Is it fair to want your wife to maintain her figure when she becomes pregnant:?

Question

I mean, some women can have children and maintain their figures, while others blow up.

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Answer 1

I think you shouldnt expect her her to keep her figure but encourage her to maintain helathy. pregnancy is sometimes an excuse for people to blow up. I am preggo and i have been letting myself go i feel that my bf has as well. I think a lot of couples use it as an excuse to eat what ever and gain some weight. My bf has gained about 18lbs since i got preggo thats more than i have gained. I think its fair for both sides to maintain their figure while they are pregnant. You know like a support system. If your wife eats healthy and does some kind of exercise every day even if its just walking for 30 min than she will be fine, sometimes though when we are preggo we just need someone to join us and give us that reasuring push. Like when i ask my bf lets go walk r go to the gym and he says yes i feel soo good but when he says no i get soo out of the mood that i dont feel like doing anything and just want to veg like him so i end up forcing myself to work out. Remember and be positive to your wife about this because it could get crazy and with those extra hormones you do not want to make her upset. Just talk to her about it and say "hey hun i know a lot of woman stress about loosing their figures because of pregnancy, do you feel this way....can i help with anything" or you could just be like "i want you to be healthy throughout the pregnancy is there anything i can do to help"

Answer 2

Hello there,
I don't know if it is fair or not, so little in life is fair, but I do know that it is unrealistic. True, some women have babies and look like they were never pregnant while other women never look the same. To a degree it is largely heredity. Did you take a good look at her mother before you got married? That is a pretty good indication of how your wife will handle the weight gain that goes along with pregnancy.
More important than your question though is how you will react no matter how much weight she gains. It is unrealistic and immature to expect a woman to maintain the figure of a teenager all her life. Most of those women who stay pencil thin seem to have personal trainers and unlimited funds to carefully maintain their perfect high protein, low carbohydrate diet.
On a more practical note remember that breastfeeding burns up about 600 calories each day. New mothers need healthy, wholesome foods and plenty of rest every day. Breastfeeding is plenty of work all by itself. Making milk for a new little person is more important than how many calories were burned that day.
Remember that the greatest gift you can give your child is to love his or her mother. Your wife has the rest of her life to go on a diet but only one chance to give your baby the ultimate gift of her breastmilk. Concentrate on making the best milk in the world and worry about losing weight later! You can burn calories and give your baby the ultimate, organic, superfood!
Tell your wife every day how much you love her and how beautiful she is AND mean it from the bottom of your heart! Remember it takes a real man to be a Daddy!
Good luck
Lady Trinity~

Answer 3

it's not fair, before I got pregnant I was athletic and went to the gym 6 days a week and had a great figure, I had a lot of morning sickness that went on for 22 weeks of my pregnancy - I couldn't go to the gym while I was that sick and I was working too. I had a hard enough time worrying about my figure and all the hard work I had put in let alone worry about what my husband was going to think of me.

If your partner is going to have a baby be kind and give her a break, if she's got a good body now chances are that she will want her body back after the pregnancy but give her a break in the mean time having a baby is a big change and she's supposed to put on some weight to maintain a healthy pregnancy

Answer 4

As a mother of 2 (my kids are 16 months apart) I don't think that you're being unfair but just don't stress it too much to her. Being pregnant and especially with your first child sometimes its hard on a woman because there are so many different things happening to your body. Now that your wife is pregnant tell her you want to eat better with her and you want to walk with her after work or see if there's a local yoga place for expecting women or a YMCA, they have a wonderful water exercise routine that would be great for her. I exercised everyday and ate very healthy and I still gained 30 pounds but I was all belly and boobs and the same thing with my last child but with my first I lost all my weight with in the first 6 months where as with my son I am still struggling with these last 15. Now there's 5 of us and my mother has NEVER dieted a day in her life but you would never know that she has kids. She's one of thoses women who just bounce back. And here I am trying to lose the last bit of weight and it seems like it's taking forever. Everybody is differnt and some people lose the weight faster than others do. If your wife doesn't maintain her figure while she's pregnant just remember that your son or daughter is in there and that your wife needs to be healthy and fit for your child to be healthy. I can't remember the exact count for it but from what I remember the 30 pounds breaks down like this:
8 lbs is the baby (about)
2 lbs for each breast
8 lbs of fluid (about)
? lbs of blood (sorry can't remember)
? lbs of placenta (sorry can't remember)
Next time your wife goes for a check up ask the doctor how it's broken down to. 30 pounds is healthy 40-50-60 pounds is not.That much weight is not good for your wife's health nor your baby's

Answer 5

No, it's not really fair of you, especially if you voiced this to your wife. Every woman is different and if you have told her that this is what you want, then she may feel like she needs to maintain her figure and weight while pregnant or you might not love her anymore or will leave her. But, you can want it all you want, that doesn't mean you'll get it. Personally, I worry about women who don't gain weight during their pregnancies. Babies need a lot of nourishment when they are growing inside and they take it all from their mothers.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

that is the reason why pregnant woman don't feel sexy and why new mothers feel depressed and much worse, because of men who think we should be "perfect" after going through all we have been through. Yes there are woman who work out 1 or more hours every day (usually much more) to regain their figures and most do it to keep their partner happy but it isnt usually healthy weight gain and most get depressed if they can't lose the weight. I wish men would just growup and stop looking at physical appearence as everything because it isn't. What would you do if you wife became deathly ill and gained weight and you had to take care of her, would you walk away just because she isn't "perfect" for you anymore.

Answer 8

Oh, COME ON!

Realize that her carrying YOUR baby is going to make her gain weight, and perhaps have stretch marks.

I hope to God you have not told this to your wife. This is grounds for sleeping on the couch forever!

If you are concerned with excessive weight gain, don't expect her to have all the goodies in the house you like to snack on in front of the TV. Go to the market with her, help her select healthy fruits and vegetables, whole grain products and skim milk. Eat healthy along WITH her, and take an evening stroll after dinner. Help her, don't just sit there and criticize.

Also, realize that her weight will redistribute. Many men prefer a curvey woman over a willowy stick of a girl.

If you men had to go through what she will for 9 months, you would take to your bed and expect to be waited on forever.

Answer 9

so long as you understand the fact that her belly will grow and thast healthy, and that she might gets lots of stretchmarks even if she doesnt gain too much weight because thats hereditary, and that "swelling" can be associated with high blood pressure which she cant really do too much about, then yes...i think its fair to want your wife to maintain her figure. I see no reason for women to balloon to 50, 60, 70+ pounds. It seems like they use pregnancy as an excuse to pig out. I could be way off, but that's my opinion

Answer 10

Any man that EXPECTS his wife to keep her figure while she's pregnant needs to be horsewhipped. There are too many factors in a pregnancy that can't be controlled to EXPECT a woman to keep her figure. And any man that makes any comment to a pregnant woman about her appearance other than "you look beautiful today" doesnt deserve the absolutely wonderful thing that his wife is carrying around for him.