I have waited a long time and I just want to be married once but I know things happen in life and this can be unrealistic???because of death, change in life experiences etc...what doyou think?????
2007-09-20 09:31:41 · 43 answers · asked by Rita 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow many different prospectives on marriage from you all interesting thanks :))))
2007-09-20 10:58:26 · update #1
I can't beleive there are so many negative people in the world. I was married for 8 years and have 3 children. It turned out the marriage was a terrible mistake and we were both misarable. We divorced. I am now with the my soul mate and have been for 2.5 years and we are planning a winter wedding. To remarry is not a bad thing and it is completely possible to be in a much better situation the 2nd time around and to be happier than you ever thought you could be!
2007-09-20 10:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Julie T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I all ways thought I would only be married once. I was married 16years you are right about life. You can't make some one love you enough to do the right thing. Anyway that's another long story. I ended up divorced. My family, friends, everyone was shocked. My manager at work told me we were the last couple that she thought would ever divorce. So be realistic. Divorce can happen. Death can happen. But life is all about the choices we make. You may choose to marry once. Marriage is also about working through life and the problems we face in life. It takes two people in the marriage both trying to make it work.
2007-09-20 09:45:18 · answer #2 · answered by Janst 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my first marriage was a joke, and I was only married for 5 years, he cheated on me all the time, I am remarried and been married 10 wonderful years and I don't regret it one bit, somethings are just meant to be, whether it be your 1st or 5th, I say don't pass up a chance of a lifetime, but if you only want to do it once, than be picky as H*** about it and know deep in your heart, that this is the first and last.
2007-09-20 10:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by robink71668 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't never predict the future. I used to be very afraid of married again, after my first one fall apart at a very young age with one kid. I told myself why get married and then get divorce .But I end up got married again after almost 10 years. Because, my husband now of 3 yrs(6yrs together) convinced me life is too short, should live happy. So, never say never. I hope this is it. But at this age, I am still trying my best work on my marriage if there are any problems, and try not to just give up or careless like when I was young.
2007-09-20 10:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by Lilian 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Four stages of marriage:
1. Young and inexperienced; sex is great!
2. Want a partner to have children and stability; enjoy sex together, but tired a lot of times because of the children.
3. Partner is trying to reach the top of the corporate ladder and ignores
you and the children, never home, you vacation with the kids. Sex is infrequent.
4. Want to enjoy your life with someone as a companion, kids are out of the house, and you are looking for a soul mate. Found someone to enjoy with deep love and affection.
A wise professor told me there are four stages of life in a marriage and if you can find the perfect mate, you can over come obstacles. If not, four husbands would be the answer!
2007-09-20 10:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by Nancy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 2 times now, this time for 16 years. Rena, we all want to take our vows seriously, but sometimes things happen that just make that impossible. Had my first marriage not ended, so many of the beautiful people & things in my life that I have experienced just would not have happened. It also opened the door for him to find another relationship, he has been married much longer, I think around 24 years. Sometimes honey, the "rules" just don't apply.
2007-09-20 10:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage means nothing; its just wordily acknowledgment of a commitment that has already been made. What means something is what each person in the marriage is willing to do to continue the commitment. Some will kill to keep the commitment others will bow out at the first opportunity. Marriage is something that in truth exists within the heart and mind and has nothing to do with legal BS. In fact, truth is there are many couples out there that are truly one in body, mind and soul without ever having committed to the legal definition of marriage. God sees the heart and mind, not man's laws. Legal marriage is a farce.
2007-09-20 18:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it could be possible for me to marry more thAn once in the event of my wife's death. It sure would not be due to a "change in life experiences," whatever that means. Marriage is about commitment, and if you really understand a person's values, nothing about him is going to change so drastically as to result in divorce, unless he becomes mentally ill or develops an addiction. Find someone for whom marriage means a lifetime commitment.
2007-09-20 09:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been married four times.....
1. Wife had an affair, I was out, he was in.
2. Walked away from this one. I did not want to wake up in the middle of the night to find someone above me with a knife.
3. Married someone I should have never been with. She's dead now.
4. Happily married for 6 yrs.
The Rat
2007-09-20 09:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never say never. I was married for almost 23 years. I've been divorced for 3 years, and everyone keeps bugging me about dating! I'm just enjoying being by myself after such a long marriage. I haven't met anyone I even want to go out with, let alone marry. I don't understand these people who do it time after time.
More than one time, maybe, but not likely.
Good for you for waiting for the perfect mate!
2007-09-20 10:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋