waht should i do k=now ?
2007-09-20 12:07:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
red b*tch slap your hubby , your supposed to be working together as parents raising the children and if your not on the same page your going to have your children playing daddy against mummy .
Remove the X-box from your son explain that dad was obviously un-aware of the reason why he lost it then remind your son why you took it and explain to him he'll have it returned when he has met the original criteria you set when you removed it in the 1st place.
Then take your husband to your bedroom and discuss your parenting techniques and remind him that he need's to back your decisions and you need to back his so your showing your children a united front or your both in for years of garbage arguments started because of lack of communication and agreement of how to hand out punishments like this.
2007-09-20 12:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should have straightened that out before you married and had kids. One can never go over the other. The child will play you two like a fiddle. If my wife had told the kids no, then no was the answer and if they asked me after mom said no then it was an instant grounding. Once they knew and understood that rule they never broke it. Does hubby play the Xbox? If so you also have to understand by taking a toy from your son you took it from hubby, cause it's also not right to take away from the Jr. then dad pay it in front of him. Good Luck but you better get it worked out fast.
2007-09-20 12:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The number one rule of parenting is,
PRESENT A UNITED FRONT.
Under no circumstance should one parent give in like that.
The number two rule is, if one parent sets the rule the other cannot change it. The kid must deal with the parent that hands down the discipline.
To do otherwise simply guts all the parental authority.
Not a good idea.
If there is a problem with the level and severity of discipline then it falls on the parents to discuss and moderate.
There is nothing quite so destructive to the parental unit as teaching the kids how to manipulate you. Wait until they get to junior high and they start with different stories for each parent depending on the desired result.
Tell husband that you will cut him off if he ever pulls that move again. Then you can suggest that he negotiate for your good will like he is teaching the children.
Your husband needs to learn this for when the kids come and inquire about something, " What does your mother say?"
You need to learn, " What did your father say?".
2007-09-20 12:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk to the dad (without the son present), and get on the same page regarding disciplining the child. If he feels that taking away the video games is not a good solution, ask him to suggest something that's more acceptable to him. But make it clear that neither of you should undermine the other.
2007-09-20 12:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should spank Daddy! Good grief, these things should be discussed, in private and some sort of agreement reached. Son will not make it to MAN status if Daddy doesn't learn how to discipline. Tell him this is not a popularity contest. Also...be sure that the punishment fit the crime...and ask hubby what he would have done instead as a fitting punishment.
2007-09-20 12:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I couldnt agree with flagger more..... A UNITED FRONT is needed.
The two of you need to agree on the behaviour conquences, trust me if you dont... the boundaries will never be set and the child will continually push them, until there isnt any respect for your authority!
I would speak with him, and ask him why he gave his x-box back when you had placed these conquences for your sons bad behaviour.
2007-09-20 13:15:46 · answer #6 · answered by smileyone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to your husband and let him know why you took it form him and then tack it back form your son. If he sees he can rip you two apart then he will know nothing will ever happen he can just keep acting like a brat or miss behaving
2007-09-20 12:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to dad and the two of you get together on the boy's punishment and stick by it. Hopefully, you are his real mother and not a step. This would be normal for a real father and a step mother, but abnormal for a real mother and a real father.
2007-09-20 12:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah.. great parenting there..
It's parents like you who have to be your kids best friend — instead of being parents that raise snotty, spoiled brats who have no respect for anyone else.
2007-09-20 12:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by jvstiniann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uh.... Do you mean an Xbox?
2007-09-20 12:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Spring 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋