We are both scared of what will happen if caught. Weve not had sex but we seriously enjoy each others company. We dont want to break our homes. what can I do.............
2007-09-20 03:38:20 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't get caught, being sneaky is part of the excitement, learn to cover your tracks it's very easy women get away with cheating a lot more often than men.
2007-09-20 03:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women who are involved with married men always think the man is feeling the same way. I'm sure he even told you that. He's enjoying the flirtation, and most likely hoping for eventual sex. Very rarely do men leave their wives for someone they met while being married. Don't allow yourself to be duped. Think about the man who you do have and how you can make things better with him. Of course it won't be as exciting as something illicit, but you're not paying bills and living everyday life with that other guy. So there's no way you could know for sure that you're in love with him. But you do know that you were once in love with your husband, so that would be the smartest thing to do for yourself right now. If you and your married friend ever left your spouses for each other, you would never be able to be happy since you disrespected your present spouses, and you would have left alot of hurt and devastation behind. Just remember that.
2007-09-20 03:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Above all you should do the right thing here. You haven't slept together which is above and beyond what most people in your situation would have done....so I give you credit for that. Now, you need to look at your relationships. Do either of you love the person you are married to? Are you willing to make it work? If so, stop the sneaking around and put your efforts into your marriage or relationship. Maybe if you put as much effort into your current relationship as your 'affair', things would be alot better.
If you don't love the person you are with, do the right thing and leave. Don't cheat and later feel guilty about your actions. Be true to yourself and the other person whatever you do. Do what makes you happy, but do it with the other person's feelings in mind. It isn't fair to the other person for you to stay in a relationship you aren't happy in, so do the right thing. Good luck!!
2007-09-20 03:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by Gretta 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
trust me girl I've been there. My 12 year old son is a product of an affair I had when I was in my 20's with a married man. He said he loved me, we would stay up for hours just talking to each other, and we really enjoyed each other's company. He was there for me throughout the pregnancy telling me how happy he was that we were starting our family together, and helped me rent a house. He came to the hospital when I called and said I was having the baby, and held my hand the whole time telling me how much he loved me. He was going to leave his wife "any day now." When the baby was 3 days old I took him home from the hospital and waited for the father to come home from work. Well a few hours later here he comes into our house with his wife in tow and said he had told her the truth and she wanted to give him a second chance. He said that was so "noble" of her, that he had to go back and try to make his marriage work. She stood there and told me "What did you think that he was going to leave me for YOU?" and they walked out together and I've never seen him again. He also has not ever had contact with his son, even though I begged him to be a part of his life. It's been 12 years and my son will never know his father. I was devastated and thought he would have NEVER done me that way in a million years. I thought he loved me. I was young and stupid. Don't go down that road. Make him leave his wife before you get involved and don't take any excuses from him. People who are unhappy in their marriage get divorced, they don't go out and have affairs.
2007-09-20 03:55:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Affairs never work out the way you think. I read a statistic one time (can't remember the source) where they said something like 75% of relationships resulting from an affair end soon after.
That's because the "attractiveness" of an affair is the new person, and rush people get from it. When your together, and no longer tied down to other people, its just not as fun. Walk away now, and let him go on with his wife before something sexual happens between the two of you. He needs to be sharing these moments of "enjoying each others company" with his wife, not you.
2007-09-20 03:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
STOP! What is the point in getting married only to cheat on your spouse who is also married. If you want another man, Your husband deserves the respect of knowing the truth. How would you feel if your husband was wanting a married woman and the seriously enjoyed each other company.
2007-09-20 03:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the first place.....SHAME ON U BOTH!! If you haven't had sex "yet", don't ! It would be a shame to loose ur families.And in the second place.... if he cheats on wife #1, could he be trusted not to cheat on you?! You both took vows with other people. Remember them, keep this person as a "friend" ONLY. If you find you can't do that then I suggest you don't see him at all. Does ur spouse know this man? Or does his wife know you? Why are you afraid of "getting caught" if you haven't done anything wrong? Men and women can be friends with out "benefits.
2007-09-20 04:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by piowine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Walk away love or not.
I worked with a guy for years. He told me one day of how he met his wife. He told me he divorced his 1st wife after cheating for a long time and married the woman he had been having an affair with. Well, it turns out his relationship with his current wife is not the best. Since they cheated they are always suspicious of what the other is doing [they cheated before right?] and he knew some other guys that it turned out the same way for. His kids from his 1st marriage had 0 respect for him after they saw what he did to their mom. Their relationships were never that good or the same.
I had a boss who had affairs, told the woman he loved them, destroyed his family, his marriage and it never worked out.
Think how you would feel being cheated on. Think of the guys wife.
Something good cannot come from dishonesty.
You have the chance to do the right thing.
Good luck
2007-09-20 04:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you not realize that you are already breaking up your homes? Sex is a physical act, love is emotional and just by having the thoughts, your are not being faithful.
If you current relationships are that unsatisfying then end them before entering into a new one. There is no other way, to attempt to continue as you are is only drawing out the disaster. Be proactive, before it is too late.
2007-09-20 03:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by mipegg 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
when a person is married that means he or she is off limits. if you are seeking after a married man, that makes you a "homewrecker". on the other hand if he is even considering it, he might as well have already done it. i suggest getting out of any relationship before starting another one, even a one time thing. if you dont want to break your homes, then you each go back to your own spouces, admit what you have been dealing with and seek counseling. that is the only way to kepp your homes happy.
2007-09-20 03:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by angelwithadvice 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋