My ex phoned me earlier on about not being their for my weans and it hurt me very much as I love them from the bottom of my heart. She said a lot of hurtful things and I've been crying and really want to sort my life out and get a job, clean up my image, clear my debts and pay my way and work for my family.
What she said to me has made me have a long think, I can't really stay "one of the lads" forever and to be really honest tonight has made me feel that It's time to move on, What tips or advice can you give me on sorting out my life and starting again?
Thank you from the bottom of my heart
William Blair
2007-09-20 11:46:56 · 27 answers · asked by ? 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
You seem to have so much going on in your life and all I can say as there WILL be light at the end of the tunnel. Try not to get to down about it and prove to your ex that you can change.
I admire that you want to grow up and become and man and pay your way in life, best of luck with your starting again and hope it all goes to plan!!
Take care bud
2007-09-21 01:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your half way there by admitting you need to sort yourself out, get an early night, go to the Job Centre in the morning and get an appointment to sort a job or some benefits out until you do get a job, don't forget a bath and shave before you leave, put some clean clothes on and hold your head up and try to look confident, keep this up and you should be on your feet in no time, the best of luck to you.
2007-09-20 18:54:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only person who can make this decision is you.
Your children will benefit if you and you ex work as a team with regards to your family. You don't need money to tell someone that you love them. Spend some time with your kids. Just you and them. Tell them how much you love them. You will feel better if you are working, not only because you can pay for things that they need, but also for your self esteem. You will feel much better if you can hand over money for your children that you have earned yourself. Arrange to have your kids stay with you during weekends or holidays ( if your ex agrees of course), and let them know that you are there for them at any time. I am not sure what you mean by cleaning up your image, but if you are on a slippery slope with regards to alcohol or drugs, go and speak to a doctor who will put you in touch with someone who can help. You sound as though you are ready to take responsibility, so go for it. It is never too late in life to change.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-09-20 19:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
So many changes can be completely overwhelming, and can lead to you running around like a headless chicken.
Sit down with a friend, and prioritise the changes you want to make and define how you are going to make them.
One quick tip - write down where you want to be and what you will have achieved in 1 minute, 1 hour, 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, 1 year, 3 years, 5 years, 10 years, 20 years. It will help you think about your lifetime ambitions!!
2007-09-20 18:54:58 · answer #4 · answered by Smiler 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the first step is that job.
Might want to stay home more and watch reality tv or pick up a hobby.
Go out and buy some new clothes. That always makes me feel like I've cleaned up my act.
2007-09-20 18:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by ShrunkenFro™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, well done for making the decision.
If you make an appointment with your local Job centre, they can help you write out your CV and search for jobs in your field of experience or interest.
Debt-wise, the citizens advice bureau can help there. They have excellent debt advisers that offer a free service and can help you manage your money. They'll even talk to your creditors and help you set up managable payments.
Good luck (:
2007-09-20 18:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've hit the nail on the mate, step one is to get a job, the rest will fall into place eventually. Just concentrate on that first.
The jobcentre's useless, try some of the hundreds of job sites on the net, clean up your CV and send it to as many companies as you can, you'll get something soon enough.
Then it's just a case of saving hard, working hard and sorting stuff out one thing at a time.
Good luck bud
2007-09-20 18:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Al 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
well you have taken the first step admitting you need to get yourself together for your kids sake and your own,now you need firstly to get yourself a job so the job centre is a good place to start then if your debts are bad go along to your local cab office(citizen advice bureau)they will help you to sort them out,good luck hope it works out for you,your kids are very precious and wouldn't you rather them look back in years to come and say my dad was there for us loved and provided for us, or them growing up saying my dad was a waste of space never there when we needed him
2007-09-21 02:14:17 · answer #8 · answered by casha1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'weans' in scottish, is kids/children.
theres loads o places to find a job, the job centre,, u can claim job seekers till u find a job. its only £45 a week tho. try walking in2 shops etc an askin if theyre lookin for work. wot about goin 2 college?
2007-09-20 19:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by kazhw82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope that's not your real name. If it is, edit it quick before someone steals your identity.
By weans, I think you mean children. If so, you do need to get out and find a job and start helping support them. They are as much your responsibility as your ex's. It may take a while, but once you get a job and start helping, your ex will probably let up on you once she realizes how hard you are trying. CHIN UP!
2007-09-20 18:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋