that lends credance to its biological causes). That means, 3-5% of blacks are gay, 3-5% of whites are gay, 3-5% of catholics are gay, 3-5% of muslims are gay, etc etc etc.
(3-5% of LDS population = 575,000 people)

Answer 2

its not even good to be Gay. remember in hebrew its call Tobeah! in english the translator chose the word abomination. but others have re-translated the sins of men copulating with men to be a very serious sin.
i have heard that there are many LDS who support gay members. but i do not know if They actually say its allowable. its been said one can remain a member of the church if they are Not Actively Gay.
Paul wrote a very strong stance on a man that slept with his fathers wife. He told the Corinthians to excommunicate him. NO fornicator will enter the kingdom of God. the best we can hope for therefore, is to repent of all sexual immorality and be steadfastly faithful. remember if adultery is only forgivable once, than how much more severe is the judgment going to be for both gay and straight who commit adultery and fornication and sodomy.
one thing is sure: D&C 63:18-20 speak of judgment of not coming forth in the first resurrection. thats like telling a pre trib christian that they will not come forth in the Rapture.
http://classic.scriptures.lds.org/en/dc/63

Answer 3

I actually know of quite a few "gay Mormons." They exist, and there's more out there than many people think. Its fine to be homosexual and gay, the thing is you're not allowed to have any sexual relations (heterosexual or homosexual) outside of marriage, and the church doesn't recognize homosexual marriages. Its a rough path being gay and LDS. It can be done, but its hard. My heart goes out to anyone who is gay and especially those that are LDS.

Answer 4

There are several gay Mormons. But homosexual behavior is not allowed for a Mormon to be in good standing.

Answer 5

Officially no. But there are certainly gay Mormons. I saw a TV documentary about a group that met for a conference in Salt Lake City. I am sure you will find other gay Mormons with some Internet searching.

Don't let the church convince you it is wrong to be gay. There are cases of young gay Mormons being driven to suicide. You have to be strong and do what you feel is right, not what other people tell you.

Answer 6

I doubt they will baptise you if you openly admit you are gay. If you are already a member, they will probably try to get you to "repent" and change your ways. I have had some relatives who were LDS and also gay, but I think they were disfellowshiped when the "authorities" found out.

Answer 7

Some one that I served on my mission shared with me some very wise words. "Don't hate some one for choosing to sin a little differently than you have."
With that in mind, no it is not ok to be gay and Mormon. We believe that it is offensive in the sight of God. However we also believe that Christ taught about love and understanding. He taught that we should look for ways to lift others up not to tear them down. If you see some one who has fallen astray then find a way to help them out, give them any and every kind of help you can possibly give and if they don't want help set an example for them pray for them, show them a better way. Do not hate them or find ways to tear them down. That is not what Christ taught.

Answer 8

You can be gay. But when you are having sex outside of the bonds of marriage, a man and a woman, that is not accepted. That is against the teachings of the church.

I am not bashing gays - I know many. But, there is the PERSON and there is the ACTION. They are different.

Answer 9

the Mormon church doesn't support gay relationships. there are members who could be considered gay though. they simply do all that they can to avoid their feelings about being attracted to the same sex. talk to a bishop or someone like that for more information.

Answer 10

According to the temple the answer is NO. But, does that really make sense? No, it doesn't make sense at all.
It's perfectly OK to be gay. It's perfectly OK to be mormon. But the two just do not coincide. You'll have to decide which is more important to you.

There is the Reformed Church of Latter Day Saints. I highly recommend it. They are pro-gay. They retain many of the mormon beliefs, but are much more progressive.