or is it seen as representative of the patriarchal system of things?the archaic view that a woman's worth and only worth was that of maintaining her chastity??so she could be married off to a man....of all things!are alot of feminists sexually expressive and liberated women?
2007-09-20 07:45:13 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
oh sweety (john c) germaine greer is the village bike!or was,to be so now,her bike is rusty and pernicious.........
2007-09-20 08:01:35 · update #1
rio madeira i always thought you were 30 or something,must be the name huh
2007-09-20 08:02:55 · update #2
yeah your name!
2007-09-20 08:09:02 · update #3
I saved myself for a while due to cultural pressure, and I didn't know much about feminism back then. Now it's a bit too late to think about something I no longer have lol
The first time you have sex is often uncomfortable, emotionally insecure, nervous, painful and inexperienced---not sure if I would put too much value there. I would rather bypass that stage and get to where I am today---sex is much more satisfying (the before, during and after).
2007-09-20 08:06:29 · answer #1 · answered by Lioness 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Virginity isn't a "thing" so much as a state of being. Everyone at some time or another is a virgin. Its not something that can be changed because of archaic views of chastity. People (both men and women) will always begin life as virgins. The lack of sexual relations, or being a virgin, is something that has always been and will always be.
Virginity, as a time in a person's life, can only be valued in the way that all other times of life are valued. Being a child was great, no cares, people hug you, hold you, take care of you. Teenage years sucked...who knows what you're supposed to do with the surplus of hormones running around your body. That type of thing.
A great deal of emphasis is placed on the hymen as a way of decreeing female virginity. However, many women loose their hymen through sports, horseback riding, tampon usage, ect. Some women's hymens are actually stretchy enough to remain intact through sexual intercourse. So there is nothing resembling "proof" of virginity either way.
Virginity as a proof of chastity is meaningless and virginity as a state of being is universal to both male and female. Therefore, it is not something that can be valued or disavowed by anyone, including feminists.
2007-09-20 15:05:01 · answer #2 · answered by lkydragn 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It varies, as with all things in feminism. I waited until college, but I wasn't too into making it a big deal. It was more of a "thank god that's done with thing" for me, but I don't have an elevated view of sex. It can be special, but it doesn't always have to be rose petals and Fabio for me. Friends of mine, though, did and do consider it more special than I ever have, and they're all feminists.
I think your first time is almost always at least something to remember. Sex is a big deal, even if you don't believe it has to be romantic and special. And this culture sure puts a hell of a lot of pressure on women with regards to sex. The general impression I get is that most of us think there's way too much pressure and just sh!t placed on women and girls with regard to sexuality and being sexual, but that most of us still think that the first time can be quite special and that waiting is perfectly acceptable.
2007-09-20 17:33:32 · answer #3 · answered by random6x7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every woman should value her virginity. Once it's gone it's gone forever. A woman can be sexually expressive and still remain a virgin. Take me for example, I've had my share of fun and fooling around but I'm still a 38 year old virgin, in the technical, legal sense of the word anyway! Mind you, I'm not a feminist so that's irrelevant really isn't it?
2007-09-21 08:58:59 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Divine ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feminists just believe that a woman should do as she chooses with her own sexuality. If that means remaining a virgin, then that's fine. If she wants to have sex, that's fine too, but we encourage women to be smart about contraception and all their options.
As for a lot of feminists being sexually expressive and liberated... hell yeah! Who do you think demanded birth control and sexual choice and liberation in the first place? :)
Above and beyond anything else, the two most feminist things a woman can do are: love her body, and have orgasms. :)
2007-09-20 14:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by ©å®®ĩε 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
I sure did not "value" it. I valued my education FAR more, and still do. The "value" placed on virginity is mostly a religious - and, as Lioness suggested, cultural - requirement, and I do not value (though I do in certain aspects appreciate) the misogynist religion I grew up. A woman does not save her virginity "for herself" (unless, of course, she is waiting for the right person, which she should do); she values it for her male partner. Again, the focus is still, as always, on the pleasure and satisfaction of the male partner. (Do we actually expect men to save their virginity for us? Why isn't it a big deal for a woman to have a pure man? We should demand pure men.) If women were better educated about birth control and knew, biologically, what was going on with their bodies, if they weren't kept in the dark and told that men don't care half as much about their intelligence as their bodies, appearance, and/or "purity," women would feel much freer and better informed about making their own sexual choices. The way it is now, the religious right is making all possible attempts to force its own anti-birth control, anti-information, anti-scientific ideology onto everyone, even other countries currently struggling with AIDS epidemics.
There are lots of ways to have sex responsibly, and women have a right to KNOW about them and make their own CHOICES based upon this knowledge. Our friendly neighborhood religious conservatives would do anything to keep women uneducated about sex and uneducated about this country's and Christianity's own misogynist histories.
2007-09-20 15:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, being a feminist and keeping value for ur virginity don't have a lot of connection...being a feminist is to be a supporter of the view that women are better than men in general, but yes some feminists do forget the value of their virginity, while trying to prove the value of their gender...
i also know that a lot of women now a days don't value their virginity, but the majority do...and the way u've stated keeping ur virginity so that u can be married off, in my opinion is not right...yes it is true but u have said it quite indignantly...i think most men would prefer to break a woman's virginity, rather sleep with a woman who has already slept with some other guy...
2007-09-20 15:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by $he 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Feminism and lesbianism are 2 totally different things. Sexual intercourse when done in a loving relationship is special, care to ask Germaine Greer if she was a virgin when she penned "The Female Eunuch"?
2007-09-20 14:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by john s 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I don't know about anybody else but I never thought of saving myself for marriage. When I was younger, marriage wasn't exactly a goal for me and I certainly wasn't going to marry the first man who paid attention to me just so I could have someone to have sex with. Still, I'm not one of those who believes men or women should have lots of partners. I think people should wait until they have a serious relationship first before having sex.
2007-09-20 14:54:04 · answer #9 · answered by RoVale 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Virginity is an old-fashioned belief intended to subjugate women.
2007-09-20 22:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋