shouldn't one go with the other, or is loving someone unconditional or is liking someone a choice...hmmm makes you wonder what love really is
2007-09-20 14:32:44 · 9 answers · asked by Bentele 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Love is unconditional. It is putting the other person's needs before your own; wanting the best for them. Love is also believing the best of the object of that love. Love is also not judgmental and critical and condemning, nor is it prone to fits of jealousy or filled with envy. In fact, real love is not the emotional feeling most people consider it. I believe love is the choice, not liking. When you like someone, it's generally emotional and based on that person's character - how they behave and conduct themselves; what they say and do. It's really very easy to love someone but not like them. Have you never heard of someone with, for instance, a judgmental and dictatorial mother or father? They choose to love them (and do), but they may not particularly like them.
2007-09-20 14:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by ck1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly their is no real love on the material plane. It is all based on sense gratification. It is all based on the bodily conception of life. Love in this world is a perverted reflection of the absolute love which is on the spiritual platform. This can not be speculated upon but is given by someone who already has this type of love. It is a rare soul who actually knows real love. Yes we can not like ones material qualities which are temporary and based on illusion. And still love their eternal soul knowing they are just covered by the veils of the illusory energy. For info on real love (Bhakti Yoga) go to harekrishnatemple.com read Bhagavda Gita as it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada asitis.com can be read on line. I am so happy I found real love. And yes their are a lot of people I love but they got a lot of junk covering them which I don't really like.
2007-09-20 22:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of that depends, as you mention, on your definition of love. The standard definition of 'love' in Psychology goes something like this: "When the physical, mental, and spiritual well-being of person B becomes more important to person A than is their own physical, mental, and spiritual well-being, then person A is said to 'love' person B. If person B also considers the physical, mental, and spiritual well-being of person A to be more important to them than their own, then persons A and B are said to be 'in love'"
By that definition, it's difficult to see how you could 'love' someone that you didn't 'like'.
OTOH, most people are satisfied with 'Jungle Fever' and are perfectly willing to substitute it for 'love'. Problem is, after some period of time (usually enough to do a bunch of -really- stupid s.h.i.t. such as get married, have kids, etc. etc.), it wears off and you're stuck with the aftermath (instead of an afterglow).
It pretty much sucks, but that's the way most people are âº
Doug
2007-09-20 22:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by doug_donaghue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree that love is unconditional, we love "although", not "because". Personally, I love all my family members, though I don't particularily like who they are as people, most are far too judgemental, narrow minded, and seem to have a near constant need for chaos. Even so, I love them.
Brigid
2007-09-20 21:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Brigid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we love a person because we were taught to do so. Children raised in abusive homes often love their parents because that is what is expected. The way they express their love is often by abusing others. It's still love, just expressed differently. Those same abused children most often don't like their parents because they don't like the way their parents make them feel. If something makes us uncomfortable or causes us pain, we tend to dislike any contact.
2007-09-21 00:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by girlinmorgue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends a bit on the type of love, at least in my case.
As a youth, I loved my Mother, but didn't much like her. I loved her because she gave birth to me, and was highly regarded by my Father.
Some of her actions irritated me to the point that I didn't like her.
I am happy to say that I have grown to like her since my Father's passing.
2007-09-20 22:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One should go with the other but in real life it does not happen that way. I love my son yet hate what he does, love my boyfriend but hate what he does. I guess I would have to say I don't like "either" of them
2007-09-21 01:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by Magical 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a great question, and it does make you wonder what love is....
For example, I love my mother but I do not like my mother. The fact that I don't like her is very shallow--I don't like silly things she thinks/says/does/etc. But she made me and has cared for me and still cares for me, so I love her.
I love my ex but I don't like him because of things he's done that hurt me. Even though the things I don't like about him are more grievous than the things I don't like about my mother, I do love him.
Oh well, that's my opinion :)
2007-09-20 21:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You people don't understand love at all.
2007-09-20 21:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by shmux 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋