I hate to sound self-centered.
My best friend (and only friend) now has a girlfriend. I'm happy for him, but I've never been in this situation before.
I've never really had friends because I've never understood friendship well, being very timid.
So now I feel really left out, he's spending all his time with his girlfriend and doesn't seem to care about me.
How can I live alone without someone to talk to? I suffer from depression and I'm very depressed at the moment, so this is rather unbearable.
Thanks.
2007-09-20 10:01:56 · 13 answers · asked by Blank 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should talk to your friend, tell him how you`re feeling. He`ll understand.
2007-09-20 10:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by Sammi♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all need friendships. Without them we get depressed. I know reaching out to people is scary but we don't grow alone. I've heard it said that Isolation leads to insanity. I think that's true. It definately leads to depression. Having more than one friend is good and healthy because you don't want to put all your emotional eggs in one basket!
Talking your feelings out with safe people will help! I'm speaking from experience. Check in with a councelor or perhaps a growth group in the community or church nearby.
Also a good book is 'Safe People' by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
Good luck! It'll get better!
2007-09-20 17:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, he's not abandoned you. He's just wrapped up in his relationship. This happens to everybody. When somebody gets together with somebody else, they spend a lot of the first period of the relationship around each other exclusively. Give him a week or two, or give him a call and explain that you haven't heard from him for a while, and you'd like to get together to hang out. Ask him to bring his girlfriend with him. Who knows, maybe you'll get along really well with her, too, and you'll have gained another companion.
2007-09-20 17:06:20 · answer #3 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sucks don't it. I had the same situation, kinda. I told him that I was glad that he has someone but he shouldn't turn his back on friends. And that he needs to balance out his time. He didn't need to spend every single minute with me but just hang out every once it a while.
I would try making more friends as well. He will spend a lot of time with her if they just started going out. And try for friends that are girls. It's a lot harder to carry a friendship with a guy or girl who starts dating and you're used to hanging with them. Good luck, just tell him how you feel.
2007-09-20 17:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sacrifice Yourself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the friend and try being friends with the girlfriend. If he likes her you probally should too.
Maybe all three of you guys could hang together.
And start having other friends.. maybe not best friends but just friends that you can call and talk to.. Or while your friend is out with his girlfriend call family to have the time go past.
Take up a hobby like painting (even if it is number painting!)
Talk to the girlfriend.. be friends with both of them... but when u are talking to her make sure u dont view her as the one who took him away from you!
good luck
2007-09-20 17:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by Nic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll likely have more time for you when the 'new' wears off their relationship, but the situation is common.
In the mean time, why not cultivate some more friends? No one single person should be your only friend and person who you depend on for all socializing and support...that puts a huge burden on them, not to mention stresses and depresses you when they are not available.
2007-09-20 17:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the best really is find new friends. That's the number one rule in my handbook :).
Meeting new people is how you communicate.
Even though he has a girlfriend, you still have him because he never said he didn;t want to be your friend......
Ask him to hang out wiht you some days and some days he can hangout wiht his girlfriend.....
If i were htere I would be your friend
2007-09-20 17:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by vintagelove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe try to start some activities that involve the 3 of u and you can get to know the girlfriend better. or maybe see if your friend will let you and him spend some time just the two of u if his girlfriend is doing something else!
hope i helped
2007-09-20 17:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG thats so crazy because that happened to me too!! But I told her how I felt and she adjusted things so that it would be better....even though he wasn't very happy I didn't care because friends *** WAY before boyfriends especially when their ur best friend
2007-09-20 17:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how bout..u make new frnds???
meet new people and be bold enough to talk to them...
Trying isn't goin 2 hurt u ...
u have 2 get used to such things..in life
2007-09-20 17:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friend.
my friends do that alot...like they have someone new and "love" and they want to spend all their time with that person. but once they get tired of eachother and break up its usualy the same.
but tell your friend how u feel and he will probally be like "oh crap!! my badd" lol
2007-09-20 17:07:49 · answer #11 · answered by iloveyoubby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋