I don't get it, I have a really nice social life on the internet. I have like 30 close friends online, I don't have any real friends and I dont like talking on the phone or face to face conversations. Be cause I don't have any friends, noone likes me, and I'm just too weird and different to have any at all. Online friends can't see your face, or hear your voice, after a nice converation with them, you'll show them your face.
My mom thinks I'm associating with perverts, ( does she really think I wasnt aware of it?) They are my friends, whether hes 16 or 46. I really don't care how old they are as long as they are honest with age. Besides, it's no like I'm gunna meet up with this guy.
I love chatting on the internet, I've talked with kids from italy and france, I learned alot about their culture.
I wish she let me buy a webcam, I can understand she is trying 2 protect me. But she needs to learn that I'm not a child any more. I will be 18 in 4 more months.
2007-09-20 03:10:12 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really want a webcam, and a microphone. I need those to play online games, tonline games are fun, but I'm only wan to hang out with other kids from around the world. How can i tell my family that showing my photo and using my real name online isnt that bad, as long as you use common sense and not try to mee up with this guy. I know that it's wrong, but I'm just an outcast, a loser. and once an outcast is always an outcast. 'll stay a loser for the rest of my life.
I wish they stop treaking me like a child. Whn I turn 18 in 4 months, I'll do what ever i want and noone can tell me what to do.
2007-09-20 03:14:42 · update #1
I can understand and sympathize on you having a parent who is very strict.
Mine were "super" strict. Imagine.. I was already in my university days and I have a curfew to be home at 6pm! So when I was busy on school activities/drama/theatre/piano/school organizations... I was able to cut such curfew but they want proof that I have been to such scholastic activities.
Now, I have 2 girls, ages 9 & 10 and since we live in Europe and my roots is in Asia... for already 5 years, I use yahoo to chat with my relatives and my parents and my girls learned to type English phrases and greet their grandpa and grandma, uncles and aunts through webcam and speak thru microphone. I explained to them that this we can do in my presence and of course showing them too the advantage of how far distant continents can bridge gap to bring relatives closer thru chat.
This way you can explain to your mom that you are doing it to expand your horizons, learning ways and culture from people around the globe without exposing yourself to be in the "hands of the cunning-international-users-players in the web."
Choose a day that your mom is ready and receptive to listen to you.
If she can't let you buy a webcam and mike, then start saving from income-generating project to raise your own savings. When I was at your age, I embroidered bookmarks and nice cross-stitch embroideries and I sold them as my independent entrepreneural way of saving/having my own money without asking from my parents.
good luck and be prudent and extra careful of the people you meet in the internet.
2007-09-28 02:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by HOPES 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're not going to convince anyone with sense that it's not bad to show your real photo and real name on the internet on chat sites.
Second, once an outcast, always an outcast... no. Get some counseling. Seriously, you have major self-esteem issues.
Third, I'm with your mom here-- "I'm too weird and different to have any [friends] at all." Do you think your mom would want to add to the danger you're putting yourself in with a webcam and microphone? I play games online and they don't require those things.
If it's your computer, and you paid for it (or were given it as a gift), and it's your house, then yeah, when you turn 18 you can do what you like... but that "When I'm 18 I can do what I want" won't work if you're still in mom's house. Physical age is nothing... she's looking at your mental age. Act it, and she may see things differently.
2007-09-27 19:31:31 · answer #2 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your mom know of all the pros and cons of having a web cam. Let her know that you are a responsible individual and point out to her that you have done nothing wrong with those 30 close friends of yours. If she doesn't value your word then try telling her that once you turn 18 it can't get any better. You will be an adult and you will be able to do as you wish. If you can get her to let you use a webcam she would be able to supervise what you do. But once you're out there in the world make sure you don't disappoint her. (You should also ask her exactly why you can't use a webcam and work around her answers)
2007-09-27 22:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by lucette s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, you're probably not going to like my answer, but, being the mother of an 18 year old, I'll tell you the same thing I told her... "If you want to be treated like an adult, you have to start acting like one". I know that sounds way harsh, but it's the truth.
My next advice is to take a break from the computer and get out and socialize with real people. I truly believe the reason why you don't think anyone likes you is because you're stuck behind a computer all the time and honestly, you don't know how to socialize and interact with other people.
In order for you to even begin socializing, I'd start with a group of people, maybe younger than you. Learn how to interact with children, or older adults. I know that at your age it's hard to socialize with peers and classmates of your own age, especially when you've probably grown up with them and they've already formed an opinion of you. However, older adults and children are the people you meet that are least likely to judge you, plus you'd develop skills in interacting with anyone.
I know this probably didn't help you get your equipment, at least not any time soon, but if your mom sees you taking on some responsibilities and learning how to interact with real people... If I was your mom, I'd be hugely concerned about online predators, your lack of social skills and ability to interact with live people and what you're doing to become a self-reliant responsible adult outside of my care.
2007-09-28 02:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by dark eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but i think the reason you dont have many friends is cuz you spend so much time on the internet. 18 is supposed to be one of the most fun times of your life, and your wasting it staring at a screen. And dont use the excuse that you are learning about cultures, practically every teen in america has tried that bullshit excuse on their parents. Stop talking to perverts that you dont know, shut down the computer, and go for a walk in the park. You may get to talk to someone REAL. When you start to act like an adult, you mom will treat you like an adult.
2007-09-27 09:54:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your mum is just trying to protect you from the bad sides of inter-net.And if you ask me,life is much better if you have someone to talk to and walk through the forest.
In fact,not even a computer can help you if you don't have any friends.
So,it would be probably the best if you join communities or start playing an instrument,or maybe play volleyball,handball,swimming...It's a very easy way to meet nice people.But,if no one likes you,then you're fine on your own.
And I'm telling you,when you see what real friendship is,you'll probably stop hanging on inter-net!
2007-09-28 02:05:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that parents can sometimes be frustrating but the most important thing to remember in this situation is to never be disrespectful to your mom. I mean, why would she let you go if you were rude to her? Maybe you should just try to calmly explain that you aren't in any danger going over there and responsible drinking doesn't cause any harm. However your mom might have picked up on something that you didn't notice because they are your friends so keep in mind that she makes decisions because she loves you and based on what she feels is best for you.
2016-05-19 01:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember your mom loves you and is only trying to protect you so just wait a while. Maybe let her see the converations that you are having with some people to reassure her. You have to see it from her point of view. There are so many wierdos out there. She just trying to protact you.
On the other hand you are nearly 18. Act like an adult and youll get more respect!! Try spending less time on the computer!
2007-09-26 22:37:49 · answer #8 · answered by Aruba 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is right to be protective, while the net allows incredible ability to comunicate with anyone anywhere, its also a source for people that will chat and become your friend with hidden agenda to use or take advantage of your inexperience in the world. Sadly:( So enjoy what you have, and learn all you can, but guard the most precious gift you have, YOU!! AND LOVE YOUR MOTHER SHE LOVES YOU.
2007-09-27 18:47:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there is a lot of crap going on out there heed your mom she knows best (call it a mother instinct) it will not seem fair now !!!!! but then again you only have to wait 4mth to do what you want to do and there is not much she can do about it /////////////Then again why would a young woman want to live like a hermit and not be brave and make friends that you can interact with on a face to face basic go out and get some air
2007-09-27 15:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by islandgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋