I 25 years old been going out with my boyfriend for 11months i love him so much. I been in other longer relationships but i never felt this way about any one, we don't live together he say he love me but all he do is argue with me, when we talk over the phone he disrespect me to the fullest in person he treat me like theirs no one else he wants but me. it very hard to just end this relationship i try it i was more hurt apart so we got back together please tell me i really need your help
2007-09-20 00:15:34 · 11 answers · asked by Aries 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be glad you do not live with him. If you did it would only get worse,and the abuse would turn physical..not just painful hurtful words over the phone.
Find someone who will appreciate you,and lose this person who I will not even call a man.
He does not appreciate you for your worth. Get out of this relationship while the getting out is good.
Tell him that if he is angry to go work out in the gym,and take his aggresions out on a punching bag not you.
Good Luck!
2007-09-20 00:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by Dfirefox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunnie, look love can make the biggest asses out of people. I warn you now to either tell him to get over his immature argumentative attitude and insecurities or the next thing is for the ultimate -he hit me. Due to the fact he already disrespects you to the fullest and is quite possesive those are the first major signs of an abusive relationship. The other thing is that if you let him treat you as an inferior, when you are his equal, then you need to let him know before you and after, you had, have, and still will have it going on. Do not let him destroy your self- esteem or make you feel scared of him that is not what love is about. It is about respect, dedication, support, understanding, trust, loyalty, cooperation, and if you add forever that is marriage. Look up the info on abusive relationships on the web. Think about how deep you love goes- Could you be with a guy like this forever? Would you wnat a child to be like him if you had one with him? Well evealuate hard and best wishes -MD
2007-09-20 09:41:37 · answer #2 · answered by mississippidiamond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is your b/f under any possible tension? it's a bit odd that he's insulting you over the phone but nice in person,you need to discuss your concerns with him and let him know exactly how you feel about it,if there's no change in the relationship then suggest a time out period,this may make him wake up to himself,if all else fails,end it,who knows,one day you's might move in together & he might start hurting you,it will be harder for you then.
2007-09-20 07:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's just put it this way:
Reading right between the lines, he primarily stays with you for the sex.
That's probably it in a nutshell.
You have more feelings of love, and basically, cannot do without him, but you must break free of this relationship.
Perhaps you need to shift to another country or entire new environment and mix in with some interest group.
2007-09-20 08:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by dr c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bottom line. If you think he treats you like crap and you put up with it then you deserve it. I don't think it hurts so much for you two to be apart I think it's just easier to go back to something your familiar with rather than look for someone who will treat you the way a woman is supposed to be treated. With RESPECT.
2007-09-27 15:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Angela C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if hes this way and not in person can you imagine what he'd be like with you around. hey person get with it you need to realize your life could be in jeapodarly get going and don't look back thi s is not something you should feel lightly maybe you have low esteem or something which could be but there are so many out there loving men and you dont' need this mess. take care.
2007-09-23 21:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep on believing that he loves you even though he is mean to you, then no amount of help outside can penetrate you since you are convinced that he loves you. A person who loves does no harm, always respect, always thinks of what is best for the other person. In your case, he definitely doesn't love you.
2007-09-28 06:42:32 · answer #7 · answered by tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is just best to end it, before it is to late. Love is not something that you fall into. It is based on mutual repect and understanding of each other. He abuses you verbally now, later it could be physically. Be careful !!!!!!
2007-09-28 03:40:13 · answer #8 · answered by Burr H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you wasting your time with someone who disrespects you? because you were lonely without him????dump th jerk and go through the time of mourning, then find someone who is WORTHY of you, you can and should do better for yourself
2007-09-28 06:43:59 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT EXACTLY IS IT ABOUT THE DISRESPECT THAT YOU LIKE FROM HIM......THAT MAKES YOU LOVE HIM SO MUCH?
2007-09-25 22:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by cherokee squaw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋