My landlord, who I see on a daily basis for I rent a room in his house, always talks about his sex life & lack of. He is 58 & newly divorced & has flat out told me how great it would be if....
I have NO desire to talk, let alone think, about that subject due to a couple of "incidents" that happened in my distant past. Just about every sentence is filled with either a crude joke about sex or sexual in nature. I have tried various ways to get him to understand this is not something I wish to discuss & I didn't rent this room because of you but it's location & how nice it is. All to no avail. I have even gotten mad & told him just to go pay for it & he said he didn't do that sort of thing! I am at wits end here for I don't have the means to move at this point, but by the first of the year I will.
Need advice here & please no smart remarks, this is a painful subject for me.
2007-09-20 00:54:23 · 24 answers · asked by dragon 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Senior Citizens
Just tell him "sounds like a personal problems to me" and walk away from him, lock the door to your room. You can tell him you don't give a rats behind about his personal life, you have strictly a landlord tenant relationship any violation will cause court action
Any eviction proceeding due to this cause will cost him treble damages
2007-09-20 06:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by slk29406 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like your landlord until someone brought to my attention that I talked WAY too much. Mr Smith I would rather not talk about these subjects they make me uncomfortable you are my landlord and I would prefer if we have a business relationship. I know what it was like to have shotty landlords that always wanted their rent but never would fix things and when they did fix things it was done half a$$ed.
After you say the following to the landlord walk away and go about your business. You have the right to be treated with integrity as a renter. PS On a side note maybe he would have more of a sex life if he respected his woman and respected himself they fact that he is whining and complaining to you shows lack of class and respect.
You will get a better place renting from others has draw backs I live in an apartment complex now. I go to the office pay my rent close the door and go about my business. I am proud of you for standing up to your landlord. Go on line and do a search for complexes in your area you want to live, you will be pleasantly surprised what is out there:) Best wishes and I do know how you feel. E4G
2007-09-20 09:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm not sure if he's coming on to you, or just being crude.
Either way though, I think that you, at the very least, have a sexual harassment problem. Is there some legal support you could get? A strongly worded letter from a lawyer can usually work wonders. Some of them will do it for free if you explain your situation.
You also don't say how old you are, but perhaps there is a senior center near you that has someone who could act as an advocate for you if money is a factor.
2007-09-20 08:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by hypno_toad1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From the frying pan into the fire Dragon? (I betcha that bezzoom who withheld your mail is looking really good right about now?!)
I don't know what to tell you. I know you were so looking forward to living in your beloved mountains, and now you end up with this creep.
I find the only plausible suggestion from the ones already given you is to go to your local police station (and I guess that would be a long way from where you live) and ask THEM about what you should do. Maybe one of them would be willing to speak to this guy on your behalf? It can't hurt anyway...at least you would be giving them a heads up of the trouble you are experiencing with this guy, if the situation should (heaven forbid) escalate in future.
What is that saying? Third times the charm?! Maybe you should get out looking for a new place to live before the end of the year?
2007-09-20 09:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Susie Q 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him its against your religion out of wedlock, if that doesn't shut him up, and makes him want to marry you(which I doubt) then just say you are in the midst of a long divorce. He doesn't have to know what you mean, you can't help it if he assumes anything. It doesn't have to be a real divorce with a person, it could be a divorce from chocolate, or cigarettes etc...give it a try it works for me when people talk about that sort of thing and I dont want to hear it. If he ask's what religion, its easy just say catholic, or prettymuch any religion says you should be married before sex.
2007-09-20 08:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by applebeer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I would tell this man that you find his remarks threatening and that you should not have to feel threatened to rent his room. This sounds like it is a tough situation for you and it sounds like you are very frustrated about this individuals lack of understanding about your feelings. I agree with you that it is best to leave when you have the funds to do so...but if this becomes too much you may have to call a domestic violence shelter and go there to receive help and get back on your feet...the shelter is not just for women who are in marriage or partnered situations...I went to one when I was a 20 something after I moved home to mom and step dad who decided they were going to "beat me" after I did something they did not like...I had had enough of that sort of thing with them and called a shelter and moved out of my mothers home to atheshelter and dealt with some things and then got a job and got on my feet.
2007-09-20 08:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by Patti_Ja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already tried various ways of telling him, and you've already tried getting mad at him, the best way to get him to stop talking about it is probably just to tell him to "STFU..."
sure it'll more than likely get you evicted, but you probably SHOULD find a new place to stay if you feel so uncomfortable there. I hope he's someone that you can trust, though. Pretty dangerous for a single girl to be renting directly from a guy's house....
2007-09-20 08:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by Raku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No smart remarks here for I really do empathise with you on this - and it is an awful situation that you find yourself in.
You write well. Would you think about writing a letter to him saying just what you have told us?
Surely - unless the man is insane - his kinder heart would be touched and at the very least he would leave you alone - at best he should aplogise.
Stay strong brave dragon - take deep lungfulls of fire to shoot at him if he continues to misbehave!
Good luck sweetie!
2007-09-20 08:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dragon, the time to set limits was when this started. Let's hope it's not too late.
"Mr. Smith, this is a really uncomfortable thing for me to hear. Your sexual satisfaction isn't any of my business and not something I want to hear about. Keep it to yourself, okay? Now, did you see the tree on the corner's already turning yellow?"
"Joe, you seem to be clueless about how inappropriate it is for you to be telling a person half/a third your age such intimate fantasies. I mean, come on! If my brother/dad/boyfriend knew you talked about this stuff to me every single time I see you, you'd get your lights punched out. So knock it off, before I have to tell him."
2007-09-20 08:01:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to be rude, abusive or threatening like some of these answers seem to be encouraging you to be. Simply say, if he starts in again, that you do not want to hear this sort of conversation. Period. If he does not stop, walk away.
However, if this man will not leave you alone, moving might be the only option. Do not leave yourself in a dangerous situation, and this could turn into one.
2007-09-20 10:07:12 · answer #10 · answered by Esther 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋