Or she we teach them "Safer sex, buy their own choice"? And are the ready to make such a choice on the own? I like to know peoples thoughts on what they truly think if congress didn't fund the public schools on the subject on "stay pure until marriage" for our teens?
2007-09-20 06:13:30 · 9 answers · asked by mrsalramey 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I think it is important to stress the possible ramifications of having sex before they are adult enough to deal with them. My parents made me carry a baby around for a whole month, I could do nothing without the baby (not a real one), and if a baby was in-appropriate to the occasion, I could not participate. I had to get up every two hours and feed it, change the diapers, wash the diapers, feed the baby, wash the baby....you know everything involved with actually having a child.
Then I got a lecture from a doctor on the effects of stds. With graphic pictures and case histories.
Then, I was given an account of money to manage for one month, with that account I had to pay the mortgage, the utility bills the groceries, the insurance, etc etc.....and of course the costs associated with the baby and any possible std. It really opened my eyes to the realities of life, I chose to remain virgin until I was married.
2007-09-20 06:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Personally, from bitter experience seeing sex get devalued and people suffering from carelessness causing std's and unnecessary abortions, this flower child has come to the conclusion after many years that this is a pretty serious societal problem.
I'm not naive. I don't think you can tell the raging mass of hormones and curiosity that is a teenager not to have sex. It's biologically absurd, and actually a major bit of hypocrisy in a culture that actually made Britny Speares a multi-millionaire for whoring it up as a teenager.
However I think that people need to have the sex talk much earlier with their kids than they might think. And be kind and understanding, AND informative. If you think the son or daughter is one of those that's going to go ahead and do the deed at the first opportunity (I have a teenage daughter, I can see the signs of curiosity quite clearly when it happens); then talk, provide information, explain how you feel about your own sexual awakenings, even sexual mistakes. Get real and stay real.
As far as your question, are they ready to make a safe sex choice: You can't kid yourself. Adults are careless, the culture is wanton and it's a crapshoot out there.
But honesty and kind and non-lurid sexual education is a very very good idea, in my opinion.
2007-09-20 13:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, I believe teach them both...but I also think it is realistic to think they will hold off until marriage. 13-17 years old is a long way to marriage and that is the ages when most become curious about their sexual being. Safer sex teachings needs to be emphasized. There are too many ways to make a crucial mistake to not teach them that safe sex is the best sex. Also...I learned a lot in my biology of sex by watching the movies and slideshows of what each and every STD looked like when it was in effect on a humans body...great way to NOT want to have unprotected sex.
2007-09-20 13:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by karamell08 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Trying to get a teen to wiat for marriage before having sex is absurd and nearly impossible. They cannot and will not understand it. Even if they believe it, it is too difficult for them to handle on their own. And what benefit does it really provide? The few who actually are able to carry out this ridiculous request will avoid pregnancy and catching STDs, but that's about it. If those two things are what we are trying to control, we should focus on those rather than religious morals. Sex education can and does work.
2007-09-20 13:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
No; we should teach them no real sex ie vaginal until 18 and when you do do it with a condom at all times and only with a man who is financially ready to take care of a child and is willing to do so.
2007-09-20 13:19:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
i think we should tell them we would like them to wait until marriage, but let it be their own choice.
2007-09-20 13:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamy™ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Safer sex. If we tell them no sex, they'll do it out of spite or curiosity. It's how their little minds work. I should know. I've been there.
2007-09-20 13:18:06 · answer #7 · answered by Qwerty™ 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You could try to "teach" them whatever you want. They'll still do what they want to do at that age.
2007-09-20 13:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should teach them to be SAFE in any potential situation. telling them no, will only intrigue them.
2007-09-20 14:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋