the thing is i live with him and his family coz me and my mum dnt really get on
2007-09-20 02:59:59 · 63 answers · asked by ElSiE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he hit you, you should either get out or deliver and ultimatum that if he does anything threatening to you again, it's over. If you are in a relationship where your passions and arguments get too hot for you to handle without one of you resorting to physical force, then you're in a bad situation and need to get out.
My sister just ended things with her boyfriend, who started becoming violent. The kid seemed like a nice guy, but honestly once things are out of control to the point of violence, it's time to go.
Chances are, your boyfriend is bigger and much stronger than you are. You don't want to find yourself in a situation where he's mad enough to hit you more than once. Very scary, traumatizing, dangerous, and unnecessary.
I'd keep my eye out for a new place to live, or patch things up with your mother and get back home. Trust me, a boyfriend who starts showing signs of violence is bad news.
2007-09-20 03:05:17 · answer #1 · answered by BZR 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though you have definitely reached the end of the road with this one. He shouldn't have hit you and will probably do so again. You are going to have to make a few adjustments to your life which will be hard,but you owe it to yourself. You could try to sort things out with your Mum but if there is no chance of you going back home to live I'm sure Social Services will be able to find you somewhere to live.Good luck, don't let this man take away all your dignity.
2007-09-20 03:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by chezliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live with someone that hits you. You deserve so much more than that. Argueing is normal, everyone does it at some point in a relationship. I am at that stage right now with my bf......but we realize that we both have differences. If he EVER touched me in a way that I felt was abusive I would pack my stuff and leave. You have friends im sure, talk to them....they may help you get on your feet. In other words, this is your ONE AND ONLY chance at LIFE, do it right. Don't have any regrets. In 25 years, do you really want to be kicking yourself in the butt for staying with someone who is abusive??? You may not ever make it that far! Please do yourself and women around the world a favor, and get the F&CK out!
2007-09-20 03:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by NikkiButler 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any friends or other relatives you could stay with? It sounds like you should leave him because I don't see this getting better. A guy should never hit a woman. Never.
You could contact a shelter for women.
You could talk with this guy or try to. You need to find a way to not argue or take a break if it starts to get heated. Defenses need to be down so you can really talk and get to the heart of the matter. Have you thought of counseling? Is that an option? Do you belong to a Church? They can help.
2007-09-20 03:05:24 · answer #4 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no reason for any argument to come to blows. You need to evaluate your situation, and decide if you want to live in a relationship where you will be physically abused.
Also, examine why you and your mum don't get along. Does your relationship with him have anything to do with it? If so, leaving him would likely solve most of those problems. I don't know your situation with her, but talk to her. She very likely will be willing to take you back in, especially since you have now been hit by an abusive boyfriend. My advise is to leave him, now. Under protection of police would be best.
2007-09-20 03:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mnementh 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get out of that situation right away. If he hit you, he's going to do it again. He's a real s***. You need to move in with a girlfriend or another relative until you can get funds together to move out on your own. You are keeping yourself trapped right now. Also, some group therapy wouldn't hurt you. You need the confidence to know you don't deserve to be treated like that.
2007-09-20 03:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by ga.peach67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has no right to hit you and i bet he is so sorry now. Well fu cking tough s hit tell him to get lost and walk out the door but before you do give him a belt of something leave him know how it feels to be assaulted by someone you love. Good luck pet.
2007-09-21 01:05:28 · answer #7 · answered by Bombshell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hit you once, no matter what the reason, he will do it again. Do not give him the chance. Leave. Now. End the relationship permanently. Move back in with your mother and learn to deal with each other. NO woman, ever, ever, ever deserves to be abused. And any man that does it is a coward, a creep, whatever you want to call him, and deserves to be in jail.
2007-09-20 03:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by N L 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he hit you once, he will do it again. Leave now while you can. I know this from experience. My ex started off just arguing, then it was pushing, then hitting. Six years and two kids later, he almost killed me while I held my 4 yr old son. Thankfully I got away.
These men don't change...guess what, just the other day I got a call from my ex's new wife and he is doing the same to her.
Please, leave. You deserve better.
Mindi
2007-09-20 03:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Willow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He should not be hitting you! Now put that aside for a minute and think about the future. The relationships we have with others (girls, guys, teachers, ect...) should not be complicated in such a way that causes constant arguing. You will do whatever you do but he should not be hitting you.
2007-09-20 03:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Candi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋