What are your values and beliefs about mothering and motherhood?

Question

Reflect on who or what influenced these values and beliefs?

Answer 1

Great question! Wow. I feel that mothering is the most important role one can have. When you're pregnant, you change your entire life so that the baby will be healthy. When they're born, they control your every move, and you willingly comply. It's a love that has absolutely no equivalent, in my opinion. My daughter changed my life in every way possible, and I'm enjoying the journey thoroughly.

My view on motherhood is that mothers should first and foremost know that the best role model for a child is his or her parents. Every action speaks volumes, every word is heavy. If we want to have healthy children--and I hope all mothers do--we, as mothers, have to be healthy in every way: physically, mentally, intellectually, philosophically, morally, emotionally. We're responsible for providing the physical necessities, but we also need to teach our children about how to interact with others; we help them to develop empathy; we guide their moral and mental development. We have to prepare our children to live among others and to treat every person as if she/he matters. That is part of the job of every parent. Our kids are modelling themselves after us all the time, so it's really important to be good, healthy role models. My role models are my mother, my daughter, and most importantly, my father. He is an amazing man.
Great question.

Answer 2

My values about mothering and motherhood is, one should mother their child and not smother the child. Mothers should pick their children up when they fall, but they should also, guide them to learn how to pick themselves up so that they can be independent as they become adults.

Teaching good values, respect and having a strong belief about what is right and what is wrong, will hopefully be with them in their adult life. Although, people change, one can only hope that the teachings that have been taught to their children will create a well rounded individual who will hopefully, have a positive outlook in life.

Answer 3

I believe motherhood is the most important role of women. We are responsible for the shaping of a human life, which is an awesome responsibility, and should be undertaken by those who truly have the heart and soul for it. My mother raised 4 kids on her own (divorced my dad when I was 11), and instilled in us respect for others, decency and morals. I admire her greatly. She didn't spare the rod, but neither did she abuse us. She instilled in us the knowledge of right and wrong....and believe me, we know. LOL. We all turned out pretty good. And I in turn, apply the same to my children. I have good kids, which I'm proud of.

Answer 4

I can't imagine a more important job on the planet - giving life, nurturing it, and being responsible for the upbringing, socialization and care of a new life.

The lines seem to be a little blurred today, between friendship and motherhood. I learned, from my mother, that she was my mother - not my friend. I had plenty of friends, but only one mother.

Answer 5

I believe that when you have kids, they always should come first. I don't have any of my own, but i hope to have some when i am older. I think that being a mother is a full time job and when i do have kids, i want to be able to quit working for at least ten years so they have some one at home to raise them. The kids that i know that are "problem children" mostly have parents that are spoil them , but don't spend time with them, or parents that just don't pay any attention to the child at all. I believe that choosing to have kids is like choosing a career, you have to be dedicated to your kid, and raise it well. My mother stopped working to raise my sister and i, and that's were i got these views from.

Answer 6

I had a bad Mother. She as a drug using alcoholic Lesbian with a vile temper and a violent way about Her.
All I would ever ask of Mothers is that They care for, love and respect Their children and those who are immediately involved in the home life and care giving environment.
I take it that is not too much to ask for?

Answer 7

Mothering takes 100% ccommitment but too many moms lose who they are when they become moms. The best moms are able to still do things for themselves and live their own best life while being a nurturing and loving parent. These types of moms/parents set the best examples for their kids because their children are able to be witness to a happy, genuinely content mom ( and a loving mom and dad) and that is the best gift you can give your kids.
I hope to rear my kids in this fashion because I was raised by a mom who was a loving, nuturing and was there for us all the time, but she completely lost sight of who she was and that made her an unhappy person. Which made it a less than happy family.

Answer 8

I don't have children yet(TTC #1 for 10.5 months) but I strongly believe in the God given roles for men and women. I believe that it's the woman's place to stay home and take care of the home and children if she has kids and to be a housewife until she has children from the time she gets married. I also believe that since men make more money then women do in most fields that the man should be out providing for his family & paying the bills. I respect God therefore I believe as part of respecting God that you should stick to your natural duties and not try to change them. I guess what influenced me about being a housewife is that I respected and love God and I always wanted to be a stay at home mother and housewife. When I have children I will be a stay at home mom until I die and my daughters will also be housewives and stay at home mothers as well as our Prophet(PBUH*) said that if you take the mother out of the home then society will surely fail. The mother's place in my opinion is in the home looking after the home and taking care of the husband and children and then herself.

Answer 9

Motherhood will never lose its value in society. This is fairly obvious to anyone who has ever appreciated their mother. I'm not cut out for it, so I won't be partaking in it, but any woman with the desire and the aptitude for motherhood should be able to pursue that goal.

Answer 10

I believe that it is the most important thing you can do, raising the next generation. I believe that once you have kids, you have to be willing to sacrifice everything for them...it's no longer about "you," it's about the child.