should i tell my teachers and classmates that im pregnant before i start showing?

Question

well,im a teenager who is pregnant and im a junior in high school..i decided to continue going to school even if im pregnant becaus ei really want to go to school and graduate..should i tell my friends and teachers that im pregnant before i start showing? ive only told my school counselor and one close friend about it..i know it would be tough because people would talk about me,but what should i do? and what reactions should i expect from them being a teenage pregnant?

Answer 1

I would only tell the teachers and friends who I wanted to know prior to everyone seeing your condition. Sure most everyone will talk but that's only normal. You're not the first and you certainly won't be the last teen to get pregnant.

Good luck.

Answer 2

You have to consider that during the first trimester, you can feel very tired, drained, nauseous and that may interfere with your studies. If you feel you are strong enough to get through that without support and will not be looking for excuses not to come to school or turn in a project, don't tell anybody if you are uncomfortable. If pregnancy ends up being hard for you and you need to have frequent doctors appointments, you will need to at least have the counselor that you told alert the teachers if you are uncomfortable doing it yourself. If you feel you can keep up with the rigors of regular high school while pregnant, have your parent(s) advocate for you to stay in the regular program, but if you are not ready to put in a lot more effort on a lot less energy, most school districts have "alternative" programs you can go into that will work around your medical schedule. If people talking about you is your only concern, I would strongly consider talking to a counselor or social worker about the real issues with being a teen parent. There is a lot more that goes into it than buying baby clothes.

Answer 3

People are going to talk about you till the day you die and a little afterward. This is your life don't worry about other people. If you have REAL friends they will respect you and not talk about, THEY SHOULD SUPPORT YOU AND HELP YOU THROUGH THIS TOUGH TIME IN YOUR LIFE. The same go for your Teachers. Stay in school, I know it's hard but do it for yourself, when you get older and experience things others won't even matter.

Answer 4

I think its great that you are staying in school. You don't have to tell anyone if you don't feel comfortable telling. People are going to talk but don't let people get you down. Besides most kids now days in school are doing what you did they just haven't gotten pregnant yet, please don't let the school bully you into quitting or leaving the school. Just because your pregnant doesn't mean your going to get others pregnant and besides if anything your a good example because other girls will see how hard it is to be pregnant in school and maybe they will try harder not to get pregnant. Just remember to keep your head up and don't let rumors get to you.

Answer 5

Lots of teachers figure it out before the students tell us. It is up to you and your comfort level with each teacher. Honestly, we hate the thought of teenage pregnancy because we know how much it will change your life...it breaks our hearts. Very few teachers actually judge the student, and most are very supportive. You need to check with your counselor to see if there is a "parents as teachers" program at your school. It is very helpful. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

don't listen to the rude people on here leaving you nasty comments.

the decision is entirely up to you and who you feel comfortable telling.

the only thing i can give for advice is, is that if it was me in the situation, i would probably tell teachers and the counselers just so they would know. i would probably think really hard about what "friends" to tell, because although you may trust a close friend, things can get around pretty quickly and if you aren't ready for the majority of the school to know yet, then i would just stick to telling adults. on the other hand, they will probably all know at some point anyway when you begin to show. it's a lot to think about.

good luck, best wishes.

Answer 7

I would wait to tell others until you have made it out of your first trimester. At 13 or so weeks, you can begin by telling your teachers and then your friends. Some people will congratulate you and others will think you're CRAZY! You'll get all kinds of advice. Just remember...thick skin. You got yourself into this and you'll be OK. You're going to have to be tough. Yes, people are going to "talk" and "point" and "make fun". Others will be jealous. You're going to become an "adult" very quickly. Act like one and ignore anyone who tries to upset you :) Good luck. Finish school, it is very important!

Answer 8

if you have in fact told the school counsellor then there is a pretty good chance the teachers already know. They do talk about students in the teachers lounge, so it would be no secret to the other teachers. Your classmates well don't tell them they will figure it out on their own.

Answer 9

yes you need to tell your teachers at least . The further along into your prengnacy the more often you'll need to go to the bathroom , and quickly. Also , you might end up feeling like crap by the end of the school day the further into your pregnancy and it would be wise to let your teachers know so that if say you need to go to the nurses office or just go home they wont be so inclined to give you crap about it. As far as the students, I would tell who ever you feel comfy telling. The rest can go screw themselves if they make fun of you or talk bad about you. At least your still going to school.

Answer 10

well its really up to you if you can handle the roomers and stuff then yes but if you cant hold it off and tell those whoneed to be told and then when its time you can do your work from home.i wont lie it will be hard especially being a teenager but you can pull through as so many do and im sure if you want to stay in school there is great support