I was wondering about other people. Before the baby, we held hands ALL the time (in public, in the car, the movies, the mall).
2007-09-19 21:10:25 · 16 answers · asked by keri_ricker 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all the time...
2007-09-19 23:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We hold hands all the time - we are soppy romantics.
I would imagine after having a baby your hands are full both literally and metaphorically. I would imagine when I have mine we'll not so much. Most of the time I would imagine one of you is holding the baby, the baby's things, the baby's food, etc. etc.
I would imagine both of you are very tired so you'll both be a little snappy and grumpy and possibly need a little space.
I would say this reduction in hand holding is not an indication on how you feel about each other but more on your situation.
Take time to relax and be together, just the two of you and I'm sure things will improve.
2007-09-20 01:42:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I did all of the time then one day it just stopped, I asked her why and she said she did not feel the need to (we were married for 15 years) our relationship was deteriorating, but I think the lack of intimacy helped make it worse. My new girlfriend and I hold hands all of the time, touch each other even if we are sitting on the couch, I enjoy that much better.
2007-09-20 02:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by mikeehr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you are waiting for him to take your hand am I right. If so you could be waiting forever and have you come right out and ask him why he doesn't hold your hand any longer. All you need to do is take his hand and hold it, it's that simple but most women won't do that they think it's the mans job to start everything. I got news for some of you women, men are getting tired of initiating everything they like to lay back and be taken care of for a change. Try it with your man watch what happens.
2007-09-19 21:28:39 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to understand, life has transitioned for the both of u, u will need time to stay in the moment where u r now, this is a small thing to be concerned about at this time, u have a baby and your priorities have shifted, give yourselves time to absorb and adapt to the change, then re-kindle what you have, before the baby, (keyword,have). Sometimes, we can create un-healthy situations in our relationships with insignificant worries, what type of father is he is a main concern to focus on. Good luck, and, give it time, a baby shifts things.
2007-09-19 21:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by yawhaneeh53 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I hold hands all the time when we go places, but we don't hold hands everytime we go out. Try initiating the hold first, he should get the picture.
2007-09-19 21:29:15 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did YOU act before you had the baby?
Not while or during, how were you before the baby............think................?
If you have changed radically, he is going to need time to adjust, he may retaliate against your new position. Most couples fight over the bathroom, kids, money, etc....because they have no discussions previous to marriage. Does this make sense?
2007-09-19 21:26:51 · answer #7 · answered by grey smily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every day. Married 18 years!
2007-09-20 00:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the time :) Whenever we can.
If he's not holding your hand as much anymore, just bump into him and play with his fingers and smile at him. He'll hold your hand then :)
2007-09-19 21:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Clarity. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to discuss this with him. Maybe he needs a little encouragement to get back to the romance.
2007-09-19 21:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋