question... since you got married does it seem to you that just about every day you are constantly doing stuff for other people and almost never for yourself??
I must say that its not all coming from my wife.. it seems that once I got married my whole family has decided how reliable I am and are always getting me to do stuff for them, almost like they expect me to always do it...
2007-09-20 09:26:32 · 7 answers · asked by Hippie Man Aka Penguin Crusade 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I also have to add that most of the time I DON"T want to do any of the stuff ...
2007-09-20 09:34:46 · update #1
before I was married no one thought I was responsible... now all of a sudden..
when I do say no i get whines and complaining.. so I'd rather just do it then listen to the crap.
2007-09-20 09:37:08 · update #2
its more complicated then saying "no thank you"
I guess they also make me feel guilty
2007-09-20 09:38:52 · update #3
I work full time, come home clean the house cook my wife dinner(she works at a law firm and works alot so thats cool) its just people don't consider the fact that i'm tired as hell and it seems liek they don't care.
2007-09-20 10:32:11 · update #4
Yeah, thats life dude. I know my wife thinks I'm Fort Knocks! She will bounce checks, waste money and then turn around and expect yet another bail out.
She holds out the beaver when I don't. Ain't that some crap?
2007-09-20 09:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a grown man, I would have thought that someone at some point, perhaps a parent or a teacher, would have taught you how to say, "No thank you."
Later edit: You must not mind doing what they want very much if it's better than hearing some whining. However, you don't even have to listen to the whining. If they ask you to do something over the phone, you say no, and they start whining, just say, "Oops, gotta go, bye!" and hang up. If you're at their house, leave. If necessary, avoid them. As long as you continue to reward them by giving them what they want for the behavior of asking, and also for the behavior of whining, they will have a powerful disincentive to stop.
2007-09-20 16:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Married life does bring more responsibility but it sounds like people are beginning to take advantage of you. You just have to learn how to say no without feeling guilty and without letting anyone pressure you into changing your mind
2007-09-20 16:53:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the past, do you expect them to do the work for you? If so, what comes around goes around
2007-09-20 16:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Work in IT, then you get to be everyone's personal support for their computer problems.
2007-09-20 17:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them a little cheese with that whine.
Do you have a job?
The rat
2007-09-20 16:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The word for today is "no". You might want to learn how to use it.
2007-09-20 16:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋