Last year, i moved out on my own to go to college. I was a transfer student, so i was my junior year of college, i was 20, and i had spent the first two years of college living at home. However, the school i transfered was more of a commuter school, so i had almost no chances to make friends. Basically i spent about six months, on my own, no social life, no family, no girl friend, just by myself all the time.
Since that sucked, i moved back home and am now going to a local university. However, even though i have been back at home, with my family, hanging out with my old friends again, making friends at school and work, i still feel alone. I still feel like i am isolated, which with all of these social interactions.
Before i moved out, i felt like i was also part of a group. In school, at parties, at work, with my friends, i felt liked i belonged and that i was in the middle of everything, now i feel like it is just me and no one else. Any advice?
2007-09-20 12:49:19 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Also, a few years ago, even when i was by myself, i always felt like i still had people with me but now, it is the exact opposite.
2007-09-20 12:50:52 · update #1
Everyone feels liek that sometimes man. I dunno what to tell you. i feel the same way sometimes. its hard to trust people. all i can say is find a group of whatever around your area liek a martial arts place or a gym and converse with the people around there........sorry i couldent be of more help
2007-09-20 13:00:23 · answer #1 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that!!! Although not in the exact same way. I grew up and lived in the same town for 24 years and even communted from my hometown to a techincal school for 2 years (the school was only 30 miles away). I had plenty of family and friends and a big network of outside support (people I could hang with, talk to, etc.).
Then I decided to start driving truck over the road. I didn't much want to stay in my hometown that much (I was going through a divorce at the time). I drove for a little over two years, only returning home once every other month or so and only for a day. After an accident I had OTR, I stopped driving truck and took a job so I could be home more often.
I found out that most of my family and friends have grown up, moved out, or started a new life. It was only 3 years but time has a way of changing things. More than likely, your freinds and family has gotten used to you not being there and have quickly adapted to that situation. The other possiblity is that maybe your network of freinds and family wasn't as close to you as you orginally thought.
What you just went through was sort of a period of self-discovery. You learned about yourself, your needs, and what your priorities are. You also found out who your true freinds and family members really are. Those that are still there for you are the ones you can count on when the times get tough!!!
2007-09-20 13:09:51 · answer #2 · answered by Lonewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're in the space between high school and being grown up. Living at home and being around all that is familiar and comfortable is difficult to break away from. It just seems too right to be wrong. But eventually you may get to a point where your studies or your job will lead you to places you've never been, and with people you've never met. If you never venture out anywhere past the same old same old, you'll never know anything else but the same old same old.
2007-09-20 13:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sound`s like you are just getting over the last 6 month`s .
Give it a few week`s and you should be back to your old self ,
hanging with friend`s and such .
That had to be one heck of an experience worth NOT
REPEATING !!!! i would definitely say that is what you are feeling now . You will be fine,now that you are home
among family and friend`s .
2007-09-20 13:04:13 · answer #4 · answered by bigfred1954 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋