I mean I feel horrible, but I've already done it once a few years ago, and that was fine, but now I have been saving up for a new car for the past two months (working 2 jobs) so I have the money, but I don't know if I should bail him out and just start saving again or let him sit in jail and feel horrible and maybe lose a friend (who is actually a good guy who has just made a few mistakes in his life)
2007-09-20 07:54:35 · 7 answers · asked by purplepurplesage 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Is your friend planning to pay you back? Since this is not the first time that he's in jail, I would rather lose a friend than make him think that you're always there to bail him out. He needs to learn from his mistakes.
2007-09-20 08:04:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs Apple 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His mistakes are his mistakes, not yours. You don't need to pay for them, he does. If he will stop being your friend because you won't bail him out, even after you explained the situation to him, then he doesn't really see you as a friend.
Explain the situation to him as gently as possible, your being fair to him and yourself, and if he ditches you then you most likely got rid of the main reason why he considers you a friend, that you'd bail him out and pay for his mistakes, and you don't want a friend like that.
2007-09-20 15:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by Todd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your friend pay you back the last time you bailed him out?
If he made sure you were compensated for any money you paid the previous time, then you would probably be justified in bailing him out again.
If he didn't, then don't bail him out this time. And tell him why too.
2007-09-20 15:37:04 · answer #3 · answered by Wyoming Rider 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once is enough. you have your own bills and problems to worry about. besides, you are not the one who did anything to get put in jail. Tell him to ask his family or some other friends, cause you don't have it to give. (Your savings, money YOU saved, is reserved for something YOU really need)
2007-09-20 15:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by Keva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not bail him out with your money and don't feel guilty about it.
You are not the bad friend, he is for making his "mistakes" your problem.
2007-09-20 15:07:16 · answer #5 · answered by raichasays 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bail him out...jail is no place for friends.
2007-09-20 15:02:19 · answer #6 · answered by astralpen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dismiss the value of "tough love". Sometimes letting somebody pay for their mistakes is the right thing to do.
2007-09-20 14:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by Michael C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋