I don't know. I always happenes that the more I like a guy the quicklier he wan't to run away! I can't understand why! All the other men like me a lot no matter how I treat them! To my own oppinion I treat those I don't like awful! I mean if they are in need I help them of course but if they just want to meet, I always say no, I behave really cold! Because of course I don't want them into my life! With those I like it's a total difference! I do everything for them! People open their mouthes when they see what things I do!.. I see a big treasure in every person I like even if in my mind I think that all the people equaly deserve to be loved. Well, so no matter how funny and beautifull I am those I like just run away one after another! Those I don't stay All by me! I have bought a book about how to behave with men and that we have to stay cold. I tried a bit. He got more attracted to me, the one who ra away before, but then I started again and he ran away again! I just can't be cold the one I love! How can I? When I behave so I feel like I am lieing and that it is not a true me! Because a true me is the one who does everything, and forgives everything. Please help me! Tell me what should I do! When I stay cold even those I like like me back, but in that case I feel that something good (that thing about willing to do everything) inside of me is dieing. It is a very hard feeling, like if you become a machine. Then once I open myself and do everything I want I feel free and like something hard has fallenof my shoulders. But the same moment guys first become happy and then run away. Well, tell me please what do you think I should do? :)
I thank you all very much! And lately I have become friends with another girl who is the same as me so you will help not only me!
Have a great day you all! And may all your problems go away!
Maria
2007-09-20 11:18:46 · 3 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Yes, Resiste, you have understood everything right!
2007-09-20 12:29:35 · update #1
Hel-lo, what do you mean by you are staying "cold"? If you mean that the guys run away just because you act the way you are, then they are not worth keeping in the first place.
Guys cannot be categorized into bins that say "the ones who like flirts" or "the ones who like the hard to get"
In my experience, they are all different and have different expectations and preferences. Just be friends with them, guys are fun to be with, and most of them do not really like t be placed in a pressure environment where they are supposed to respond in a special kind of way ( ie romantic, chivalrous, etc)
Some of your guy friends may want to introduce you to their friends who are "seekers" of meaningful relationships and if you happen to chance meeting one you like, well, there you go.
Seeker find seeker. End of love story.
2007-09-20 11:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have to be cold to them in order for them to go out with you do you really think they would be the best person for you when you went out? Just be yourself, you'll find somebody eventually. And if you want guys to stop chasing you, be their friends (don't get too close), or at least stop being cold if it turns them on so much.
2007-09-20 11:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by mikezcim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you act cold to keep guys off, but you are the opposite when you like a guy... right? But then you feel like you are not you when you warm up to a guy because it is not your nature... I am trying to get it right...
2007-09-20 12:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by resiste_lfc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋