I'm havin a real hard time mentally right now (check my profile for some issues) I've cut up my arm,scratch the hell out of my legs and am feeling exteremly suicidal. My therapist has been trying so hard with me that I don't want him to feel that I'm letting him down. I see him at 3pm (1 1/2 hrs from now) but I really don't want him to know what I'm going through right now in fear that he'll abandon the theraputic relationship in that he might feel I can't be helped. Suicide is my choice of action please don't comment on how wrong that would be. I really need to know what to tell my therapist. Thanx
2007-09-20 06:31:25 · 11 answers · asked by chantale 31 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
My sessions are free, I live in Ontario Canada.
2007-09-20 06:43:03 · update #1
Tell him the truth.
You said he's been trying hard with you. Then don't let his previous efforts go to waste by not telling him how you really feel.
If anything untoward were to happen to you, wouldn't he think that it's his fault for not detecting a problem? Wouldn't he think that maybe he gave you reason not to trust him with the truth? Would you want him to feel guilty?
Seriously, tell him the truth, and let him do his job. If you hide anything from him, you're certainly not helping yourself, or him at all.
2007-09-20 06:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by HCB 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you've made up your mind already, then it makes no sense to keep your appt. If you didn't want help or think that therapy could help you, you wouldn't be going. If your therapist has been trying so hard with you - as you said, don't you feel that you at least owe it to him to be honest and give him the opportunity to try to help you - knowing how you feel and what you're going through? That's his job. Always remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Even without knowing you personally, I know that situations in your life have changed a hundred times over the years and some of those changes have been good and some have been bad, and things will be changing again. I'm sure with all you've been through, your best days are still yet to come. Hopefully you'll be around to find out and to enjoy them.
2007-09-20 13:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Chantale, I am worried for you and have been following your questions. What do you want us to do for you? I lose sleep over you. Do you know that? We on Y/A can't help you and it seems you've got a therapist available up there in Canada that you don't want to take advantage of. My only suggestion is for you to move to a more populated area that offers more opportunities for you, ie..therapeutic, and new surroundings, and new people. Obviously you aren't very happy where you are. Did you ever hear the fable of the boy who cried "wolf"? When a real wolf appeared, no body believed him, and everybody suffered. Not a very happy ending. I'm sorry, but what do you gain by all of these crazy actions? That should be a no-brainer. Get well and best of luck. You are always in my prayers
2007-09-20 22:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Davey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pay for a therapist to help you with your problems. You have to be honest with him. You cannot feel you are "letting him down". If you don't tell him the truth and you hurt yourself, he will feel he let you down. Which do you want?
No doctor would abandon a patient feeling they can't be helped. He might think you need a better or different doctor but he will not just throw you to the wolves.
I think you should tell your therapist the truth and if he thinks you need a different doctor, go with that. Assuming this is a real question and the problem is a real one, you need help and you should let him help you.
If you are going to lie to him, just cancel the appointment. That is a waste of your time and his.
2007-09-20 13:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Feivel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold it hold it hold it! You are looking at this all wrong. Your therapist WANTS to help you! People have setbacks all the time. Your therapist is trained to deal with this!!! Tell him the ABSOLUTE TRUTH! If you feel like you're going to chicken out, then write down what you want to say to him and either read it or hand it to him at the beginning of your session!!!
He won't abandon you. Give it a chance! We all go through times like this (those of us that have depression, etc). You can make it through. Let the man do the job he has been trained to do!!! Tell him any way you can (verbally or on paper). You don't have to worry about letting him down, unless you give up.
Good luck! :)
2007-09-20 13:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth. This is the whole point of therapy, so you can open up, tell the truth and off load in confidence.
You should never say what you think your therapist wants to hear, it makes the session pointless.
Opening up is one of the first steps in taking back control of your life. He is not there to judge you but to help and advise other ways of thinking.
Be truthful with him, dont lie to him because you are then only lying to yourself too.
Good luck.
2007-09-20 14:32:30 · answer #6 · answered by Nik . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your therapist that you are severely depressed and contemplating suicide, and that you would like him to refer you to someone else who can help. In reality, you should be at a hospital right now. Please call 1-800-suicide if you can't wait for your appointment.
You're afraid of letting your therpist down - how would he feel if you killed yourself? That would be the ultimate letdown.
2007-09-20 13:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your challenges. I wish I could just so easy tell you how important you are and you do have a purpose here. It is just a matter of being patient and finding it. It is a matter of finding who you are and what you are about. You do matter. It is a matter of learning to love yourself and your world will open up to many possibilities.
Tell your therapist everything, everything......that is what he is there for. If he doesn't help, find another one.
good thoughts to you
2007-09-20 13:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way he can help you is if you tell him the TRUTH. The whole truth. If you don't tell him everything, you are letting him down. If he is a good therapist, he will not abandon you.
By not progressing, you aren't letting him down......you are letting yourself down. He is there to help you pick yourself up. Suck it up and just do it.
2007-09-20 13:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
open up to your therapist, HE IS THERE TO HELP YOU!! he cant possibly know whats going on in your head unless you tell him. he will not dismiss you i can guarentee you will feel 1000% better once you open to him about all of your demons. I was scared about the same thing with my therapist, and once i talked to her truethfully about what i was feeling, i felt like a huge weight was lifted and was able to actually feel like a normal human being. Please talk to him, you'll be so glad you did!
2007-09-20 13:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋