ok, i just found out that one of my best friends in the world, chris, is practically in love with me, i was going to a movie with him, and two of our other friends that night, and he didnt know that i was there yet(at his house), and he was in his bedroom, with one of our friends matt, and he was just going on, and on, about how amazing, and beautiful I am, and that he loves me more than anything, and that he really wants to kiss me, and someday when we're older, he said that he wanted to probably marry me, and ive like only known him sense we were two!, but i dont want to risk our friendship, but, i think i love him too, just i dont know if its in a brotherly/friendly way, or, like LOVE,LOVE, like romance love, like buttercup, and westly love, like romeo and juliet love, like... well i think you get my point, soooo if ya dont mind HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-20 09:06:35 · 18 answers · asked by sk8a_chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WELL SEE IF HE STARTS TO ACT ON HIS FEELINGS FOR YOU. WHEN HE DOES, AND YOU LIKE IT, MAYBE YOU SHOULD SUGGEST THAT YOU TWO GIVE DATING A TRY. IF YOU DONT FEEL THE SAME, GO AHEAD AND LET HIM KNOW THAT.
2007-09-20 09:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by LIZ G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Romeo and Juliet style love only lasts a few years. With luck, it grows into something much deeper, if less passionate or hormonal. If you're getting married for the passion, or because all your hormones go on red alert when you see the guy, you're getting married for the wrong reasons. My advice is, when you get to the point when you're serious about getting married, marry someone who you're friends with, as well as in love with. You'll have a better chance at a long-term relation if you're both friends with each other.
But right now, you sound like you're both in junior high. So date the guy, and maybe give him a kiss or three, and see what you think. If it doesn't work, then stay friends. You know that will still be there for you. If you don't date him, you'll always wonder.
2007-09-20 09:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear frnd,
this is always a very tricky situation to handle...
all i can tell u is ask urself whether would want to spend ur entire life with this frnd of urs....
its always wonderful to find a life partner in ur frnd, i did so and i am very happy with her...
he seems to be a very stable guy as he says one day in the future he would love to settle down with u as his wife...
but i guess he hasnt proposed u right... so der u go u get to know and understand and even test him before he pops up the question to u....
even if he does so, sooner than u expect dont panic nor u shud loose out on an opportunity of having the best frnd in the whole wide world as ur MAN.... just asking him for more time if u think u are not ready....
from all u have said he seems like a guy whom one can rely on so dont make a foolish mistake of making him ur brother...
best of luck and dont worry abt anything just think before u act... take ur time... m sure he will give u all the time u want to decide if he really loves u... he will wait if he loves u...
2007-09-22 04:49:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my best friend, and let me tell you, there is nothing better in the world. I can understand the concern of risking a friendship, but the reward if the relationship works can be worth all the risk. And if the relationship doesn't work, as long as you are kind to each other, you can be friends afterwards -- it does happen.
2007-09-20 09:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Listen now that you know how he feels, why don't you talk with him and tell him that you are scared to mess up the beautiful relationship you both have created by dating. and if you both decide to date, promise to each other you both will never let it end with a fight but instead with a friendship regardless of what ever the reason for breakup was. Be happy! and good luck!
2007-09-20 09:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-09-20 12:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by minootoo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont provide up, I mean play the pal container for a lengthy time period and probably he will see you in a distinct gentle, I mean as a female friend.... yet once you imagine you're waiting to flow on, do exactly it. I had an identical project even as i replaced into in highschool (interior the military now). I had diverse acquaintances that were females and this one woman quite beloved me, yet I in worry-free words talked about her as a pal, we did get quite close and he or she has almost change into my perfect pal, yet thats all I see her as is a pal, its probable troublesome listening to this yet its the truth.... Sorry yet, I actual haven't any suggestion that would want to help you to regulate his ideas about you
2016-10-20 02:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you know his feelings, just wait. Don't tell him you over heard what he said to your friend. Wait to understand how YOU feel and if you understand to love him too, let this feeling grow. Make sure you really love him, otherwise you might hurt him very much. It happened the same to me...I took my time to be very sure of my feelings and now we are the happiest couple on Earth! We are not just friends, we are everything and it is great. My best wishes, good luck.
2007-09-20 20:27:48 · answer #8 · answered by RisingPhoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husbands are aplenty in this world, friends are not.
And shorchanging an excellent friend for an indifferent husband is not a good option. you will regret the decision lifelong.
Desert him. After five years, he will learn and friendship will restart. But NEVER EVER marry him.
2007-09-21 19:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by sexy grandmother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its great that he thinks of you like that. BUt you cant just "think" you love him back. If you love him you would know it, you would get the butterflies in your stomach everytime you seen him. I think its just something you guys would need to sit down and talk about with eachother and express your feelings and listen to how he feels about it. I mean we can't really tell you what to do about this. This is all you and him. Just take the time to talk about it.
2007-09-20 09:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should get together with him, and if things don't work out, then you know that its just a friendly or brotherly love
2007-09-20 09:12:54 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋