Here's his email I received first:
hey again....
ok this email is tough for me becaue i'm so confused on such a new feeling...but here it goes..
I really worry that me being here and you there that tings would be eas to work out...my job is going to be kinda demanding time wise..and then the distance..and on top of that with this all being so new to me it kinda scares me...i dont really know how to explain it. i had sucha n awesome time hanging out with you but its so new and i have to be very careful...probably weird coming from a guy but its the truth. i'm just kinda confused and relaly dont wanna "hurt" you in anyway sso i felt it was best to express this.
2007-09-20 04:39:30 · 14 answers · asked by ? 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My response:
So, what do you mean? You are not interested in hanging out with me now? Or do you want to just take things slow and see where they go? Because I’m not trying to pressure you at all. I truly understand that if you want to step back. Or, if you just want me to drop out of your life altogether, be totally honest, because that is something I have to know like right now. But if you’re saying that you want to take this slow and not rush I’m soooo cool with that.
Then, his last email:
wow that was a quick response!
All i'm sayin is 'm very confused right now and i had to voice that with you. I've not had a good time like i've had in FOREVER but i still need to take my time and make sure things are right. Just very confused and it sucks..thats what i'm saying...
PS- the distance is about an hour or so.
2007-09-20 04:40:01 · update #1
NO, he is just being TOTALLY honest! He really likes you BUT is scared out of his wits at the thought of committing to you at this moment. He HAS spent time really thinking about everything, has NOT said NO to the possibilities, BUT is SCARED.
Do as you said, and take things VERY slow. Chances are things will work out! Just do NOT push the issue.
2007-09-20 04:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An hour is not long distance. This guy has met someone and is trying to tell you in a nice way that he is not interested in seeing you period. His way of expressing that is saying he is confused. The only thing he is confused about is how to tell you it's over. If this guy was into you then the hour would be no big deal. He would be very excited to see you. Work would not be the issue. He is making excuses.
I would email him saying the following.
Your sorry that he is so stressed out over nothing. It's sounds as if he is making more of your friendship then what it was. Up until now you thought that you were both just having a good time. You did not realize that he took this so serious but he need not worry about hurting you as there is someone else you are interested in. You did not think to mention it as
you thought he understood that this was not serious.
Dump him before he blows you off any more.
2007-09-20 05:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOL...yep. Its the 'kiss off" my dear. You know...why can't people just come out and say it instead of writing all of these cryptic messages? I think its because they want to 'leave the door open' in the event they decide they want to come back.
Now although this may very well not be the case this is usually the lines used when two people enter into a sexual relationship as well and want to cool it for whatever reason. However they (or he) doesn't want to put the last nail in the coffin so he can re-establish contact whenever the mood may 'arise'.
Personally I think you're wasting your precious time with this fellow. Anyone who can't be forthcoming in their letters isn't worth the effort to stick with them.
Good luck to you.
2007-09-20 05:20:12 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Step away and let him take the lead here. It sounds as though he is backing off and you don't want to seem obsessive about the situation. I would not respond to the last email. He will contact you if he wants to. In the mean time, go out with friends, meet some new guys and have fun. Don't set around and pine your life away on this guy. If it is meant to be it will happen, if not it won't. Good luck to you!!!!
2007-09-20 04:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by Gretta 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, this isn't a dumping e-mail. He is trying to express his feelings to you. He wants you to know what he's feeling so that you're both on the same page with your relationship. Nobody wants to get hurt so that's why it's important to be totally honest about any kind of confused feelings.
2007-09-20 04:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't advise you advised her what you theory and in step with threat she have been given mad oh nicely its no longer that massive of a deal. I had the comparable ingredient take place to me different than my pal replaced into to clingy to her creeper of a boyfriend and he or she might continuously get mad at me for intruding while they might walk to type mutually even although i had the comparable type as her.
2016-10-09 12:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i think your fine. call him up, talk with him, plan a time to be with eachtoehr, and then when your together make everythign perfect, bake him his favorite dessert (mine likes rice krispies) talk to him, laugh and have fun. dont hang on to him, or kiss him too much....kinda lay low.
let him know you are okay on your own and that you dont need him really, and maybe he'll start to want you...ALSO, dont ever be short tempered with him, be very understanding. just let him know everythigns fine and that theres no rush for anything. good luck
2007-09-20 04:47:31 · answer #7 · answered by OrngeLuvrSocstar! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, it's a definite dumping email. "It's not you, it's me" kinda thing.
Also with the "wow that was a fast response!" means you are obsessive towards the relationship.
I say step away.
2007-09-20 04:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by tazznum1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hour away is NOTHING --- hmmmmm... I think he doesn't know what he wants..OR..he has a girlfriend..and you don't know it, and he likes you, and doesn't know what to do..
OR, he's a screwed up guy - and CONFUSED!!!
its new - have to be careful-- all sounds alittle weird to me.
consider it a blessing in disguise... its a breakup.
2007-09-20 04:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry...but it does sound like a break up
he is trying to do it without hurting your feelings and maybe even trying to keep you in the shadows in case he changes his mind
good luck
2007-09-20 04:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋