Has any of you felt her rejection because you are ethnic??? Or worse, she doesn't like your children, by the way her own grand children, because not withstanding the fact that they are her son's kids they are your kids?
2007-09-20 03:22:56 · 13 answers · asked by delina_m 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not everything was bad, at the beginning, I actually liked her too. Then things took a rturn for the worse, actually exactly when we had our first baby... I think it became clear toher then that I wasn't going anywhere. Fortunatelly our marriage is great I LOVE my husband and he's a wonderful man and an incredible father. We'll be married for 8 years later this year.It makes me sad mostly for him, I can see his suffering at his own mom not showing love for his kids, regardless of who the mom is...
2007-09-20 03:41:20 · update #1
I've had 2 ex mom in-laws that could not stand me!! I tried to be good to them, but it did me no good!
The one didn't like me because I was a divorcee! The second took it out on me that her low life son had 5 of us in a damn 32 ft. travel trailer!! He didn't want payments on a home!!!
I don't understand why they hated me so.
At least you know why, but it doesn't make it any easier I know. Try and dwell on the good things with your hubby and kids and SCREW HER!!! She's the one with the problem, not you!!
I really feel for your kids, but you know, your so much better off not even having them around the old hag!
I had a mean granny and a nice one! The mean one when memories pop up, raise the hair on my neck!!
hang in there honey!!
2007-09-20 03:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to the movie Monster in Law. I have been married for 21 years, and to this day my mother in law hates me. My children can not seem to do anything correct. I struggled with trying to get along for the first 15 years, and then my husband and I decided that I had given more than could be expected.
Now I avoid her, and things are better. My husband and I discuss events that are related to him, but there is no longer this tension tearing him between siding with me or with her.
2007-09-20 10:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by mipegg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an ethnic person who married into a non-ethnic family. My M-I-L lives about 5 hours from us so I don't have much interaction with them. But she has always been interested in learning about my heritage so I would say that our relationship is a good one.
I'm sure it was a shock at first but they got over it! I come from a large extended family so it was a bit of a struggle in the beginning...now, not so much.
2007-09-20 10:31:58 · answer #3 · answered by jksather2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do to change her behavior. Accept it and move on. You have a great marriage and a wonder full husband who is a good dad. Don't waste your time talking about your mother in law. I would ignore her and move on with my life with my family. Your husband knows what he is dealing with and soon when he has enough he will see her less and less. Her loss. When she decides to grow up and would like to act like a mother should then things could be different.
2007-09-21 09:17:09 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a mother-in-law that constantly thought she had to a right to put her input into my marriage, how I raised my kids, everything basically. I put up with it for a while but when I wasn't getting any support from my husband, I left. Now she is my ex mother-in-law. She got what she wanted, her son back. Mind you, we lived next door to her as well. So, it's whatever you can put up with.
2007-09-20 10:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by georgiapeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no problem with my mother in law this marriage but my first marriage I didn't like her that much b/c I couldn't really communicate with her as she was in another country so I never had to put up with her just her son which I think was worse :)
2007-09-20 10:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never gotten along with that woman. She does more than reject me, she (and FIL) ignores my physical presence by pretending that I am not there. I am trashy, a gold digger, and a bad influence on her son as far as she is concerned.
You should probably talk about it with her. If she doesn't like your children, maybe you should stop going to see her, and refuse to have her over?
2007-09-20 10:36:49 · answer #7 · answered by seaelven 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I love my mother-in-law....She's been like a second mom to me ever since I met my husband...She has always protected me and praised me and always have done everything she could to make me happy.....I am very blessed for having her and the relationship that we have.....Our children are very lucky for having a grandmother like her....I hope when my children get marry someday, I can be a really good mother-in-law in return....My husband and I have three boys....So I'll have 3 daughetr-in-laws to please......
2007-09-20 10:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she is a b*tch. She decided that she doesn´t like me and I don´t know what she told his family but now NOBODY from his side wants to talk to me. I feel sad about it because I really like his grandma and not even her wants to speak to me. Last time I went to her house I said ¨hi¨ to her, and his grandma turned her face... It was very sad.....
But she´ll pay for that. In my country we say that when somebody do harm to somebody else, it´ll come back to them, in any way: disease, fights, divorce, lack of money, etc...
2007-09-20 15:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by helloy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah me and mother in law dont see eye to eye. And not because of ethnics. She is just a b****. Sounds like to me she is a terrible mil. She needs to grow up
2007-09-20 10:30:39 · answer #10 · answered by brandy G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋