only 17 years old and my father left when I was one and my boyfriend and I were living with my mother but she's psycho and kicked us out so now we live on our own.. so, I have no parents to sign for me. Can you get another guardian to sign or what can I do?
2007-09-20 04:04:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're only 17, what's the big hurry? All GOOD things take time. By nx year you'll be of age. If he is already of legal age, there could be a legal issue. Please do NOT do anything in haste. You're already living together. PATIENCE.....
2007-09-20 04:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your already out on your own now. No need to rush into the marriage. Just wait till your 18, then you'll have less headaches and stress from your "psycho" mom. And are you sure she is "psycho"? Maybe you are 17 and wanting to play grown ups so bad that you are driving her crazy cuz she raised you up without a father figure and you havent listened to her or are making rash decisions like this marriage plan, and she is worried that your throwing away alot of your life? Your young, and can have the world in front of you. No need to lock down right now when you can be going to school, then college and focusing your future and establishing things with your boyfriend further. Marriage isnt an end to a means, it dosent make things all OK and honkey dorey. You can move forward with out it, and maybe keep mom in your life too, you may want to hold on to that a little huh?
2007-09-20 06:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't want to hear this, but you'll thank most of us later when you are in your 30's. It really would be best for you both to live separately, no sex(sex makes babies, a responsibility you and he aren't prepared for) and get married when you have finished college. Marriages, especially at your age, that have shacked up prior to getting married, most of them wind up in divorce before age 25, specially if kids are involved. Birth control, no matter what kind you use, isn't always effective. And full time jobs at your age won't be enough to support a child.
P.S. Would your mom be willing to take you back? In many cases when teenager thinks their parents are psycho, what's really happening is the parents are trying to lay down rules and the teen isn't obeying, and in your case the bf was also there. Could be she endured a lot of grief from the two of you, and finally had her fill of it. I would like to hear what your mother has to say. There are two sides to every story.
2007-09-20 04:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie,if you have been with this guy for 3 yrs. that means you've been with him since you were 14? You need time to experience life before you settle down with one man.Trust me, marriage is not easy----and the more life experience you have the better.Don't rush into anything you'll surely regret in a few yrs. You also mentioned that the two of you lived with your mother!? If he can't support you now how in the world will he support you and a child? WAIT! WAIT! WAIT!
2007-09-20 04:36:30 · answer #4 · answered by piowine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are Seventeen and living on your own anyway, I would suggest getting Imacipated. Basically you are asking to be declared an Adult before you turn 18. It is a legal way of becoming your own Gaurdian. You would need to talk to a lawyer and ask them how to go about this...It may even be something that you can do on your own, just with alittle direction.
2007-09-20 04:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by Dennis J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not wait till you are 18 if you are doing fine in another year then great but that is way to young to be getting married if you ask me.
2007-09-20 04:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? Just wait until your 18, or even longer for that matter. Marriage is a big decision, and even 18 is pretty young.
2007-09-20 04:11:52 · answer #7 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married at seventeen. There are states were that is legal. But I can tell you it was the BIGGEST mistake of my life. I thought I was grown and knew what I was doing and what I wanted, but as the years went by and I grew up and matured, I realized he was not the person I would have ever chosen as a mature adult to spend the rest of my life with. You are looking for someone to love you. And part of that is because your dad left you, and your mom is not the kind of mom she should be. Find friends who love and support you, find an adult (aunt, counselor, etc.) who will be there for you. And you have to realize that YOU have to learn and care for yourself before you can ever be happy with anyone else. LOVE YOURSELF. Do what is best for YOU.
2007-09-20 04:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by bamakathy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you could see if your mother will emancipate you but, why not just wait until you're 18? 17 is too young. even if you know he's the one, one year can make a difference. good luck.
2007-09-20 04:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by 2prettyK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until you're 18 - if you're already 17 it's less than a year and will give you time to setup your finances and ensure that you're established.
2007-09-20 04:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by random_synchronicity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋