I have done 3 pregnancy tests - ALL positive.?

Question

We have been trying for about 5 weeks now so im not sure how far gone i am but i have rang the doctor and booked appointment. My partner says we should wait until we tell anyone because we havent past the 3 month mark. The only problem is i feel like i need to talk to some one as i have all these butterflies and worries etc, i want to tell my nan but i know that my Mum should be the first person but we are close although i dont live at home and im not sure what her reactions going to be but im sure it wont be a good one!
HELP! Serious answers only!

Answer 1

I completely understand why your partner wants to wait until you pass the 3 month mark, but on the other hand if god-forbid something happened and you lost your baby wouldn't it be nice to have support from you friends and family instead of having to go through it alone. With my first pregnancy we called my mom first the day we found out and then everyone else, with this pregnancy we waited about a week, told our son and then rest of the family. You need to do whatever you feel is right and if you want to tell someone, talk to your partner again and explain to him your feelings on the issue. I hope everything works out for you. Good luck and congratulations!!!

Answer 2

I do agree with your partner about waiting to tell, but only in the sence of telling non-family. Miscarriages are a very real thing and you dont want to jump the gun..I'd wait till at least after you hear the heart beat. As for your Mum and nan, can you do a 3 way calling or get them together and tell them at same time? The more support you have there, the less friction there may be.

Answer 3

If you feel like you need to talk about it, you can. Just be sure that you tell whoever you talk to it that you want to wait until after 3 months to make the news public. As far as who to tell first, I wouldn't worry about it. You told your partner first, and that's really the only one who needs to be told first. If you tell your nan first, just be sure and tell her that you haven't told your mom yet. It will be ok. And for all your butterflies and worries, there is always Yahoo! answers. I did feel that way when I was pregnant, and I kept a journal. It really helped me to write down my anxieties. You might also get the book "What to expect when your Expecting". It has lots of good info and advise. Congratulations and best of luck.

Answer 4

Counting back to the first day of your last period and that starts your first week. (don't ask me that's just how the doctors do it. lol) Like mine was Aug. 5th so I'm 6.7 weeks pregnant. But I've only really been developing the baby for 4.7 weeks. lol Anyway, you can wait to tell the entire family at 3 months, but being able to talk to your mom or your nan about what your going through is essential. Just make sure they know not to say anything to anyone else! If they can keep from it! :) Congratulations!!!

Answer 5

This is pretty much a question only you can answer. What is your gut telling you? Do you really need to talk to someone or are you just excited? It all varies....you need to do what you are feeling. I told my mom the same day, we werent close either. If they havent really been a big part of your life, usually they wont say something mean...they arent the ones to talk. It's kinda like the pot and the kettle situation. You are having a baby, and that is all you need to think about. Congrats!

Answer 6

Usually people want to notify everyone at the same time so no one will feel left out or less important than the other. I had that problem with notifying my in-laws of the sex of our baby and it cause a big mess of emotions.

If you have questions or worries you can always ask here the ladies on here are very supportive and knowledgeable.

Congratulation and much luck with your pregnancy !!

Answer 7

We chose to tell the people we would likely rely on in the event of a miscarriage or who would be affected by one. We told our parents and siblings, a very few close friends, and my husband's boss.

You may want to tell a few people who can support you through some of the challenges of early pregnancy, or through the difficulty of a miscarriage, but it's usually a good idea to hold off from a massive announcement until you're in the second trimester.

Answer 8

I agree with you and your partner. I happened to have 2 miscarriages before the 3 months and we have told every body, so when they saw me later they were asking about the baby, its hard to tell every body there is no baby and to make it worst people made some stupid comments about the loss. So i understand your partners point of view. And i agree that your mother should be the first one to know. In my other pregnancies i told her first, but made her promise not to tell any one or i would not let her baby sit, jajajajaja. She kept her promise! But she hardly ever babysits, jajaja.
Tell your partner how you feel, tell him that you need advise and support from your mother.
Good luck and congratulations.

Answer 9

Congrats!! Oh course you want to confide in someone close to you, i felt the same. I am now 8 weeks pregnant and im dying to tell my friends and family! I have told a few close people and i dont see why you cant do the same. Of course dont tell everyone incase something does happen but there is nothing wrong in confiding to some one close to you.xx

Answer 10

Buy the book "what to expect when your expecting" its like the baby bible. Other good books are:

What to eat when expecting
Parenting for Dummies


We all have our worries and doubts about our lack of parenting skills. Its a normal feeling to be nervous. Its what starts us on the road of good parenting. Just remember, eat well, exercise a little, and take your vitamins (with plenty of folic acid)

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Congratulations