Both are driving me mad. My son wont go to the toilet in time so pees everywhere. The husband gets angry and shouts at the boy.
Both are driving me nuts.
2007-09-20 02:45:20 · 34 answers · asked by Clare S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if dad stopped yelling, then maybe the boy would be better at pottying.
he's making it traumatic and therefore he is having problems.
so, in my book...dad would "get it" first and then the son would "get it" last
2007-09-20 02:54:19 · answer #1 · answered by joey322 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be patient with your son. He is still young and may not have full control over his bladder yet. If you are worried about it watch for signs of when he has to go and tell him to go to the bathroom. If you are really worried about it than take him to the doctor. Just remember children will do things at their own pace and you can't force a child to use the bathroom it will just backfire.
As for the husband tell him to loosen up and start helping with the little guy. If he is that concerned about it than maybe he should take his son into the bathroom with him when he goes to show him it is ok to use the toilet and how to use it. That is if he all ready doesn't know how. You need to explain to your husband that he needs to relax let your son go at his own pace. If he doesn't like it than he needs to just not worry about his child if all he is doing is yelling and get out.
2007-09-20 02:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be lacking in the training department. Four is much too old not to be toilet trained -- that should have been accomplished by age two. No wonder the poor kid is having problems. Unfortunately, you are also failing to train your husband. Rather than feeling driven nuts, it would make much more sense to tell him what you would like for him to say and do in the situation and ask him to agree to do so.
2007-09-20 02:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This has been a serious discussion and I do not feel that I can add much.
A way to make peeing fun [for men and boys of all ages] is to put a table tennis ball in the toilet bowl. The male aims at it and has fun chasing it round the bowl!
2007-09-20 07:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Davy B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your child is 4 years old. at this age most children have accidents purely because they have other things on their little minds. i can assure you that spider man or power rangers are a lot more important than going to the loo! your husband should know better than to shout at your son as this can lead to your son fretting and becoming frightened if he wets himself. what your husband is doing, whether he knows he is doing it or not, is actually mental abuse. try to explain to your husband that shouting at your son is really only exasperating the problem. things will soon settle down if the shouting stops. if this problem continues it may be a good idea to have him checked out by your GP as he may have an underlaying problem. good luck.
2007-09-20 03:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby has no patience? Lots of men usually don't have too much to begin with. The child is 4 and should be potty trained by now. Pullups until gets self control? Could be lashing out.
My son had problems making it to the bathroom, took him to doctor, come to find he had bladder problems. Nephrologist/Urologist- son was on meds and strict regiment. Had a "potty' schedule whether he had to go or not.
2007-09-20 02:53:46 · answer #6 · answered by tbird 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The husband. The boy is 4 and gets distracted and that's y he pees everywhere. Tell ur husband that him yelling still isn't stopping him from pissing everywhere so knock it off. My daughter is 3 and we're potty training 2 and she waits till the last minute, just b patient and tune ur hubby out.
2007-09-20 02:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No wonder he still pees all over and will do as long as the shouting continues. Negative attention is better than no attention....and it is a weapon .....effective too by the sound of it. Everybody is playing with everybody elses mind.....try talking with maturity and resolving calmly..
2007-09-20 05:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how mature you son is and apparently your son isn't and wasn't raised fast enough. By the age of 2, children should know how to hold their pee and go when they need to. Because you haven't taught your child, your child should go first.
2007-09-20 10:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The husband - as the boy's Father *he* should be teaching the boy to go in time and taking him in too if the boy is afraid for some reason (one of mine was when the pipes gurgled!) - after all your son is going to learn better how to do it properly from him than from you!
2007-09-20 03:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take care of the boy first, then let your husband know he's acting like a child and need to stop it.
2007-09-20 02:55:32 · answer #11 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋