ok so i told one of my friends i liked her, but she didnt believe me cause im not the most serious person in the world. and its been almost 3 months since and she told me she didnt wanna be friends anymore cause 'i told her something and then 3 months later said just joking' but the only thing is i really liked her and i only agreed to it being a joke because her gf threatened to beat me up if i wasnt joking. but now she wont even talk to me and i cant stop thinking about her and i feel bad cause she was one of my only friends who i actually respected and now she wont even look at me. i need some ideassss on what to do?
2007-09-20 09:35:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
HI!... I know you aren't happy about how things are going. I would write her a note and tell her your feelings and also let her know that you do respect her and her wishes and in your caring for her you will give space if she doesn't want to be your friend any longer. I would list the things in the past that you both have done together or talked about or things that would make her laugh or smile and remember what was so great about your friendship. Then give her the letter and don't bother her and let her come to you. You can apologize in the letter about the misunderstanding but I wouldn't focus on it or get her upset. GOOD LUCK and hope this helps you.
2007-09-20 09:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to get her on her own and try to explain where you were coming from. Your feelings are just as important as hers. She has had the chance to tell you what she was thinking now its your turn. Be honest with her and tell her exactly how you feel and if she still doesn't want to have anything to do with you, then she was never your freind to begin with. I'm sorry for you if this doesn't work, but my mother told once, that if you have five real freinds in a life time you're a very privliged person. Real freinds are true freinds and will love and listen unconditionally. GOOD LUCK my freind!
2007-09-20 16:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by FLIT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried apologizing to her. Maybe if you call her on the phone and ask if you could please talk about the situation. Ask her to meet you some place where you can discuss things calmly and you won't be disturbed. Some place where other friends won't influence her decision. Explain the situation to her. Then apologize and be sincere when you say it will never happen again. Finally take steps to make sure that this kind of thing does not happen again. You will show her then that you are true to your word.486
2007-09-20 16:43:55 · answer #3 · answered by The PENsive Insomniac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okae...well im experienced at thing like this...i once denied liking this girl who i pretty much adored for like ever...and i denied it infront of her because i was scared...and everyone was cappin on me and putting me on blast...it sucked coz as much as i wanted to tell her how i feel...i couldnt...so i denied it...coz her gf...is like the jealous type and i didnt want to be in a position where i will cause a lot of drama...the thing of it is...if her gf thretened you that shes gonna beat you up...you shouldnt be afraid...ur still the girl's friend and if she loves her and respects her she shouldnt hurt you...i think there might have been a chance that she felt the same way...but because you sed you were joking you might have hurt her feelings...i way i hurt my friends...she doesnt speak to me ne more either...she ignored me after i denied her...and she was really sweet to me b4 the whole incident...but now...things are starting to unfold and were starting to talk to each other again...its been a YEAR...it takes time...and maybe you just need to get out there and let her know how you feel...if you dont tell her you'll never know if she felt the same way or not...GOOD LUCK!
2007-09-20 16:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recomend you asking your self what you really want if to have her as a friend or try to get to know her more to the point of starting a realtionship with her. as wat you've said she has a gf right well if you know that she really loves her gf i think you should respect that and just try to have her as your friend instead sometimes that work better then trying to make her your gf. I mean you also have to know if she would really want something with you too. So just get your head together and think i would recomend you having her as a friend and try to get to know her in that way better and who know maybe you like her more or maybe you actually realize that she's not for you. Just think about it. good luck
2007-09-20 16:52:18 · answer #5 · answered by Darkangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that youve change your not the same as before your more mature, and dont really joke nomore when your around her make her take you seriously then you can really tell her look i really like you since along time and would like to go out with you. invite her out like movie theater etc.. i hope you get this girl and be serious about it, you wont get it if you joke around alot. Good luck! :)
2007-09-20 16:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter, saying all of what you just said, especially the bit about his threatening girlfriend.
If hes any type of person you want as a friend, he'll listen to you and she will loose a boyfriend. You will also gain a protector as a mate.
2007-09-20 16:42:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what part of what you told her made her upset.....and apologize for making her feel bad and that you had no idea. Tell what a good friend she is and that you wouldnt like to lose a good friend for something like that :)
2007-09-20 16:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by super1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think she does not like you. She doesnt want to hurt your feelings so she made up the excuse that she doesnt believe you...
2007-09-20 16:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by tou2yaj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST come out with it! You need to tell her the truth. If she is still disrespectful to someone who is honest with her, then she doesn't deserve your attention.
2007-09-20 16:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by tlimsisnw7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋