I have this date tomorrow, I just wanna find out who she is...
2007-09-20 02:46:22 · 15 answers · asked by 76 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Yes. I am one. I have been drug free since I was 23. It takes a very strong person to overcome an addiction; if she's really clean, you'll be fine.
2007-09-20 02:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by FTW 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Yes. People change. I've had family members that have beat addictions, & their lives are better than ever. It takes a very strong, brave person to admit they have a problem, & to try to over come that problem.
It doesn't hurt to be cautious, and to take things slowly in the beginning. Give this girl credit for being honest and up front with about her addictions. Honesty is a key ingredient for a healthy relationship, & I'd say she's off to a good start by telling you in the first place. Sharing information like that isn't easy.
2007-09-20 10:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by RW 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Would you date someone that is recovering from cancer treatment....a diabetic that has to take insulin everyday?
Most people tend to disregard addiction as the disease it is.
It is recognized by the medical field as such.
If this person is "taking their insulin" and the steps to an addiction free life, there is absolutely no reason why I wouldn't date an "ex-junkie".
They are very human with a life-long disease that requires daily care
2007-09-20 10:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I myself, am a newly recovering alcoholic. I have a little over 65 days of sobriety. I have noticed that people in recovery are great people. Yes we all have pasts, but who else does not have a past. One common trait about the alcoholic/alcoholic in recovery, is that we are co-dependent people for the most part, if we were not co-dependent why among other reasons would we be alcoholic/addicts. The people that are in recovery are very smart, loving people, we have worked great strides to battle our illnesses, we have had to surrender our pride and become humble to the care of other people and for that we can give of ourselves as freely as needed or wanted. Therefore, I, myself, would date an alcoholic/addict that is in recovery, if i could find one that I liked. :)
2007-09-20 10:46:05 · answer #4 · answered by kevin t 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yep..i dated two actually..one was into heroin and the other well she tried everything under the sun i guess...what matters is that it was in their past and they didn't bring it with them into our relationship..we got to know each other at that moment i didn't know them when they were junkies so i don't know what to compare their past to how they are now..all i know was the person i was with at the moment and we got along great both relationships were awesome and drugs were not a part of our daily lives so it was a good experience if i were in your shoes don't judge them for their past..some do drugs others do sex all in all everyone has some things in their past what matters is the fact the the EX part is in the word as in EX-junkie just like a bad EX-lover you were addicted to well its a part of your past you had good times with it was good for the time being but it was an unhealthy relationship and that is why they are your EX-g/f or lover..same same but slightly different in concept..lol..good luck to you both..
2007-09-20 10:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Charmer 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how much sobriety they had and how serious they were... I would not have an issue dating one. Everyone makes bad choices in life, as long as they are righting their wrongs then is should be ok!
P.S. Happy Birthday Sober Libra! Congrats on 16 years... I am sure that was a toughe road but I am proud of you!
2007-09-20 10:17:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Part of the equation would be how far in the past the junkie experience was, and what she does- career? College? (to show if she's pointed in a positive direction).
2007-09-20 09:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a recovering addict/alcoholic. On October 1, I will celebrate 16 years clean and sober. Exactly what is it that you are worried about?
Oh, and to answer your question, I married to a recovering addict.
*****
Rayhab is correct. I contracted HepC. I am clear right now. My brother died from it. But you're not even dating yet. Not to worry about it.
2007-09-20 09:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by WildOne 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
So you have already answered the question for yourself. I'd date one, not sure if I would let it develop into a relationship but that is what dating is all about.
2007-09-20 09:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
They were obviousl honest enough to tell you...I woul dput that asdie and see how I feel about the person as they are now. Everyone has a past!
2007-09-20 09:56:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋