what is love?

Question

I have written some questions down as to what i think love is.
Can I see us growing old together?
Can I accept the little imperfections and love?
Would I risk my dreams to be by your side in times of need?
Do I love myself?
Will I hold you and comfort you when you need someone to talk to?

Anymore question that you can think of that I need to ask?

Answer 1

love is forever

Answer 2

These are the most important questions to ask as to what you think about loving a person is:

1) Should I support a love one's quest for happiness even though it doesn't involve me, and honor her wishes to not be with me?

2) Should I continue loving and trusting someone with a history of infidelity?

3) Should I stay with someone who isn't over her ex-partner?

4) Should I continue loving a partner who insists all the problems in the relationship are mine?

ravishingV

Answer 3

What do you think sweetness is? Taste it and find it. You don't need to ask others how does a sweet taste. No, it is not a question of thinking, no amount of definition of sweetness can satisfy your quest for sweetness, you have to taste it, and then you will never ask how does it taste.

So also with love. Have a taste of it, no amount of knowledge about love will enrich your understanding of it. Plunge in love, and you might gain a little understanding of it.

Ofcourse, when you fall in love, you become blind, and there is no understanding of love. But if you are alert to it and if you observe it as an onlooker while it happens to you, you can rise in love, you can gain some understanding of it. But if you choose to fall deeper and deeper in love, and you allow yourself to fall in it, without caring as to where it leads you to, you become a victim of love. You become a slave to it, because love appears so sweet, that you don't want to leave it, you get stuck in it, you don't care to understand what it is, but you want to enjoy its warmth. You try to understand love, only when bitterness creeps in love, you try to understand it only when it turns sour, otherwise you would prefer to sleep everlasting in joy that it gives you.

You cannot have clarity of understanding in both pleasant and miserable moments. When you are immersed in love, you are either pleasant or miserable. But once you have tasted love, and when you find it is hurting, you begin pondering about it. People normally escape love, when it hurts. If they can find time to ponder over it, to look at it when it is there, then there is a possibility of understanding about love.

And if you have never fallen in love, there is no chance of understanding it. Falling in love is important, because then you are going on the path where you are coming face to face with the most fundamental truth of the universe which we call love.

I and many others can give a thousand and one definitions of love. But they will be of no use, if it is not borne out of one’s own understanding.

Your question ‘What do you think what love really is’ gives an impression that you think love can be a subject matter of thought, that it can be analysed to find out what it is. In fact love cannot be thought of and analysed as we do with a worldly object. It cannot be explained because it is not a concept to be understood.

Love is beyond our rational understanding. Mind has failed to catch hold of it, let alone analyse and understand it. So whatever the mind says about love would be false.

So you see, love is as old as the universe, but it is always new, because mind has failed to understand it. Once you understand a thing it becomes old. But love is one thing that never became old, because it is beyond the imagination of mind. And it is good that love cannot be understood. Otherwise, if you can catch hold of it anyway, and dissect it, analyse it and know its secrets and mysteries, it will die and it will lose its charm, and everything in the universe will become ugly without it.

So its good you don’t understand love. If you understood it, it would appear less charming to us. And no one would care for it. Now since you don’t understand it, you posed the question. Like you millions who died, who are living, and who are yet to come will pose the same question, again and again, and all through their lives they will be searching an answer for it. But the answer would remain elusive for all times. No one could ever in all the history give a satisfactory answer to the question, as there is no answer to it. It is good, that the question doesn’t provide an answer, and that makes love mysterious and all the more beautiful.

Source(s):

I fell in love several times, and got some understanding of it, and I understood that it cannot be understood, it cannot be thought of, and it cannot be told what it is, otherwise why love is called a mystery, the deepest mystery you come across.

Answer 4

Will we always come to the bargaining table and work things out?
Will you not ask more of me than I can give?

Answer 5

love is accepting the person as she is....

Answer 6

NOTHING !!