Even when I know there is nothing she could do about it or improve it.
2007-09-20 03:43:24 · 24 answers · asked by Cornelius S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that's hard. i mean, if i wasn't turning my husband on, then i'd want him to talk to me about it....
not say "honey, you're not doing it for me"
but more like "ya know, i'd love it if you did this...or this, or maybe can we try this??"
if it's her looks, then get a family gym membership and get working out! alter your meal plans for healthier options.
i guess it would help if we knew why she wasn't turning you on.....
i mean, if there really isn't ANYTHING she can do to help the situation, then keep it a secret, i suppose.
take care.
2007-09-20 03:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you think that it cannot be improved....of course it can be improved , why are you giving up? it sounds to me like you don't want it to improve so that you can leave. It won't improve with that kind of attitude, i do know that. Don't tell her if you have no plans on changing anything...maybe she feels the same about you. Why did you marry her if she does not turn you on in the first place? I suspect that she did at some point and if that is true that she once did than she can obviously do it again, if she is given a chance
2007-09-20 10:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that's smart, make it sound like it's her fault.
Do you love the woman? Is there something you would like her to do in the bedroom? Then yeah, tell her you would like to try some things.
I really don't think it's a good idea to tell her "you don't turn me on". She might just get an attitude and give you the cold shoulder or maybe become too self conscious. It could be one of the biggest opening lines to an argument.......
Have you tried Viagra?
2007-09-20 10:54:21 · answer #3 · answered by peggy m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can but in a diplomatic way. Verify the cause before you do so. You may not be performing well instead or your expectations may be too outrageous for her to reach? It advisable to be open when it comes to physical intimacy. Make suggestions or proposals instead of sounding like a demand. It take both party to reach climax. You can also ask her for suggestions on how to make love making more enjoyable and exciting during intimacy. Since both of you are naked physically, there's nothing to 'clothe' about your feelings. Openness can draw two person even closer.
2007-09-20 11:29:15 · answer #4 · answered by boonji86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things can be improved, all except for the "physical looks".
You say in the "bedroom". So it can't be her looks. There are all different kinds of things you can bring into the bedroom.
May be your turning her off, so it is making you turned off??
2007-09-20 10:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't it be improved? What do you want that will turn you on? Maybe you don't want to fix it. Talk to her but approach it in a different manner. Don't come out and tell her she does not turn you on. Ask her if she wants to try something new. Once you figure out what it is you want, suggest it to her.
2007-09-20 11:05:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you even LOVE your wife? Why would anyone say his wife doesn't turn him on and there's nothing she -or he- can do? When you truly love the person you're with, there's always the willingness to do whatever it takes to make it work...I feel sorry for your wife...
2007-09-20 10:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should! WHy do you say that there may be nothing that she can do about it? Unless she is physically handicapped, there is something you can do, and if she is your wife she should understand that if she expects you to have sex with her, she has to have something for you to want to have sex with. Now if she was fat when you met her, you can't expect her to go on Jenny craig just to get you off. You should've thought about that before.
2007-09-20 10:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by Teresa J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously she used to turn you on or you wouldn't have married her. not trying to be rude but maybe you have relized your gay or something cause any man who can't be turned on by a woman in the bedroom has some gay issues maybe you should look into that and stop blaming it on your wife.
2007-09-20 10:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by stt143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's called honesty...oh and you may want to give her heads up on bailing out soon, that would be the gentlemanly thing to do, because you know if you men are not satisfied in that way, it's fixin' to be over....
Honestly, I hope you're more of a man than that though!!!
2007-09-20 11:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋