I am not here to gripe about my husband. I SERIOUSLY want to know the best way to ask a husband to do something, AND GET IT DONE, without being a nag or a pain in the rear. Things that are "guy" jobs, and that if I do it myself, he says "I was going to do that," even though it has been months since it was called to his attention.
First, how do I make the request?
How long should I wait until asking again?
What if it is something that is causing damage (such as a leaky roof)? Should I do it myself, or call someone to do it, if he does not do it in a certain amount of time? What amount of time?
Maybe there is no solution, but I would gladly take some guy advice.
2007-09-20 09:05:29 · 13 answers · asked by panamaniac 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the best thing I can say is to not raise your voice or throw it in his face that he never fixes anything. Don't call anyone to fix in hopes he gets jealous and tries to do it himself. Ask in the morning he is off that way if he has something planned later on he can knock it out and go about his business. Like if he had planned on watching football all day then don't wait till he makes his snacks and kicks his feet up to relax to tell him. Hope this helps
2007-09-20 09:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by Francisco B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Every guy will respond different and you know your husband best and what might motivate him to get something done.
For example, a leaky roof. Lets just say for the sake of argument that you have asked him to do it and it has just not been done. Maybe just having a list of roofers in the area written down with phone numbers and a blank spot for price quotes. "Joe's Roofing" 555-1212 Quote:$_______ and then leave it where he is sure to see it. When he asks about it, just simply say, "I did not want to become a nagging wife, but the roof really needs to be fixed before we end up with a real big bill for water damage." You did not nag, did not ask, just reminded him it needed to be done and if he does not tell you that he is going to do it, call a roofer. That way you are not being sneaky either, it is all up front.
2007-09-20 09:16:43 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sex normally gets them moving
slob jobs really get them on the ball lol
but seriously your husband is not a child he should know what needs to be done with out all the extras listed ^
talk to him let him know how you feel and that you don't want to be a bi*ch but that you will be a big one if he don't start doing what he as the man of the house should be doing
maybe you should hire a really hot sexy man to do the "guy" jobs and just tell him tired of asking or did not want to bother you so i hired him
2007-09-20 09:37:11 · answer #3 · answered by summerbliss 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may sound cheesy but something like "You know, I was thinking of wearing that french maid outfit and getting a little naughty but that leaky roof is distracting me. Honey what can we do to take care of that nuisance so I'm fully focused 'mon amie'".
Cheesy, but very very effective.
2007-09-20 10:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of the question you fairly need to ask is, "could I bypass away my abusive husband?". the respond is for particular! You being pregnant does no longer substitute who he's, now you will have 2 infants being raised like that fairly of one! Do your self and your infants a desire and get out! you will no longer ought to nag anymore! maximum suitable of excellent fortune to you and your infants.
2016-10-19 05:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to Mars. If you call someone, you make him feel less than a man. If you ask him, then you're a nag, and if you do it yourself, then you're intruding. I'm a man, I know, because I'm like your husband.
Here's my advice, ask him once in a while. Know that he's going to do it when he gets around to it. Smile and say "okay". Guys get easily distracted.
Sorry. You aren't going to find a good answer to this that won't won't result in resentment.
2007-09-20 09:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by lu_dicrous 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I haven't been able to find a solution either. Guys don't want to be told, begged or otherwise asked to do anything. They want to do what they want to do when they want to do it. Sex is a way to get a man to do just about anything, but I don't believe in trading services. You should want to do it because I'm your wife ...
2007-09-20 10:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, i'm not a guy but, the best way i've found(other than sex) is to make an appt to have someone come and do it for me. the idea of having to pay someone else to do what he can, is to much to bear. he's up and doing it within 24 hrs. i know it sounds a bit childish or sneaky, but it works.
2007-09-20 09:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quid Pro Quo: Exchange sex for prompt attention. The harder the job, the wilder the sex.
Yes, it really IS that simple.
2007-09-20 09:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by terry m 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
make a list that's prominently displayed, and put the tools/whatnot next to it.
if it really matters - start to do it yourself... which will make 'em feel bad, and give you reason for many things if he doesn't help.
DO NOT make him do anything/everything NOW. be rational - and diplomatic :)
& take into consideration work, relaxation, 'Lone Gunmen' episodes.. etc.
2007-09-20 09:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by bandaidsrcool 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋