my son is just 2 wks old?

Question

& he gets kind of cranky when i put him down. he starts to grunt, wine and its becoming stressful....i cant carry him all day so how do i break him of this? i dont want him to sit and cry all day either. i have a bouncer... he wines when i put him in that.
i have one of thoes new infant boppys... he wines in that too....
any advice b4 i pull my hair out???

Answer 1

maybe you hold him too often. that way he feels the obvious difference when you're not holding him.

i know this may sound horrible, but i think you should just leave him there. teach him to think that you're just temporally gone. He will think that you're coming back anyway. i dont mean to be rude, but he cant cry all day long. there will be a time for him to finally think "there's nothing i can do. crying doesnt work. so i should just stop it."

good luck

Answer 2

I remember reading in college that babies, in their first few months, test their parents committment by crying when they feel needy to see if the parent responds to their needs. I dont know how true this is, but I think letting a newborn 'cry it out' isnt the best idea, though not a bad one.
I have read alot on slings and there was a study that found that they reduce crying by 60%. Babies just want to feel cuddled and warm and were in you for 9 months next to your heart and the best way to recreate that is with a sling. The baby will be next to you and you will still have your arms free. My sister in law can do laudry, vacuum, dust, water the yard, etc all with my nephew sleeping. Even when he is awake he just looks around and just chills in the sling.
My SIL also uses a swing. He nephew loves the motion. There is also this product called the natural motion, or gentle motion, I cant remember exactly, that is a little boucer looking thing that sways and vibrates very gently. The baby will outgrow it in probably 3 months, they arent too big. Just search gentle motion at Target.com or something and you'll see it!

Answer 3

Well... since all babies are soooo different - advice is difficult. What works for one never works for the next. Some like a little bouning, come like vibrating, some like swinging, some like music, some don't seem to like a darned thing (colic) - At least he don't have colic - then he wouldn't even be happy being held. Just keep telling yourself he will out-grow it. My last one wanted to be held constantly the first 2 months.... I just complied... he stopped being like that pretty quick. I hear if they develop a strong sense of security the first few months - then they actually need less attention once they get past that point.... and mine is 3 years old now. He is very independent, has no separation anxiety and never has... and never has a security item I had to wean him from - i.e. - bottle, blanky, binky, thumb, nothing... I am about to have another baby - and I plan on doing it the same - since it worked fine for me the first time.

Answer 4

At 2 weeks old you SHOULD NEVER LET YOUR BABY CRY IT OUT!!! There is now proof that letting an infant younger than 6 months old "cry-it-out" can cause brain damage.

I went through this with my son - who is now 3.5 months old - and some days he still does it. The reason he whines is because he is used to being held all day long in a warm safe place and hearing mom's heartbeat.

You can try a sling or swaddling. Also, what really helped me when my son was so young is learning about baby sleep cycles. Putting him down drowsy (as all of the books suggested) just did not work, so I waited about 10 minutes after he fell asleep to put him down - that is approximately when they enter a really deep sleep cycle.

http://www.babycenter.com/400_are-we-damaging-our-baby-by-letting-him-cry-himself-to-sleep_505170_1000.bc?Ad=com.bc.common.AdInfo%4041a9287a

http://www.sleepnet.com/infant3/messages/534.html

http://www.theregister.co.uk/2006/07/14/the_odd_body_crying/
Good Luck to you.

Answer 5

It does hurt them to let them cry.

At this point he's learning to trust that you'll meet his needs. At 2 weeks you're not doing anything habit forming. Crying doesn't make his lungs develop, that's an old wives's tale. Crying too much does raise his stress level creating permanent pathways in his brain. You sound like you've got it together, I'm worried about the other people posting answers.

You need a sling. I use a Moby wrap and a Hotsling. Either one will work. Baby has the comfort of being right next to you and you have the freedom to use your arms to get things done.

He just spent 9 months right next to you, listening to your voice and heartbeat, 2 weeks is too soon to separate him completely. Take this time to relax, there's not much you need to be doing. Feed the baby and sleep. Someone else should be doing everything else.

Answer 6

You need to remember that babies are used to being all snug in your womb for all those months. Get a receiving blanket and swaddle them in it before you but him in his crib. He is most likely crying because he feels as if he is falling. Anything like a swing, bouncer, or boppy can be harmful to your baby at such a young age. Most books and doctors recommend you wait about 6 weeks. You should also invest in a book called "What to expect the first year" Its a great resource book and it wont be outdated by the time you kid is a few months, it follows them until they are 1 or so.
We call it our baby bible.

Answer 7

He's still really young, I probably wouldn't let him cry for more than a few mins. My son was colic and I wanted to pull my hair out too. The only thing that worked for me was to stand in my bathroom and turn the shower on and let the water run. The sound of the shower called him down, I spent many hours on the floor in my bathroom nursing him to call him down, and I even put his swing in the bathroom with the shower running...the only other thing that worked was the Whitenoise sound that I downloaded off of iTunes for 99 cents...I made a continuous CD of that noise and that worked too. Good Luck...but he's still so young. It's scary for them out here...hold as much as you can now bc before you know it, they'll be huge and not want you to hold them...and you'll miss it!

Answer 8

try a swing with soft music, but your baby is only 2 weeks, do not stress- he needs you to hold him. by you holding him he knows he is protected and feels safe. if he falls asleep on you, lay him in his bed- then you lay down too. If this is going to be stressful for you now, just wait-- till' they are crawling, walking, talking.....etc.....
you may ask for some help from family and friends too, your body is going through alot right now, tring to get bck in balance, so if you feel too stressed, please ask someone for a few minutes of their time so that you can get the rest you need in order to be the mother you can be for your baby- if you are stressed, your baby will know you are. take a few deep breaths before you pick the baby up so that you are and your body is calm. COUNT TO 10 AS MUCH AS YOU CAN---IT WORKS!!!

Answer 9

I often wonder when i read some of these, how these moms go through the day and dont put their baby down. I didnt want to when he was that little, but you know what...You will be way too stressed if you don't ever put him down and let him cry. I have a 6month old, its still fresh on my memory. AND everything you do consistently becomes habbit forming. i had to break my baby of being held. he still fights it. (passifiers do help if you arent against those) You wrap him up snug in a swaddling cloth (Make sure its not too hot), and you set him in a safe place(his crib), then you sit near him maybe with your hand on him, and talk and coo and listen to him, just starting with that helps soooo much. and i never let my 2-4 week old cry longer than ten min. now when he gets older, you have to. i dont like to, but i cant hold my 20lb 6month old all day. i let him cry. i listen intently to the monitor, and he eventually tires himself out. last night it took checking on him 3 times before he was sleepy enough to go to sleep. they cry when they are over tired, they cry really loud and hard, but even trying to feed him wont help then, so i let him cry a little. it wont hurt him to cry, but it will hurt you for you to not let him cry. and ps...the older they get, the more whines you get.

Answer 10

When my daughter was that age we got her something called a "miracle blanket" which is a swaddling blanket. It worked amazingly well. The theory is that the baby is used to having a snug surrounding in the uterus so they are uncomfortable in the open surroundings. The blanket is meant to be snug but not tight and it always worked great. Goodluck