I keep very few people close to me mainly my gf and family, lately my gf has told me I need to find some friends. It just seems funny to me, my ex wife always told me the same thing. Is this true?
2007-09-20 09:20:37 · 17 answers · asked by Big D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To answer some of the questions. I let my gf do what she wants with her friends and family, they come and go as they please. I attend college full time and am around people most day's just don't feel like interacting with people. To much hassle in dealing with to many people. My gf has one friend of hers she has tried to kind of force me to be friends with and I cannot stand this person. I have day's to where I want friends and then day's to where I am glad there is no-one around.
2007-09-20 10:04:30 · update #1
Well, its one thing to have quantity friends and yet another to have quality friends. If you are perfectly happy with the people in your life, then don't worry about it. Most women are social butterflies and we feel the need to spread the word about having friends. Truth be told (at least in my case) I would rather just have a couple of really good friends that I hold dear to my heart than tho have a slew of "friends" that aren't really all that significant. Does that make sense? Let her spend her time with her friends and maybe she will lay off you about getting friends.
Okay, once again I am rambling. But, I think you get my point. Good luck to you both :~)
Now, are you complaining to her all the time that you are lonely or that you want to do stuff (that she can't necessarily do with you)? Or, are you holding her back from doing things with her friends? If you are, you need to stop doing that. What is fine for her is not fine for you.
2007-09-20 09:39:08 · answer #1 · answered by Slipped Halo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I have very few friends. I have a bf and my family as well. To me having to many friends is just stressful because your gf doesnt like them, or this person doesnt like that person so you have to split your time between everyone. Sometimes its better to have just who you need in your life. Id rather have a few friends then a bunch of aquantinces (however you spell that) I mean if you had one guy buddy that would be good, you dont need a million people.
2007-09-20 09:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no..What i mean, is that i myself only have like four frends i really know i can trust, i do know more ppl, i just dont care much for them...My family is really weird and kinda cruel so i like staying away from most of them, besides my mom...she is my BEST FREIND ever... U may also just not get along very well with ppl ur own age. The only friend that is my age, is pregnant, and im pretty much the only frend she still has...while my other frend is like a yr younger then me, but being the guy that he is, he acts older sometimes, but is REALLy immature most of the time. then my last frend is in his 40's hes also one of my moms frends...so hes cool..everyone always says that i needd to socialize more, and i am forever telling them F*** u, i am not a ppl person wen almost everyone i used to know would stab me in the back..SO i think she is just worried that u dont have frends...but hell, the ppl who r close to u, u really do kno, so i prefer ppl like that, i kno i can than trust them..hope ihelped some...
2007-09-20 09:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by *♥* N. D. *♥* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally! Friends are a good thing to have because good friends can help you when you are in trouble, make you laugh and give you a shoulder when your down. you can never go wrong having friends, but if you are content without friends you should just go on living life and loving those who are close to you.
2007-09-20 09:34:15 · answer #4 · answered by Greek God 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with the people you have around you, I see no reason to have more if you don't want them. Maybe they need more friends around them, so tell your girlfriend to invite friends over and you will try to get to know them. If you don't enjoy them, then there is no need to have a bunch of people that you have nothing in common with around.
2007-09-20 09:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends are basically people who you love being around with, people who you can confide in and just someone to pass time with. if you know a person like this, you only need that one friend. usually people without at least one person to talk to get really messed up. (no offense)
2007-09-20 09:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by sushiwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. some people have things that they need to ask a friend .Friends are good 'sounding boards'.others like to be left alone unless they're not comfortable being alone you have your family, your girlfriend...a few guy buddies wouldn't hurt but don't give them too much info...
2007-09-20 09:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by don't be a hater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason she may have said this is because she wonts you to to have a socal life and not just a life that revolves around her, join some clubs, meet new people-u will have fun!!
2007-09-20 09:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by jenlouise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having friends helps sometimes. I have some friends but i have nothing in common with them. It may sound horrible but they arnt terribly important to me. They cant cheer me up etc. Im not very sociable but you dont need friends if you dont feel like it.
2007-09-20 09:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you need some friends to talk about stuff with. I'm sure you cant talk to your gf about how much your gf is getting on your nerves.
Its good for your relationships and for you to have someone to talk to and have fun with besides your gf or wife.
2007-09-20 09:27:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mike G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋