don't have it in the looks department anymore, you've aged badly, prematurley aged...your just not there!! ''
how do you handle it when a person puts you down like that?
iam really , really upset by this
2007-09-20 07:31:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sounds to me that the person who is saying this, is very jealous of you. Tell them to f off! Stay away from you. There crazy in the head. Nobody ever says this crap unless they have mental problems. Freak n evil SOB!
2007-09-20 07:45:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I get this all the time, I know I look a lot older than I am (about ten years older if estimates on my age are concerned) but it still really upsets me too. I think that some people (especially the physically or mentally ugly), especially those that criticise the appearance of others have a real problem with their own appearance or mental capacity to deal with someone that is better looking than them so try to find out what it is and subtly mention it every time you see them. This works for me and Hell, I have fun doing it.
2007-09-20 07:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well thanks that explains my problem what is yours? Would be my answer to morons like that for a start.
Anyone who want to make a person feel so bad about themselves is usually insecure, no confidence in their appearance and have low self esteem of THESELVES so what they do is by rubbishing someone else off it makes them feel good, boosts their confidence and self esteem for about half hour if lucky. Whislt the poor person they have done it to feels like crap for days weeks months ect. The nasty one will repeat this process over time because they need to keep feeding to boost themselves and leave the other person feeling worst each time.
You are a better person than this other person believe that, trust that and next time they start take a really good look at what they are trying to do and remember why because they are saying something that deep down they think they are not you.
2007-09-20 07:52:08 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is obviously a reason why this person would want to put you down??? He is however doing a great job in denting your self esteem and confidence. BUT DONT U LET HIM. He has had his say and he is not worth worrying about my friend - let this person go, you dont need that sort in your life. Focus on the positive aspects of yourself and life, try and be strong and put all this behind you. Good luck.
2007-09-20 07:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by blinds48 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Walk away! This person obviously isn't a nice person. Take a deep breath, and thank your lucky stars you didn't have to spend the rest of your life with them.
When you've had some you time, and moved on in your own head, you'll meet someone who loves you for who and what you are.
2007-09-20 07:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are obviously insecure about themselves and feel the need to put you down. Either pretend "they are not there" (although many times bullies HATE to be ignored) and move on or confront them head on verbally while keeping a cool head - do not let them think they have gotten to you. Try not to solve the problem with the use physical violence. Think Bugs Bunny before you resort to Tasmanian Devil.
2007-09-20 08:21:49 · answer #6 · answered by carmelcavalier 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is a bloke, attack...
Eye Balls, Low Balls and a knee in the Gob.
If it is a Woman, nothing you can do except soak it up; Women hate that.
Play the long game, the ''You are not there'' business is a dirty game aimed at getting under your skin.
So play the Mans' game; Thick Skin, Thicker Head and Teflon Shoulder pads.
2007-09-20 07:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by rogerglyn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess your maturing and the other person isnt. People go through stages in their lives, one thing is totally awsome your friends are great you love doing the things you do, then all of a suddden you get sick of it and want more from....something. Its normal, everyone does it.
There will always be people who will never achieve anything and want to keep their 'friends' at their level. If you are changing keep it up! Dont listen to people who are holding you back, if they are your real friends they will understand and deal with you change and support you.
2007-09-20 07:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends who it is. If it was someone I cared about it would upset me very much. If it was just a random person I'd probably sling a couple back at them.
Just remember, what kindof person are they if they think it's acceptable to say things like that to another human being?
2007-09-20 07:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by mirrors and smoke 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly where I know beauty is not for selling, unless one becomes a sort of slavery on other people's criteria, like if we could be puppets.
Beauty is thank God different and each of us have only two choices about it - either we do not care the slightest bit on others opinion and care the most we can on being well with our own or if we do care on others choose only the ones that care about you because for them you'll always be gorgeous.
Don't worry with that awful one - probably its throwing at you his/hers own frustrations. Stay away pitying for him/her and take the best care on yourself
2007-09-20 07:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋