We've been married 2 yrs. He insisted we don't put our incomes together and that I pay him $300.
a month for expenses. I moved into "his" house.
I told him I will pay for expenses myself, but he insist I pay him the $300. or he will kick me out.
We have no children together. He has 2 kids that live with us half the time and he pays child support to their mom. I am tired of feeling like a roomate.
I am looking for another place to live but need to know if he can kick me out for not paying him money.
2007-09-20 04:03:58 · 24 answers · asked by Ellyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has a good job as an electrician, and makes twice as much as I do.
2007-09-20 04:27:09 · update #1
you're legally married, then he can't kick you out.
sure, his name is probably the only one on that house deed, but you're still married and that counts.
loook for another place to live and be thankful that your money is still at least your money and take him to the cleaners for alimony!
the jerk!
tkae care honey.
2007-09-20 04:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by joey322 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Check the marital property laws in your state. Legally, I am going to guess no, however, a piece of paper doesn't stop too many people doing what they want to do.
If all it costs you is $300, why are you complaining? Both my marriages, we combined income and I got the shaft every time! I made more money, yet my whole check was used to pay the household expenses and they still had money to blow?
My fiance now, splits the bills with me.. his check is his and my check is mine, but we do have a joint checking and joint saving as well as our own private accounts. I guess you could look at it as being roommates, however, I like it better this way instead of the other way. Costs me more than $300. But, at least it isn't my whole paycheck anymore like it was in the other two marriages.
Did you ever ask HIM why? This has been going on for the whole 2 years? What do you see wrong with it and why does it make you feel less of a wife?
I did some checking... the rule of thumb is that any debts and property PRIOR to marriage are assumed to be individual liability and assets. It becomes marital when BOTH partners put money into it. At the time of a divorce, if he can prove that the assets were still just his responsiblity (which your man can) they will not be considered marital property. However in a joint property state, the law will vary depending on the asset and if it was paid in full prior to the marriage or not because they assume that you are helping pay the debt even if he has "proof" contrary. He's just protecting HIS assets. If you can't change his mind and it really is an issue, get a divorce.
2007-09-20 11:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I failed to see your marriage as normal. It is some sort of deal both of you have.
Normally for a married couple, there is no such thing as mine and not yours. You are his wife, the house is yours too. It is your home. What do you mean by your husband having right to kick you out? If he does, you stay put. Refuse to move out but file for a divorce and get what the law allows you. You are protected under the law.
If he is not earning enough, then you ought to be helping him pay for the bills as you have an income. If both of you dont live as a normal married couple, I dont see any possibility of you having children. A calculative couple in a marriage is doomed to fail. Believe me.
If you are looking for another place, it means you are calling it quit. You are leaving him for good, right? It is wise that both of you go for counselling if you still want this marriage.
2007-09-20 11:22:30 · answer #3 · answered by Sal SR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is why would you even spend another hour in his house. Obviously he doesn't think of you as his loved one, so why even bother in keeping the marriage going. The guy is a chippy and he is not going to change, he is going to worsen with time. Me and me ex live in the same home and we have never argue about money. Some guys just are plain idiots. If he wanted a roommate he should have gotten one instead of marrying you. Just leave his house, you deserve better.
2007-09-20 11:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a husband, small wonder he's already got 1 ex and hope for your sake you're on your way to becoming #2. The man obviously hasn't a clue what marriage is all about.
I personally would hand him a bill for taking care of his kids for the year (bascially) they have lived with you. That should leave him owing you, ha, ha.
Get a good divorce lawyer.
2007-09-20 11:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a marriage. Kick you out? No, you are MARRIED. Why not just give him the $300. I wish I could live with my fiancee and have it only be $300.
I believe there is more to this.
2007-09-20 11:29:50 · answer #6 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never understood why when people get married they insist on keeping their finances separate. That just tells me that they have doubts the marriage will work. Unless you have a written contract stating you will pay him money, I don't see how he could legally kick you out for not paying him anything.
Every couple I know that has kept finances separate, have ended up divorced.
2007-09-20 11:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as tho he considers you have an 'arrangement'. Certainly doesnt sound like a marriage. Also sounds like you didnt truly know this man before you married him. You've actually been living like this for 2 years???
If you're unable to resolve your differences, I'd tell him HE could leave. Pay those expenses if you're able to.
In the meantime, I'd look harder for a place of my own. And leave his sorry @$$!
2007-09-20 11:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Legally, no he can't kick you out, but It is time you left .... you are not a life partner or wife, you are a roommate.
Marriage is a life shared with another. He doesn't get it. He's selfish and probably scared from his divorce.
You can try counseling if there is something to salvage in this relationship. But if not, and since you have no children with him, it might be time to move on.
2007-09-20 11:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by HiddenBarb 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow...some "marriage"..... And you put it right, room mate! Not that this has any bearing, but do you pay other expenses? You've established residence there, he can't just throw you out on the street. I think even if, say, I let some bum move in with me, and he/she is there, I think, 30 days, residence is established. I would contact an attorney.
2007-09-20 11:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by Connie B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THis is really ridiculous. He should not be doing this and under no circumstances can he kick you out for not paying rent. His home became your home too, when you were married. Its called community property, unless you signed something stating it would be his house.
Now about you moving out, is the marriage over?
2007-09-20 11:09:33 · answer #11 · answered by Victorian_girl 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋