I hate Christmas and i am prohibited to celebrate it because i am an atheist.But my G.F is Christian and loves dreaded Christmas and celebrates it with a massive party each year.
Then she annoys me to come to her Christmas party,but i cant and dont wanna celebrate Christmas.
We have been fighting over this for the last 3 years and you know what ........i am sick of it.
The fight begins at the start of each December;she invites me to her Christmas party and i say i CANT COME .........and i guess you get the idea(she could be pretty stuborn at times).
So please gimme a good excuse or way to escape from her Christmas party with out pissing her off.
And my parents are also another problem.You see i am all alone in my room during Christmas enjoying myself by playing my favorite video games.Then my parents knock on my door and ask me to sing carols with them.Then i say i dont wanna because i am an atheist and there is a BIG fight between me and my parents.
2007-09-20 09:05:22 · 12 answers · asked by FREAK F 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
what i wanna know is how can i make my parents understand that i cant and dont wanna celebrate Christmas.
Ps - They dont approve of me being an Atheist (ONLY SLIGHTLY).
2007-09-20 09:07:24 · update #1
Well all of them are also celebratin christmas,Its a commercial holiday dammit and i have a very few atheist budz who live very far away ..... so they wont be able to come.Second place thats not my question ...............................
2007-09-20 09:15:13 · update #2
You can't avoid their celebrations without pissing them off. Just the way it is. I think you are avoiding them because by going they will think you adhere to their beliefs. But what you believe is inside you so by attending their celebrations you are going to a party, nothing more.
And it isn't that you CAN'T go, it is that you prefer not to. And I agree that they shouldn't push you into singing the carols and such, your presence if you should attend is enough.
Good luck to you.
2007-09-22 06:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're an atheist you don't believe in God/Christ or anything so what difference does it make?
I'm not a Muslim, but if I were invited into a Muslim's home during Ramadan celebration, I would certainly would be pleased to go, would be respectful of the traditions/beliefs surrounding the celebration,be mindful my manners, and considerate of those surrounding me. That would be all that's required and it's not that big of a deal. It's truly not that difficult.
Why is that so friggin' hard for an atheist? Why are you "prohibited" from attending a Christmas party?
You don't have a faith to adhere to or a religion which "prohibits" you from doing anything.
I think the reason for the fights every December is that your girlfriend understands that if you don't believe in God or Christ, what's the big deal if someone you care about asks you to show up to a Christmas celebration? Shouldn't matter at all.
Who's being stubborn?
2007-09-20 16:21:45 · answer #2 · answered by biiiiaaach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you're prohibited to attend a christmas party? Why is that? What will happen if you do? Will it mean your no longer an athiest? NO IT WON'T because that just means you don't believe in any God's. So Why can't you go? Will something bad happen to you in an afterlife? AS AN ATHIEST YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN AFTERLIVES so there is no reason you cannot go.
For someone who calls themself an athiest you really don't seem to know a lot about it.
As an athiest you ARE NOT "prohibited" to go to a christmas party. I have completed extensive research on athiesm, and it does not in anyway advise atheists not to attend christmas celebrations. If you are an athiest it means you do not believe in God. Someone who does not believe in a higher being can still attend christmas parties! They just won't be getting the same enjoyment out of it as christians!
if you are serious about atheism, I would suggest you rent "The Age of the Earth DVD" by Kent Hovind. I'd brush up on what you actually know about atheism, because believing you can't attend a single party is ridiculous.
2007-09-21 05:44:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you could compromise with your parents and your girlfriend. Even though you don't share the same beliefs about the religion of the holiday, I am assuming that these are people that you love and care about. Maybe you could make an appearance at your girlfriend's party for her sake, (not because of the religious meaning of the day). If that isn't possible for you, maybe you should sit down now and explain in a non-confrontational way with your GF and parents and tell them that you don't want to argue or fight, but this is your decision and ask them to respect your wishes, but make sure your reciprocate the respect.
2007-09-20 23:02:37 · answer #4 · answered by Laura E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, if you do not feel that Christmas is a holiday for you, then I can respect that.
But is it so hard, really, to just celebrate (in a low-key way maybe) the end of one year and the beginning of a new one?
If you want to fight the forces of fantasty and irrationality, you have my admiration.
But I think that you may not be choosing the battle very wisely.
Why don't you just make your girlfriend and your parents happy? You can have a good time doing it.
2007-09-20 16:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by Robert K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't believe in god doesn't mean you can't celebrate Christmas. It actually didn't start as a Christian holiday (it started as a Pagan holiday) and is now a national holiday - I'm not Christian and I still do Christmas with my family.
Why don't you look at it as a time to spend with your family and not as religious holiday? Atheism isn't like a religion with rules on what you can and cannot do or celebrate.
2007-09-21 09:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by tink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an Atheist and I celebrate Christmas in the sense that it is a time to gather with family and loved ones and to dedicate time to come together and find peace and community in the midst of our busy lives. We do not live in the same states as our parents, and Christmas, as a nationally recognized holiday, is a guaranteed block of time off of work for all of us.
Maybe your gf's party is about you spending time with her. Sing non-religious songs, like Rudolph, or I want a hippopotamus for Christmas, or stuff like that with your parents. Try to not be bitter and look to enjoy the time together with your gf and family and put a smile on your face - if you feel bad at that time of year, it is because of you, not because of other people.
2007-09-21 03:48:16 · answer #7 · answered by DSL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read up on Pagan theology. You're a young person and need to decide what you are, give yourself some time to go on your quest. xtian celebrations are fun, the music is wonderful, the food is great...why stay in your room and be stubborn, nobody is looking.
2007-09-21 13:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by lpaganus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm an atheist and christmas is my favorite time of the year!! it may not represent the birth of jesus to me but there is a different attitude at christmastime. people are friendly and there are colors and decorations everywhere - i love it.
2007-09-21 19:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...
Get over yourself goth boy come out of your dark room into the day light and suck it up for your girlfriend doing things you dont want to do is part of life and with age you will realize this....if you love her and your family you can attend there parties....if they can accept your "athiestness" you can accept there beliefs...
2007-09-20 16:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋