My ex and I had known each other for about 3-4 years before we officially went out as adults before college. We broke up so we could attend college in other states. It wasnt a bad break up, he cried alot over leaving me, I still am upset. We broke up two years ago. I got into a rebound relat and am now married with a child. He still speaks to me and will see me from time to time. When he sees me he acknowledges that he has/had feelings for me and wants to cuddle with me and treat me like old times. I dont know why. I gave him a love letter card before he left and he left it in my car. My husband says that right there means he never liked me anyway but the guy says thats not true. Is it possible to hide feelings from someone like that? Is it possible that he and I can get back together after my hubby and I divorce? My husband doesnt treat me right, etc. How can I get over this guy? My husband says I have a mental problem of this.
1-2 have had recurring dream of ex and hubby handshaking
2007-09-20 02:29:49 · 9 answers · asked by kkecs07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have had this feeling (intuitive here) that my ex is worried about me or something. Never had this before.
2007-09-20 02:30:20 · update #1
forget the ex and work on your marriage; you both have grown and changed and it will NOT be the same as it was when you dated before college.......forget him, it's a fantasy
2007-09-20 02:33:18 · answer #1 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in an unhappy marriage and are thinking of a happier time. The guy left the card and your married. I find it strange that your discussing this with your husband as what do you hope to accomplish? Was the relationship that great or is it that you think about how it you would have liked it to be. Either way you need to decide if you want to stay married or not. Life is not a fairy tale and your ex is not prince charming who is coming on a white horse to rescue you.
To bad there is no such thing as happily ever after.
2007-09-20 02:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're living in a fantasy land.
Work on your marriage.
The grass ALWAYS looks greener on the other side.
Just be happy with what you have.
You say your husband treats you pretty badly, but YOU TREAT HIM TERRIBLY. Imagine how you'd feel if he was constantly chasing after some chick from his past? You'd want to cut his man parts off.
GROW UP already - you have a husband that would probably take very good care of you if you'd just let him.
The past is the past for a reason, leave it there!
2007-09-20 02:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your Ex wanted to be with you - he would be with you. There would be nothing that would keep him from being with you.
Your husband sounds like he loves you. He sounds like you are driving him crazy and hurting him with all the talk about your ex. I feel for your husband. He must feel worthless. I also feel really bad for your child. Why do we mess our children up with all of our confusion?
If you don't feel like you can give up your obsession with your ex, you might want to try a counselor. Honestly, you will be a much happier person, if you live in the present and forget this guy who gave you up...
I truly wish you and your family happiness. Don't give up on your family.
2007-09-20 02:45:06 · answer #4 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You live in a fantasy world. That much is true. You have little integrity, and that's a serious character flaw. You sound awfully immature.
2007-09-20 03:33:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are still deeply in love with your ex, and you do not your love your husband, I think you only got with your current husband becuase you needed a rebound, and you didn't want to be alone at the tim(you rushed into a relationship to quickly. Plus if your husband doesn't treat you right, and you don't have that much feelings with him, you need to leave him anyway. Talk to your ex, see if he is serious about hooking up, leave your husband and go be with your true love!!!!!
2007-09-20 02:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋
Ever seen 'Gone with the wind', its only a fantasy. Things are meant to be for a reason.
2007-09-20 02:47:59 · answer #7 · answered by tanitious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to break up your family because of an obsessed old b/f that you are dreaming about? Grow up.
2007-09-20 02:34:21 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to divorce your husband, do so for the reason that he is treating you badly- not for your ex. What if he disappoints you after you have divorced. Dont do it for him, do it for you.
2007-09-20 02:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋