I like being a homemaker but feel like society says I can't and men don't want that anymore (I am in my early 50's). Any thoughts from the men out there.
2007-09-20 08:39:31 · 30 answers · asked by Snively 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just like the women on the brooms!
2007-09-20 08:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason you can't or shouldn't be a homemaker. If that is what you want to do and you can afford it then you should. I have no problem with my wife staying home. The fact that she doesn't do hardly anything all day is where I have a problem. One load of laundry and the 15 minutes it takes to vacuum the house does not count as homemaking. Even considering she has 2 kids under 3 years at the house. I get more than that accomplished after I get home at 5:30 and she says I am lazy and do nothing.
2007-09-20 15:48:16 · answer #2 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister's in her early 50s and has been a stay at home mom for over 25 years. Her oldest is almost through high school so she just took a part-time job.
But her husband makes the kind of living that allowed her to do that. I don't think most people are in that economic position these days.
It's not so much that men disapprove of wives who don't have paid work as a feeling that these days it takes two to survive for most couples.
And BTW, "society" is you and me - it's not some abstract concept apart from the individuals who constitute it. If you say you can do something, you can't say "society" says you can't.
2007-09-20 15:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by pufferoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a man, but i think that if you had the luxury of staying home, that is great. I am also 50.
It takes a LOT of work and effort to keep a nice home (housework, not to mention the maintenance, like painting, yard work). If you worked, and had to chase kids around all your life, PLUS keep the house up at the same time, you'd know what TIRED is... believe me, you are fortunate.
I'm here to tell you that i recently met a man who wants to be "nice" to a woman -- yes he does, and he has ulterior motives.. he wans someone to move in, take over 1/2 of his financial obligations!!!! why should some women pay his mortgage? she didn't create it! (long story but the mortgage is the third loan on the house, and isn't the original, nor is the payment actually for the "house" itself). not only does he expect her to move right in and hand over her money, the man also wants to hand her his bills so she can write out his checks and make a budget for him, do his laundry, housework and help with upkeep of the home... while he works, comes home and sleeps from 6 p.m. til the next morning when he has to go to work...
He's not the only one ive met like this.
I have an education and am currently taking a course to be a microsoft expert.... i raised my kids.... and i've made a startling discovery.... i can be ALONE all by myself!
take care.
2007-09-20 15:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though I am only nineteen, I fully intend on having a "traditional" marriage (and have every promise of it). There are so many more career geared people out there today, and so many women have decided to put their career first...then start a family later when it is more convenient for them. I am in college, majoring in English, and am getting my Masters in Occupational Therapy. I love learning and wanted to pursue so many things, but more than anything else I want to be a good mother and homemaker. My mother was a homemaker for most of my life, and she is currently back in teaching (but for my growing up she was always there for us). The home is the most important sanctuary (an irreplaceable one), and teaching our children is one of the most important roles we will ever take on in this life (besides that of wife). You can always go back and have a career if you want...but with children, you have one shot (as with marriage). I do want to prepare myself in case I NEED to help support my family. I don't think that I will be forced to work...but if I must, I am choosing Occupational Therapy as something I could pursue, because I could work in a variety of settings, including school, and I will be doing something personally fulfilling (helping people, primarily those with disabilities, to help themselves). Perhaps being a homemaking wife and mother is not the most glorious "career" to the world...but for those whose lives you touch, it is the most glorious of all (there is not better place to make a difference). Mothers get to start a great rippling effect, as the lives they touch are able to touch so many others.
2007-09-20 17:07:12 · answer #5 · answered by Becca 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the day women talked about equal rights, the traditional men left the building...............LOL. Just kidding. Why listen to society, what has society done for us other then force us to conform.
Financial decisions are made between couples. My wife is a stay home mom and I am proud to be able to proved for my family.
2007-09-20 15:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who makes the society?..... we are. Its not a matter of men don't want you or any other women to be a homemaker, but its the increasing cost of living and day to day demand.
2007-09-20 15:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Muda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so right, thanks to our media the whole family unit has shifted roles, for lack of a better term. Shows like Everybody Loves Raymond and King of Queens show the woman as the dominant figure and the man as a wimp. Many kids are raised in single parent homes without male influence and the male role model. There are many men with strong traditional values. I raised my two sons to open the door and wait until the lady has entered before going in. Gentleman are still there but no thanks to our media and pop culture.
2007-09-20 15:47:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are still out there. Its really the women that don't want this anymore. They want careers. So when the feminist movement did away with the homemaker, guys had to adapt.
2007-09-20 15:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by danzahn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Certainly times have changed, back in the day mostly only on spouse would work but how the times have changed, now both have to work, then that's where it gets tricky. Since both husband and wife work then what hubby comes home and does nothing while wife had to attend to the children and do housework and make dinner......that's were 50/50 comes in....
2007-09-20 15:47:03 · answer #10 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about working from home? That way you can still earn an income while keeping house. Do you have any interests that you'd like to take to the next level and do as a business? Child care? Selling antiques via eBay?
2007-09-20 15:47:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋