When u r casually related u can speak any nonsense, but when intimacy arises, u r careful with ur words.......

Question

When you are just casually related to someone you can go on chattering about a thousand and one nonsensical things, because nothing matters -- it is just a pastime.

But when you start feeling closer to someone and an intimacy arises, then even a single word that you utter matters. Then you cannot play so easily with words, is intimacy a burden?

Answer 1

Actually I think its the reverse. I think people are more careful with their words when they are dating than when they get married or get into a more 'serious' relationship.

Answer 2

I don't think you can afford to be careless with your words with anybody irrespective of the fact that you have a casual or serious relationship with him or her. You have to be careful in your choice of words so that the same doesn't hurt the feelings of another person, intentionally or otherwise.
When you talk nonsense with someone you have a casual relationship with, he or she will understand that you are not interested in turning it into a serious relationship. Maybe, that person will turn cold at your approach and the relationship will die.
When you have intimacy with someone, it is understood that the person understands you reasonably well. So he or she is likely to gloss over some of your nonsensical remarks, if those are not of a very serious nature or very hurtful in their effect. Thus, there are chances of a reprieve in case of intimate relationships. Hence, intimacy is definitely not a burden.
Finally, I want to emphasise once more, that words can make or break a relationship. It is always advisable to think twice before shooting off the mouth.

Answer 3

It appears to me when level of intimacy arises, people are more comfortable. As it obeviate the need of formalties. People understand their partners and they respect their feeling, their values and ideas. And that is why their close to each other.

If there is wordpaly between a relationship than it is not an intimate relations.

Answer 4

When you consider some one casually you have no worries what you are speaking but when you start learning about a persons like or dislikes then you tend to choose your words. For your girlfriend before marriage you say all loving flirting words but those words vanish after 2nd, 3rd year of marriage right ah ah ah joking. Same way it depends upon what priority you have set in your mind is what that finally counts.

Answer 5

Its all because of a "FEAR OF LOST" it works. See how....

When we talk casually and use any words with a person which comes in mind because we have no FEAR OF LOOSE that person, we dont care about his responses. Coz we have no fear if you loose that person.

But when we love somebody, we automatically developes a FEAR of Loose regarding that person, naturally if we love someone we dont want to LOSE him or her at any cost. Neither we want to make them angry with our words. So we take care with each and other word.

No intimacy is not a burden. It will be burden when you are forced to live with a person whom you dont like.

Answer 6

Intimacy is not a burden. It is because people when intimate, they do not want to hurt the other person, they are careful in their words.....

Answer 7

IT is intamacy because when things where casual you were real but you only said enough too keep you safe.

Answer 8

Depends . . . do you mean words during intimate times, or at all times?

Answer 9

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Answer 10

No.