Which do you think is worse, being 14, out and gay, never having sex or even making out or being a 14 year old sexually active pregnant girl (all the girls think I'm the worse one...)?
Also is it wrong that whenever I'm around this girl I nearly burst into tears because I can't adopt in many states and thus can't have kids?
2007-09-20 11:52:11 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
To people who think I'm a boy: I'm not. I'm a lesbian girl.
2007-09-20 12:13:45 · update #1
I'm 14 as well....
2007-09-20 12:18:12 · update #2
Sadly it is human nature to see yourself as moral and others as immoral no matter how ironic the situation is.
2007-09-20 13:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Nobody 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of you is worse, and neither of you is a bad person. She is going to have a very difficult time because of decisions she made. You are also going to have a difficult time in life because of your lifestyle, I'm not saying it's right but a lot of people don't agree with your lifestyle and feel it's immoral.
I also think it's a little early for you to be determining your sexuality. I don't know you but your still pretty young and you say you havn't even made out with anyone. You may make-out with a girl for the first time and decide it's not for you. You also change a lot through your teenage years so you could wind up being straight or bi. Again, I think it's a little ridiculous you burst into tears. It's going to be a long time before your looking to start a family and laws and things could change by then. You could also have a guy friend get you pregnant if you can't adopt or do sperm donation.
Personally I don't agree with gay people adopting. I think it's kind of selfish of them and I think there kids are going to have a difficult time going through school unless you live in a very liberal place. Kids get made fun of for a name that's different, the clothes they wear, how they talk, imagine a kid having gay parents.
2007-09-20 12:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You, my dear friend, are sadly stuck with the worst end of the deal. And it is not wrong for you to burst into tears around her - she's being blessed with a child that, as such a young age, she will probably not be able to fully cater for. You, on the other hand, would most likely make a great mother but the stupid laws don't allow you that opportunity. I really wish that laws would change - you don't deserve this treatment. I back you all the way, and personally congratulate you on the courage you have shown in coming out. That makes you a far stronger person than this pregnant girl, because at least you're being true to yourself. She's the one how is being immoral - I honestly do not think she's mature enought ot raise her own child.
2007-09-20 13:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, when you are old enough, consider artificial insemination. My neighbor did it, has a lovely teenaged daughter (obviously years later), and no need for any sexual relations. It just costs a fee - plus all the costs of having that baby and raising a child. (oops! I just assumed you were female - sorry if you are not.)
By the time you are 21, the laws may have changed even more in your favor - don't worry.
As for ironic - indeed it is, and she doesn't see it. Too sad.
Personally, I think it is much worse to be pregnant at 14 than being gay and a virgin.
Someone needs a morally check, and it's not you.
Next time she says something that stupid, laugh at her - loud and uproarously.
2007-09-20 12:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Cheese Fairy - Mummified 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that makes either of you worse than the other is the insulting that is going on. Being gay is not wrong, and although being 14 and pregnant may not be intelligent, I don't feel I can say it is immoral. What makes her worse in this case is that she feels she can insult you in the first place. Don't lower yourself to her level by insulting back.
Hopefully, by the time you are old enough to wed and adopt, things will be better. In the meantime, be sure to look into adoption laws--most people belive it to be illegal in my state, when in fact it is just like an unmarried straight couple wanting to adopt--both members of the couple must be making enough money INDIVIDUALLY to support a child.
2007-09-20 11:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Esma 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but you will not like my answer. I am sorry your feel like crying when your around her, but you have chosen your lifestyle and you must now live with it and how society treats gays and lesbians. To me Gay is wrong but this is America and I believe you have the right to choose that lifestyle. I spent 27 years in the military defending your right to do so. I am retired now but would defend your rights still even though it is not my belief.
I also believe the other girl is immoral also. She now will suffer for a long time being a young mother. I only hope her child doesn't. Unfortunately most children born to mothers under 16 suffer. I also believe the babies father, the babies Fathers parents and the girls parents should all be held accountable in various extents.
In my mind you are both immoral. You have the option of correcting your error and changing your mind later in life. The other girl now has a child which can't be reversed down the road, and that makes me sad.
2007-09-20 12:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In all honesty what's worst is being 14 and knocked up. That little girl is in no position to take care of a baby, she can't even get a job so she can take care of her baby.
It's sad to say that you will be treated bad because you are gay, and many people think its wrong to be gay and all that bs. There's not a damn thing wrong with being gay, but getting knocked up at 14 is just wrong. Forget those girls for making you feel bad for being gay, they're stupid and ignorant
2007-09-20 12:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Pea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does a 14 year know you are gay? I never knew the sexuallity of my teachers and never wanted to know. You have obviously brought your personal life into the classroom. Judging from your other questions, you are a pedophile preying on teenage girls.
Who will be right in ten years time or twenty years from now? The girl will have a family. She will be less than 40 and have her kids out of the house. You on the other hand will be alone in prison with your lesbian girlfriend.
2007-09-20 12:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Rockford 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
explain to her the insanity of being pregnant at 14, Im not naive and I say 14 is way too young for having sex, straight or gay. listen, when u grow up and want to have children whats stopping you? I know several lesbians who have children, naturally, if youre a boy, you can adopt kids, move to a state where you can, hopefully by the time youre an adult this matter will be resolved with all people having the same rights.
2007-09-20 12:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well - it sounds like you are doing a better job of "playing by the rules" than this girl is. I consider her calling you "immoral" much worse than her getting pregnant.
Don't be busting into tears. Go and get artificially inseminated - and have a baby. Wrong that you bust into tears? No. Silly? yes.
Unless, of course, Princess Madeline is a man/boy. In that case - there is still no reason for your tears. You're young. If you know NOW that you want kids - you'll figure out how to get them dispite our backwards society.
2007-09-20 11:59:20 · answer #10 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋