My husband and I have been together for 12 years and married for 6. In December of last year I moved out and got a place of my own. I was hoping that we would be able to get along better this way and maybe fix a few communication problems we have. Since I moved out he has become very distant toward me and I can't decide weather it is worth fighting for. We have had a farely rocky relationship from day dot and have always had trouble communicating with each other. He drove me out of our home with verbal abuse and threats, so I thought maybe it was time to move on. I know that he still loves me as I do him, but where do you draw the line? In the last few months he has taken his wedding ring off and has been reserved about our relationship. We still have not resolved anything, because when I bring it all up he changes the subject constantly? How am I expected to fix all this on my own? I ask this because I really want my marriage to work.....Please, any advise would be greatly appreciate
2007-09-20 09:15:46 · 6 answers · asked by FLIT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me get this straight - you moved out as a way to improve communication? For starters, that is very backwards logic.
If you want to improve the relationship and find a way to make t work, you're going to have to be in the same room. See if you can move back in. Then start by being nice to each other.
Of course, if he is, as you say, abusive, it may be time to move on anyway. I assume, since you didn't mention it, that there are no kids involved.
2007-09-20 09:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Salinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on, give it up. You don't communicate, without that how can you make it work. Yes you love him, but love is not enough. You have to be able to talk to each other, if you are going to fix any problem. From the way you make it sound, he doesn't care about fixing any of the problems.
2007-09-20 09:27:17 · answer #2 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sad to say that it sounds like you're husband had little regard for you then and has even less regard for you now. The fact that he's taken his wedding ring off says that he is no longer committed to you and is most likely seeing someone else. You cannot fix any of this on your own...it takes both of you and from what you've said, it doesn't sound like he's interested in doing that. I would take steps to leave him for good...you deserve much better!
2007-09-20 09:38:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell you this, but your marriage is over. Your now wasting time. You're married to an abusive creep who will never change (they never do). So, I'm not sure what part of your marriage your hanging on to? It's over. File and move on.
2007-09-20 11:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what he's been trying to tell you for months now. Your marriage is over. Get a lawyer.
2007-09-20 09:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fixing a marriage has to come from both sides. Or it wont get fixed. All you can do is try!
2007-09-20 09:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋